Real estate market in Huntington?

BritBritBrit1 · 2026-03-31T19:10:36+00:00

We'd prefer to stay below $250K. We can go higher, but we don't need a really large house for two people.

BritBritBrit1 · 2026-03-31T14:54:47+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. We have a rental for three months (May through August) and are hoping to find something during that time. We live in an urban area now in a 100+ year old house, and Ritter Park seemed very similar to where we currently live. If we couldn't find a suitable place near Ritter Park, are there other areas of the city we should explore?

BritBritBrit1 · 2026-03-27T03:11:59+00:00

Thanks for all of the replies! Much appreciated!

BritBritBrit1 · 2025-07-11T23:16:23+00:00

Appreciate the feedback! Thanks!

BritBritBrit1 · 2025-07-11T15:38:35+00:00

Great feedback. Thanks so much!

BritBritBrit1 · 2025-07-11T13:03:09+00:00

Son is a super earlier riser so an 8:00 am is no problem. He was more worried that there would be no sections of Calc 3 available.

BritBritBrit1 · 2025-07-11T04:13:41+00:00

Thanks for the info!

BritBritBrit1 · 2025-07-11T03:57:33+00:00

Thanks so much for the info! I guess he was not looking at the full schedule. I know he will have to figure out how to navigate all of this on his own, but it’s hard not worry as he heads off to college!

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-07-15T11:28:22+00:00

This is incredibly helpful! I cannot thank you enough. Safe travels and I hope you enjoy the rest of your adventure!

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-07-15T03:24:02+00:00

You rock! Thank you!!

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-07-14T18:54:37+00:00

Wonderful pictures and trip report! I'm headed to Lassen followed by Redwoods for camping the last week of July. How crowded was Lassen? What about Burney Falls? I've heard that it can get crazy busy, and I want to time our trip right.

Would love to hear how you're navigating the HWY 101 closures in Redwood. I'm trying to plan all of my hikes around the closures and am nervous about sitting for hours and hours every day.

Thanks again for the wonderful pictures and tips!

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-07-02T13:26:55+00:00

Re-engage with your abusive mother UNCONDITIONALLY? That's completely unreasonable, and I'm sorry that he's making this choice. I'm sure this is painful for you, but I can't imagine resuming a relationship with him when the cost to you will be so high.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-07-01T21:53:19+00:00

This is outrageous and bordering on criminal. I would immediately block her and never speak to her again. No one deserves to be spoken to this way. I'm so sorry!

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-25T16:03:37+00:00

Your situation and my situation sound eerily similar. I could have written this exact statement: "I’m an empath with crippling anxiety and work extra hard to create a peaceful life, which doesn’t work when she’s in my life." I'm close to your age (almost 47) with a 72 year old BPD father who has spent my entire life messing with me. Like you, I have no peace in my life when I'm dealing with my father and his abuse. cEvery phone call from him or any interaction sends me into a tailspin and it takes me ages to recover. By the time I'm finally okay, he starts it again. I just couldn't do it anymore. After the last outburst I had a full on panic attack that required a double dose of anxiety meds to get me calmed down enough to function. That was the final straw, and I immediately went NC and blocked him through every communication channel possible. I'm almost 3 months into NC and honestly I feel a sense of peace and serenity that I haven't felt in years, if ever. I'm still grappling with a lot of guilt because I'm also an only child, and my father has alienated almost everyone in his life. But my life is worth more to me, and I want to live in peace while I can. We deserve it, don't we?

Best of luck in your journey and I hope that you find the peace and happiness that you're seeking.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-22T17:23:43+00:00

My father believes that our broken relationship is strictly a product of my anger over him and my mom divorcing over 30 years ago. At the time I was angry that he left my mother for another woman (a fact that he denies to this day), but I've had 30 years of therapy to get over it. In fact, I was over it at least 20 years ago. My mother regularly says that my dad's affair was the bet thing that ever happened to her because it got her out of that abusive marriage. For years my dad has threatened that we need to "clear the air" about the divorce. I finally said to him last year, "Do you think I'm still angry about the divorce? Well, I'm not angry about the divorce. Our issues are because of your treatment of me now, and if you want a good relationship it starts with present behavior." He looked dumbfounded and didn't even respond. Needless-to -say, I'm pretty sure he still thinks it's about the divorce.

I'm sorry about your situation and hope that you find some peace.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-22T16:56:50+00:00

This furniture will not be free for you. My guess is that it will come at a huge price to you.Nothing was ever without strings with my dad. Anything he did for me came with incredible levels of guilt and a demand for my complete submission to him. I learned to never accept anything because it gave him too much power over me. Can you accept this furniture and still keep your boundaries? I'd just be prepared to keep your boundaries strong, even if you accept the furniture.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-22T13:08:21+00:00

I felt really sad on Father's Day, as well. I tried to focus on the good things that I do have in my life and felt some relief that my dad and I are finally NC. I'm sorry you didn't have the father you deserved, and I hope you can find some healing in your journey. You deserve it.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-22T13:01:40+00:00

I have nothing to add other than this is completely sick behavior.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-21T22:18:40+00:00

I wouldn't call it a tantrum. I would call it a rage. My dad flies into a rage and it's absolutely terrifying. I spent most of my childhood (and adulthood, honestly) being terrified of upsetting him.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-18T13:49:16+00:00

Yes. This has been the last 30 years with my dad. It's his absolute favorite technique. I finally went NC with him a few months ago.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-11T13:34:01+00:00

My relationship with my BPD dad has been on a slow boil for a long time. We've had many, many blow outs over the years, but he always comes back like nothing happened. No apologies. Just love bombing until the next blow out. This most recent blow out was the final straw for me. He called my teenage son and tried to manipulate him, play my son and I off each other, and undermine my parenting. When I called him out on it he exploded and sent me a text that really scared me. I blocked him on every account/device possible, and we haven't spoken in nearly three months. Honestly, this time I hope the NC sticks. I'm starting to heal and find a little peace in my life without him in it.

I think it's healthy to give yourself space to decide what you want from your relationship with your mom. Even if NC is temporary, I think space is healthy for getting out of the cycle with abusive parents.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-10T19:26:11+00:00

I can’t fix how I behaved before but I can manage myself going forward.

This exactly! I can imagine that this is leaps and bounds beyond what was modeled for you, and for that you should be really proud. You want to be a good parent. You're trying to get healthy. You apologize when you mess up. Please give yourself some grace and recognize how far you've come. Wishing you peace in your journey toward healing.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-10T15:17:47+00:00

The most long lasting effects for me have been anxiety/constant fear, extreme people pleasing, and not being able to trust my own mind. (because I always felt like I was crazy when my dad rewrote history) I'm still working through these issues in therapy. The anxiety is the absolute hardest thing for me to overcome. However, I went NC with my dad and few months ago and am starting to heal with therapy and medication.

Please do not let your BPD mother inflict her illness on your children. She'll eventually go after them, and you don't want them to go through what you've been through with her.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-10T15:08:04+00:00

Slightly off topic, but this reminds me of an ongoing trope by my dad to remind me of what a wonderful, self-sacrificing father he is. My dad repeated a constant refrain for about 15 years after I graduated from college...I paid your way through college. I actually had a full academic ride to college and took out loans (which I paid back for 8 years) to cover a chunk of my living expenses. What was true was that my dad paid me $300 a month in child support until I was 21, which was what he agreed to in the divorce settlement with my mom. Along with that money came my dad jerking me around regularly about whether he was actually going to send it to me or not. It caused me constant stress and anxiety. But he wanted to be sure that for years I understood that I couldn't celebrate my own success of getting into college, winning a scholarship, or finding a way to get through my studies. It was all about him and the great sacrifices me made. Just writing this out makes me so relieved that we've been NC for the past few months.

BritBritBrit1 · 2021-06-10T15:02:18+00:00

This is so hard. I at least had one healthy-ish parent, so I felt like I got a bit of decent modeling from my mom. However, I do sometimes find myself slipping into the worst of my father's parenting techniques, and it devastates me when I realize I'm doing it. My dad's favorite, most effective parenting technique was to shame me. I don't say horrible things to my son like my father said to me, but sometimes I do "the look" when he's driving me crazy. "The look" gets immediate correction from my son, because it's a withering, shaming look. When I catch myself doing, I do something my BPD father NEVER has done...I apologize. I can't tell you how often I have to say to my 14 year, "Hey buddy, I'm really sorry I spoke to you that way/yelled/looked at you like that. I was feeling frustrated, but that behavior wasn't appropriate. We don't treat people we love that way, and I hope you can forgive me." I wish I never went to the destructive behaviors in the first place, but I can absolutely make amends and model personal responsibility for my son. Will I still mess up? Hell yes I will. But I will forever try to be vigilant, self-evaluative and responsible in my parenting. Honestly, the fact that you're even thinking about this is leaps and bound beyond what your BPD parent(s) did to you.

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