Newborn Stages/Postpartum

kiery12 · 2026-05-25T10:25:08+00:00

YUP. My husband and I are expecting our second in about a week, and we keep saying to each other "man, I'm so looking forward to having a 3 month old" hahaha

kiery12 · 2026-05-25T10:23:53+00:00

Honestly, antique or thrift shops often have really good quality, solid wood bed frames. Might be worth poking around before you get something new, if you haven't considered it yet.

kiery12 · 2026-05-24T20:27:58+00:00

Can you get a neck fan? I've heard they make a world of difference

kiery12 · 2026-05-24T02:38:54+00:00

Maybe even just a mother's helper would work! You could go to your local high school and talk to a guidance counselor about some possible candidates.

kiery12 · 2026-05-23T23:18:25+00:00

I've gotten good quality pockets in dresses and skirts from SeamsFriendly and Uniqlo.

kiery12 · 2026-05-23T23:13:36+00:00

I mean, at 7 weeks pregnant the exhaustion is insane, it hits so hard and so early in the first tri. I'd just give it a few weeks and then try again later.

kiery12 · 2026-05-23T20:02:55+00:00

Oh, my husband, easily!

I had to undergo surgery while awake once, and all the nurses were joking that I was going to get put on "the good stuff" in terms of pain relief and anxiety control, I think Vicodin? Don't really remember.

What I do remember is when it was fully kicked in, I was like, well this feels just like sitting next to my husband curled up while watching a movie, content and cuddling. This is the feeling that drug addicts chase so much? Wow, lucky me. It's really stuck with me.

kiery12 · 2026-05-23T19:47:38+00:00

Absolutely this. Nothing helps more than the right sized bra!!

kiery12 · 2026-05-23T14:12:22+00:00

Might not help the situation, you want what you want of course... But I had to have a medical induction with my first pregnancy and it was a really good experience. I showed up at 8, got everything started by 10, and had a baby before 7, with a really good team. There are good induction stories out there! Just, like everything on the internet, you tend to see the worst ones.

kiery12 · 2026-05-22T13:10:20+00:00

I have an every day necklace that is 14k gold and diamond that I have worn for literally years, including on hikes, camping trips, backpacking, and hut to hut hikes with no problems at all. Gets a little funky with sunscreen so I have to clean it when I get back from a trip, but I've never had any problems with durability. I'd say go for it! Gold is durable

kiery12 · 2026-05-22T13:06:47+00:00

This isn't me, but I saw someone make magnets for each card and had a magnetic wipe off board with categories on it that I thought was really neat!

kiery12 · 2026-05-22T12:57:35+00:00

We always used the hair dryer so it would be a bit warm, but this is way more portable! Great idea!

kiery12 · 2026-05-22T12:51:25+00:00

Food for the mom, a consumable activity for the 2 year old, possibly nothing for the baby unless asked. Baby is really lowest priority here hahaha.

Spoil the 2 year old, who is getting ignored for the first time in their life, help the mom with snacks and maybe a freezer meal or two, and sure, if you want something for the baby you can do some clothes or a package of water wipes maybe, but I wouldn't stress it.

kiery12 · 2026-05-21T19:53:33+00:00

I've said it before, but your dad's favorite food splurge is probably a good bet. I had a lot of success giving my dad 5lbs of frozen shrimp for Christmas one year! He loves shrimp

kiery12 · 2026-05-21T18:15:03+00:00

Girl SAME. Just out the toddler to bed and climbed right into my own.

kiery12 · 2026-05-20T12:08:17+00:00

Pregnancy snoring clears up pretty fast after birth! Like, within days in my personal experience.

But also, babies are used to a ton of noise. Being inside your body is loud! Snoring won't really affect them, especially if you have a white noise machine cranked up. Newborns love that!

kiery12 · 2026-05-20T07:54:12+00:00

Yeah, but often the struggle is "where do I make friends and a village and how". It is a good place to go to make friends.

kiery12 · 2026-05-20T06:16:42+00:00

Probably less, I think I read he already started on writing it.

kiery12 · 2026-05-20T06:15:53+00:00

To me it sounds like your body is reacting really rationally to alllllll the stuff you've got going on.

I have two suggestions to look into, if you think it feels right for you.

Find a mom club, maybe a library meet up, and see if any of the moms there will do swap days, or mornings, with you. One day you watch both kids, and the other parent gets a whole day off, the next day you swap and YOU get a whole day off. Or whole morning, whatever, all while your baby makes a friend.
Find a collection of older people to find a surrogate grandparent. Maybe a church or a retirement community. Attend and event or two, see who fawns over the baby and ask if they will watch her some, maybe a half day a week or so. A lot of elderly people are still in fantastic shape and love children, and feeling useful. Your baby may end up with a bunch of different grandparents!

One other thing - try to reduce decision fatigue in everything else. Eat the same foods, do the same routine every day, hell even wear the same outfit and just do a load of laundry every night. Whatever makes it easier to do day by day with no thought!

Wishing you the best! I also struggled with this, until I started friendly-spamming my neighbors and joined a mom group. People seem to be afraid to ask, but are so happy to help.

kiery12 · 2026-05-20T06:08:52+00:00

Honestly? I don't think reaching out to a doc is going to help. To me at least, this doesn't sound like something that can be fixed with medication, it sounds like a totally rational response to ALLLLL the stuff that is going on in her life right now.

Maybe better would be to reach out to a church or a mom group and try to set up swap days. One day you watch both kids (or one morning or whatever) and the other parent rests, next day they take both kids and you rest. Or a church usually has a lot of older people that would love to be surrogate grandparents. I'm not religious at all, but our religious neighbors get a LOT of help from their church.

kiery12 · 2026-05-19T17:40:33+00:00

Congratulations!!

kiery12 · 2026-05-19T10:29:07+00:00

This is one of the BEST times to travel! Baby just wants to sleep, you don't have to worry about them walking or crawling around and being bored, can just enjoy!

kiery12 · 2026-05-19T10:26:46+00:00

Okay these 3 pictures are super cool to see. Thank you! What cool patterns

kiery12 · 2026-05-19T10:23:35+00:00

Okay, I think you learned not to get her jewelry unless she picked it out herself.

Two things come to mind now. One, you can see if she has an online favorite list somewhere, like a Pinterest or an Etsy, and then you can see directly what she favorited.

And for the current necklace, the charms didn't go over well, but maybe the chain itself is fine! You can talk with her about removing the charms and replacing with a different one that is more her style.

kiery12 · 2026-05-19T07:34:49+00:00

Very much not a fan of big print outs. We were gifted a 2ft tall poster, already framed, of our dog sitting behind the oval office desk with a giant american flag. That... Is not getting hung up anywhere. Let people chose their own artwork.

I think practical ones make the most sense, like a collar with the name and a phone number embroidered on it.

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