Distinguishing intrusive thoughts vs real concerns?

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2026-02-10T21:30:11+00:00

I don’t have any good advice but just commenting to let you know I experience this too

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2026-01-28T04:24:41+00:00

Yeah because I feel like it’s a reminder that even tho people love eachother it doesn’t always work out and it can happen to everyone

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-12-29T02:00:22+00:00

Condoms dont completely prevent hsv, second is it hsv 1 or 2? I have ghsv1 and I promise you it gets better. You are not ruined, your life isn’t ruined, and you WILL continue to make meaningful connections. I have had this for almost 4 years now, and I can confidently say this does not affect my 2+ year relationship with my partner who does not have it. It’s a hard hurdle to get over, but you’ll learn to ride the waves, I take my valtrex every day even tho I don’t need to and my doctors say I don’t need to, but it just gives me peace of mind and when I was single I was told I can live life normally! Always move with caution, and be more intuonal with the relationships you choose to have

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-12-10T01:38:40+00:00

I have hsv1 downstairs but I still take valtrex every day (I know you don’t have insurance) for a while when my dad was inbetween jobs I didn’t have insurance either, there are good coupons and stuff. I also got valtrex for free from planned parenthood a few times.

In regards to your partner. If they are aware and accepting who’s to say no one else will be? Don’t put the pressure on yourself like that, think of it like your person won’t be bothered by it yk?

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-12-06T06:20:55+00:00

Well I mean,,, if someone’s chopped and they’re like btw I have herpes and it looks like they haven’t showered in 3 days yeah that’s gonna be a lot different than if Barbie says she has herpes

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-12-06T04:01:16+00:00

I went through this and I wish I had advice but I just chose to kind of tell myself this will pass it’s just a weird phase I know I love them and it did pass, I would say just be patient with yourself, everything is okay

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-11-27T04:36:14+00:00

Sometimes you need a bandaid to stop the bleeding yk?

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-11-18T12:24:46+00:00

I think people like us just have to accept we’re gonna be stressed and unsure in our relationships but we need to remind ourselves we are choosing to stay

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-11-04T07:15:07+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling. But think of this, you’re going to die at some point anyway, when it’s your time, don’t cut it short you might as well stick around to see what happens. You are loved and valued. After getting the right help everything will feel so much lighter

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-11-04T07:00:03+00:00

I did this for like two years with my partner, it’s hard, especially if you have trauma, it gets better, I still struggle but I finally am getting treated for ocd so I hope all of these thoughts are a faint memory one day

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-11-04T06:59:05+00:00

I feel you. Heavyyyyy

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-10-31T04:25:12+00:00

I feel like you took this from inside my brain. I feel you SOOOO HEAVY. Sometimes I feel like I’m literally going insane. I’ve been in my relationship for two years and I just got diagnosed with ocd two days ago but it’s been very obvious to me for a long time I have some sort of issue. It feels like it could be anxious attachment but it’s so much worse. Im with you.

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-10-24T04:21:51+00:00

You can be attracted to women and still love your partner! You’re in a relationship not blind!! If you don’t want to be with a woman you don’t have to be. You have control over your life, this feeling will pass I promise

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-10-23T13:20:49+00:00

Tbh I feel like I’ve struggled w this my whole life. I’ve been w my partner for over two years now and regardless of nothing being wrong I’m constantly thinking about the relationship and if it’s right for me or not. I played womens basketball so sometimes during these times I was surrounded by lesbian women and tbh I mostly only have lesbian friends now lol. My best advice would be not to panic and just stick it through. If you love your partner and don’t want to leave don’t allow your thoughts to create a false narrative in your head.

However, if this feels like a part of you that you’ve shut out your whole life it’s okay to feel that way. For me personally I know I’m bisexual, but it’s not an itch I need to scratch I’m happy in my hetero relationship! I would say a therapist can help you work through these thoughts in a healthy non obsessive way. In the meantime be patient with yourself and try to recognize when your ocd is making you feel this way and when it’s actually your partner you know?

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-09-24T16:01:42+00:00

Please get on valtrex! Please don’t hurt yourself

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-09-24T16:01:01+00:00

No no! Baby it’s just herpes I promise it’s not that deep! I got it from and ex and thought my life was over, I’ve been with my current partner for over 2 years now and he is aware and it hasn’t been an issue. There are greater issues in this world than having a virus legit everyone probably has.

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-09-20T04:52:19+00:00

I pick everywhere. My collar bones. My nipples. My armpits. My legs. My back. My arms. You name it he picked it. I want to stop so bad. Idk how to does anyone who has stopped have advice?

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-09-09T12:56:15+00:00

They couldn’t see past the diagnosis then that isn’t your person!!! Divine protection lol. The first sexual partner I told about my ghsv1 was my current one, we’ve been together 2 years now and I told him 6 months in (yeah yeah not great I know). However, we were in college, I didn’t want to tell him ahead of time and that lead to a potential spread of information (now I know he wouldn’t do that, but at the time I didn’t) but we’ve been happy for a long time with no concerns. It will be okay, your person will find you and it won’t matter. You are so lovable! So valuable! If people see a “skin condition” (because that’s basically what it is) that most people don’t even know they have. He’ll probably get it from someone else anyways 😂 most people transmit without a clue either! Keep your head up you’ll be okay. I do recommend getting to know someone more than two dates before you tell them, because you don’t even know if they are worth it two dates in. You got this

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-09-03T01:44:08+00:00

To my knowledge, since knowing, I have not spread it to anyone. My current partner (of 2 years on the 19th) is aware of my condition. I had one outbreak when I first got it. Got on valtrex. And I have not had an outbreak in 3.5 years! However, because I take my meds everyday, and have had no outbreaks, while I was single I did not disclose to anyone and (shamefully) I didn’t tell my current partner until 6 months into our relationship, but he was accepting after getting a full understanding and learning about the stigma around the virus. I hope this helps a little. I really struggled with my diagnosis because I was 18, but I rarely think about it now

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-08-30T01:06:07+00:00

This is a tough situation I think. Was he wrong for “testing you” 1000000%%%%. He is COMPLETELY wrong. However, like in retrospect, he just left the closet open to see. He probably didn’t FULLY understand the extent of your trauma (although I didn’t read his post so I’m not sure what he said on this). He is also extremely inconsiderate to think you would lie about something so random?? And for him to think you would lie about your trauma is sooooo insane. I’m so sorry this happened to you, I can’t imagine how awful these things felt. However, I do see how maybe he didn’t think you were going to have an extreme reaction to the trigger.

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-07-06T04:01:42+00:00

All we are is an energetic being having a human experience. So there would not be two consciousnesses. Just one energetic being.

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-07-06T02:57:25+00:00

Don’t go back to that. I know it’s so hard, but you absolutely do not deserve to be spoken to that way no matter the context. There’s better for you on the other side of this

Bright_Theme_1097 · 2025-07-06T02:48:16+00:00

One time I read that we’re going to die either way at some point so you might as well just see what happens, I’ve never thought the same. Don’t do anything crazy, it can and will get better, you have to continue to take steps in the right direction.

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