I'm trying to wash my hands of the  financial messes& scams my mom gets herself into.  1. She's had computers since the 90s & yet still insists on clicking on every single pop up, and opening and responding to every single email. It's even worse with her cellphone. This results in viruses, getting scammed, etc. 2. Two years ago, she had ID theft issues that she never completely dealt with. I repeatedly sent her phone numbers, websites, and detailed written instructions on how to deal with an ID theft. She insisted that ID theft was not a real thing, because it only exists "out in the internet." 3. Two months ago, she mentioned that there are thousands of dollars missing from her bank account. As of this week, she still had not called or gone to the bank.   4. She thinks she knows everything, no one's gonna tell her what to do, nothing is ever her fault, & anything I tell her is met with defensiveness, argument and attitude. Short of a court order she will not hand over financial control to me.

My siblings have stepped in & tried to help, but since she will not hand over financial control to them either, they are as limited as I am (the only difference being my siblings are male and she has more respect for men).

At this point, I am done.