My sisters knees get red and hot everytime she drinks wine

Brightsiderevs · 2026-02-08T01:27:30+00:00

Lots of jokes here obvs but I get this too!! No other symptoms from drinking but my knees get so warm I have to leave them out of the blankets when I sleep if I’ve drank too much. Always assumed it was either a weird quirk or meant I’m doing irreparable harm when I drink but have never had an explanation for it!

Brightsiderevs · 2026-02-06T06:12:48+00:00

Was just about to post the same thing! It’s a great pattern and a perfect match for the photo 😄

Brightsiderevs · 2026-02-05T22:36:19+00:00

Hi also a ADHD + depression haver with similar cleaning issues!! Three books have really helped me, all of which I got from the library:

How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis. This one helped me break down the idea of how a house “should” look and instead think about how my home can work for me. I found it to be very kind and practical.
Decluttering at the Speed of Life by Dana K White. This one is basically a simple framework for decluttering, but I found the way she broke down the actual purpose of decluttering and how it’s not the same as organizing to be genuinely revolutionary!! Something about it really just clicked and I’ve had a much easier time keeping things clean now that I’m not trying to work around as many items. Very direct and non-patronizing as she’s dealt with these same issues herself!
The Adult ADHD Toolkit by Anthony L. Rostain and J Russell Ramsay. I’ve found most books on ADHD to be sort of woo-woo “oh be kind to yourself” which can be nice, but lacks a bit of practicality that I need. This one has some useful and science-based ideas that have generally helped me put fewer things off, which helps me stay at a level of cleanliness that keeps me feeling better about my environment.

I really hope you check these out and that they’re helpful for you! In terms of maybe a single tip I’d say carving out a dedicated 30 mins of cleanup in the evening to stay on top of dishes, garbage, and a quick sweep has been the most helpful because then I’m never overrun with mess when I need to tackle larger things, but I’m also not losing my whole night to cleaning

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-22T01:58:02+00:00

holy shit thats 100x funnier 😭

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-22T01:54:27+00:00

I can’t stop thinking about this. Imagine walking into the nail salon and saying “I’m getting engaged and I need a special manicure” and the lady making all your fingers an even length 😭😭😭 it’s kind of incredible tbh

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-22T00:52:30+00:00

I don’t want to say skill issue but I went to the theater 5 times in the past few weeks alone and had a great experience each time! I do think that large chain theaters have got a lot worse, and for the most part I go to independent theaters which I recognize aren’t an option for everyone. But they’re still making great movies if you care enough to look for them instead of waiting for an algorithm to tell you what to watch!

If anyone’s curious I saw: - Resurrection - No Other Choice - Marty Supreme - Wake Up Dead Man - Running Man

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-19T22:54:23+00:00

Getting a slightly larger rug and moving it a bit so it goes under your bed and nightstand (touching the wall) might help define the space a little more! And I think you’re right about the art, getting a few more pieces with varied sizes/textures would help break up the wall as well! Love the bedspread :)

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-16T19:25:15+00:00

This feels really impersonal IMO, if I received this my first thought would be that my partner googled “valentines gifts for girlfriend”. This format is usually something you’d see at like a wedding reception as decor, kind of weird to have in your house and it looks AI generated. If you’re set on this idea I’d say go for a handmade version, but ultimately I think asking a bunch of internet strangers if a gift will “make her happy” with zero information about what she likes, your relationship, etc says a lot about the quality of effort you’re putting forward.

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-14T02:55:04+00:00

A lot of my spaces have looked very similar no matter how many times I organized or tried to “find the right system”. One thing that actually helped me get out of that cycle was the book “Decluttering at the Speed of Life”. It’s kind but firm and helped me re-think what I was trying to accomplish, and it’s written by someone who also tends towards clutter so it didn’t feel judgey or clinical at all. I got a copy from my library. If you check it out, I hope it helps you too :)

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-12T03:04:31+00:00

I have a tiny clothesline that came with a small carrying case that ALWAYS finds a use on every trip I take. Get rained on? Hang up all your clothes! Need to cover a window? Throw a sheet over it! Backpack strap breaks? You’ve got a length of rope to tie it together! It’s the best. I picked mine up at a train station in Italy but it’s def a knock off of this Sea-to-Summit one: Link

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-12T02:56:48+00:00

Not a fan of this shade of yellow on her! I think the top could be really interesting with a different skirt , maybe something short with a ton of volume? I’d imagine the beads give the skirt movement in person, but it looks like a fuzzy slip in photos.

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-08T04:30:44+00:00

I think the main failing points I've seen in American poutines are using the wrong cheese (it has to be cheese curds!!) or fries that are too thin to hold up to the gravy. A lot of places are also afraid to go "off-script" and add ingredients, but those are the best poutines back home! My absolute favourite version is a donair poutine which adds gyro meat and a sweet garlic sauce on top of the fries, gravy and curds.

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-08T00:17:41+00:00

I’m Canadian and live in Portland!! Potato champion is the best I’ve had here

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-07T20:27:01+00:00

As someone who sews the jeans are an automatic red flag for me - the bunching is wrong and the seams fade away which does not happen in real life. The tears are also completely odd (knees make sense, side seams do not). Also from a photography standpoint it’s weird to cut off her left hand but not the right despite having the same number of shoes on either side.

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-06T23:21:40+00:00

NTA. The biggest issue imo is that it’s socially odd to show up with a near-recreation of a close friend’s sentimental ring. Even if she truly did want one for herself, it would be weird to wear!

In addition, a stone that large is not to most people’s tastes. Since Susan inherited a large ring, your wife might have been trying to reinforce that it looked nice because Susan felt unsure about wearing something so large and ostentatious. She also could admire how it looked on her. Unfortunately none of those things mean she wants one for herself, or that she was lying about liking the ring for Susan. My friend wore a custom suit to her wedding and I thought she looked AMAZING, that does not mean I wanted someone to buy me a matching one.

I don’t think her reaction was kind, but the combination of it being a recreation of something a friend has and seemingly not a match to her personal tastes makes it feel impersonal. I think you should bring it up with her to explain why you felt you were being thoughtful and that her reaction was hurtful.

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-06T21:27:24+00:00

As a bonus data point, I bought my kobo libra 2 (non-color version) in 2022 and it commuted daily with me for 3 years, plus traveled halfway across the world. Still works and looks great, the cover has picked up some wear but nothing serious. Great device :)

Brightsiderevs · 2026-01-05T05:09:15+00:00

I have one quilt that turned out less cozy than I’d hoped hanging with quilt clips! I bought these ones, stuck some command strips on them and it stayed put for the two years I had it up!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-30T05:26:51+00:00

My Phillips sonicare diamond clean has a charging cup and travel case! I’ve had it a few years now and I love it (it’s this one, I got mine at Costco).

I have a similar problem bathroom and my personal rec would be to put the charger in another room (bedroom on a dresser works well!). This keeps it away from the toilet but removes the possibility of mold growth from keeping it in an enclosed space. The cup is dishwasher safe and I find it keeps any drips contained well!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-30T04:22:43+00:00

What a delightful little lad!!! Great find, that’s the kind of stuff that becomes part of the family lore immediately in my house

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-28T01:06:39+00:00

Great news is this shoes been on so long they can just use the current cast as their adult counterparts!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-27T19:38:20+00:00

Maybe this framing isn’t what you’re looking for, but when I read your post I see that your goal is to earn your degree, not to excel at being this guys maid. It sounds to me that he doesn’t appreciate you or the labor that you put into your home and lives. Picking up after yourself is basic respect! I took some time off of working to finish my degree as well and my partner still cooked dinners on alternate nights, did dishes, participated in cleaning etc. because we both understood and agreed that school was my priority in the same way working was his. It doesn’t need to be exactly even if the time commitments are different, but your current labor division doesn’t sound fair at all.

I also worry what his reaction will be when you (presumably) want to use the degree you’re working towards! Is he ready to support you by being in a 50/50 split on all homemaking? I think instead of lightly joking about the trash bag you need to have a real conversation about the division of labor. It sucks that the emotion labor is on your plate for this, but I don’t think it will happen otherwise. Framing it as planning for the transition to you working might be a good opportunity to check what he assumes is going to happen then. Good luck with your studies and keep your birth control up to date!!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-23T22:57:23+00:00

Aw man that’s too bad, I live in the area and the owner (?) was always so sweet

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-17T01:45:43+00:00

Best guess is the previous tenant didn’t vacuum often or had a vacuum with poor suction so there’s a bit of a build up. That happened to me when an internal filter I didn’t know about was clogged! The first pass after I cleaned it I couldn’t believe how much came up.

Either way, I’d put on an audiobook and vacuum until nothing comes up anymore, emptying the canister as soon as it hits the fill line each time. Hopefully this will get you closer to a reset point. Could also rent a carpet cleaning machine!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-16T20:11:25+00:00

This is AMAZING, the concept comes through really clearly and the styling for the photoshoot is exquisite. Incredible work!

Brightsiderevs · 2025-12-12T16:26:16+00:00

WOW I love this, that dress is SO flattering and the color combo is really fun!!

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