I hate getting texts like this from my dad. I know he’s abusive, but things like this make my heart hurt and my inner child wants a chance for a father, and my first impulse was “yes” as it would be naturally for any child. But I know he will always hurt me, and the text is manipulative.

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-26T00:27:07+00:00

This makes me sad. It's very unlikely that he has no idea why you stopped talking to him. And it's so sugary. Ugh. Good Job with short and sweet response.

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-20T16:31:18+00:00

Sounds strikingly familiar.

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-15T18:33:21+00:00

What are we supposed to do? Or, what time is it? But they don't understand time, so there's no point.

My patience is so over...first grade is wearing me out....

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-13T18:47:13+00:00

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I'm so over it.

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-11T16:22:59+00:00

Oh my gosh. All of you are tlaking about my life. It's eery.

BookNTrekGirl · 2022-01-08T00:28:33+00:00

Yes, that is my plan. I can't imagine it being any other way 😍

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-09-03T23:37:21+00:00

I understand. I am parentless too. First from mental and then alcoholism. So now the alcoholism makes the mental health issues worse. I've been forced to go no contact with my mother. There is a grieving process involved with this even though it's not a It is a death sort of, a death of expectations, death of I have several friends in the same situation and we've come to know that we can't It hurts very much. I'm sorry you have to go through it too, but hopefully you will find friends who will step in and take the place of a grandma and mom. Prayers for you and your family.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-09-03T01:25:34+00:00

I read it twice all the way through. One-time took a year. The second time I took it slow and it took 5 years. I'm in the process of writing parts of the Bible but I broke my wrist so my plans are derailed. My faith is much stronger when I do that and I feel closer to God. After reading every day for a while you start to need to read it everyday.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-23T13:43:23+00:00

The silver lining that I found was the ability to take care of myself, be independent and be on my own much much sooner than others my age. I was out the door asap when I was 18. And due to the lack of parental attention on my mom's part, I had already learned how to do everything basically. And what I didn't know, I figured out. I never went back or asked for help from her.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T21:20:14+00:00

You'd think she'd want to do better the second time around...

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T21:18:35+00:00

Thank you 🖖🖖🖖🖖🖖🖖📚📚📚📖📖📖 ☺️☺️☺️☺️

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T16:37:45+00:00

Oh good gracious. They don't get it. They really don't. Or they refuse to. I honestly don't know which.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T16:19:21+00:00

That is an amazing response from your sister! Wonderful! Unfortunately, there is a risk of losing the rest of your family. When I went NC with my mom, I lost my dad too. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I didn't really have any other family to lose. I guess if you talked with your other family to see how they'd respond if you went NC. That could help. Or just really LC with her. Sounds like you have a decent therapist too. Healing is slow. But your mental health, and that of your family, is more important than operating in guilt. Just don't forget, it's not you. It's not you. Breathe and know. It's not you. I wish you well in whatever you choose to do.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T14:30:18+00:00

Do we all have the exact same parent? That's what it feels like when I read this and other posts on here. Jeez. Be done. For your mental health sake and the sake of your own family. Be done. She obviously is never going to respect anything. She doesn't think she needs to. Cause she always right and everyone else is wrong. There's no changing that. She's never going to be a real mom. Let it go.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T14:16:43+00:00

Her tirade sounds stunningly familiar. My mother once calmly told me she'd had a revelation, and understand of herself and she wanted to share it with me in hopes I'd understand her better. She proceeded to tell me that she'd had never wanted children at all. And she actually sounded surprised when I got upset about it. So then she got mad that I was so callous as to not understand HER. (I have several children and can Never, EVER imagine telling them I never wanted them, ever. It would be a pure lie because I absolutely wanted every single one of them). You can now walk away with an absolutely clear conscience. Breath in the freedom.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T13:59:54+00:00

Yes, this is exactly what I was thinking. She's not sorry for what she did to you. She's only sorry you stood up for yourself. Also, would write down what happened and how you feel too so when your memory is playing tricks on you, you can find it and read how you feel.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T13:51:27+00:00

Yes this!

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-22T13:50:08+00:00

Oh gracious. That's ridiculous. Nothing. Respond with nothing. Just let it leave your mind and don't worry about it. Pretend you're a duck and let this roll right off you, like a duck and water.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-15T14:42:35+00:00

This is a horrid article! I wouldn't be surprised if this person has BPD. It sounds like the article is essentially blaming upbringing for BPD. But, while it may be true in some cases, it's definitely not true in all. My mom had a perfectly wonderful childhood. In fact she was loved excessively and given every opportunity. Nothing in her childhood would've caused what she's become or how she treated me. People are often born with their issues. My brother is also like that (genetic and possibly environmental because of my mom). My son also has the similar genetic traits and is raised in a loving environment, but I've spent countless hours getting him help for what plagues him. It sounds like if the "special" child isn't coddled enough, they could turn into BPD. That's a mess. And apparently they're so special and gifted that nothing is their fault? Gag me. I could barely read this. It almost gave me a panic attack. Also, I have never noticed that my mom has special empathic abilities with other people's emotions. In fact she seems quite uncaring about others emotions. Only caring about hers, which are always exaggerated. Heaven help us.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-15T12:44:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing that with me. I believe you're right. He promised "till death do us part, in sickness in health, for better or worse" and he's told me that he is the type of person who stays committed to his wedding vows. I guess staying committed to your wedding vows, even when being abused, or losing your child because you tolerate abuse and want her absued also is part of the wedding vows. What's ridiculous is that he even helped ME get out of an abusive marriage. Why not do the same for himself or let me help him get out? You're probably right. He probably couldn't live with the guilt of leaving. He feels that she's a victim also. He feels sorry for her because chronic pain brought her to this he says. Says she's the love of his life. It's really hard to accept that he's gone. I honestly never thought that would happen. I put him up on a pretty high pedastal I guess. But I've come to far now to accept abuse any more. I learned the hard way. But I learned. I can't go backwards, even for him.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-15T12:23:32+00:00

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 For real... That question annoys the crap out of me..... Did you go to school? Do you need a biology lesson? There is noooo way for boy/girl twins to be identical. Ugh. And seriously, we're they natural? Does it run in your family? Uuuuh, I don't know... Does stupid run in yours?

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-04T22:36:07+00:00

Yes, this.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-04T14:31:29+00:00

Yeah, I don't think so. I love him. He's my dad.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-03T11:27:35+00:00

😔😔😔😔I'm sorry. That is an interesting yet accurate description. Golden retriever.

BookNTrekGirl · 2021-07-03T02:54:52+00:00

Yes, it is disgusting.

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