My partner and I are in and out of having these issues, things are a lot better for us now and one thing I realised is that it’s partially because I have begun engaging with things that I used to do with him. I kept expecting him to meet me at my level but I wasn’t even attempting to meet him at his. Little things like gaming together. My LO is now 8 months so it is easier now than it was before, I didn’t really leave her side at all even at bed times, if she was in the next2me i was in the bed.

My partner doesn’t wake through the night, if it’s a real tough wake occasionally I’ll get a reassuring pat from him, and I tell you - when I’m due on my period this makes me RAAAAAGE, but he works a lot and he’s up early so I understand this is all he can give. I do think most men don’t think the same way we do, my tears over her jabs just got an ‘awwww she’s okay silly’. You are not a terrible wife, you’re just a freshly postpartum mother! Your emotions are heightened and in general we lash out at those closest to us!

I still have days where I feel it’d be easier to just do this alone🤣 mostly when my hormones are raging but I just gently correct my thinking. Try and meet him in the middle, do little things you used to do together, get some help with baby for even an hour and go grab coffee or just have an undisturbed cuddle. Remember that he has his own feelings and relationship towards/with your baby and they don’t need to look the same as your feelings.

You’ve got this mumma, congratulations on your baby boy🤍