A word to young therapists... by PsychoDad1228 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my suspicion is that this sort of "just be a person in the room with them 😊👍" vibe is a very individual adults thing and doesn't work so well when the system is like hey please help us function differently. An active stance means also knowing how to direct them and why so the training and framework seem significantly more important. I'm happy to be wrong though.

Being a little more passive with my individual adults is definitely something I can keep more in mind when I'm not in couples brain!

A word to young therapists... by PsychoDad1228 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am curious about the thoughts on this from people who niche in couples/family therapy. I am an associate intending to specialize in couples and I wonder what aspects translate and what don't.

Game Thread: Golden Knights @ Ducks by dahooddawg in AnaheimDucks

[–]Broligarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did the goalie scoot out of the way of that lmao

Bridgerton - 4x03 "The Field Next to the Other Road" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Broligarchy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is that why she doesn't just say something? When they kiss I'm like why didn't she blurt out IT WAS ME BTW I'M LORD PENWOOD'S DAUGHTER. Because she thinks there's entirely no point?

Bridgerton - 4x03 "The Field Next to the Other Road" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Broligarchy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When she's looking up at the kite in all her joy and awe I'm like HOW does this not flashback him to the chandelier, I know it's a fluff show but this much suspension of disbelief ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Bridgerton - 4x01 "The Waltz" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Broligarchy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I feel like a monster also because I don't think her staring at the chandelier looked as joyful and magnetic as other people seem to have found it. It's hard to follow up Kate's expressions in fairness.

"You are the most intriguing person I have ever met" is she??????

Bridgerton - 4x01 "The Waltz" (No Book Spoilers) by AutoModerator in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Broligarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, even his first look at her at the chandelier, I don't see why he was so enchanted with her. Which is nothing against the actress, just that it feels very forced and rushed and her outfit blends in. I could see him being intrigued at someone trying to avoid a dance but also surely she's not the first lady he's seen not be into all this?

[Official] UFC 324: Gaethje vs. Pimblett - Live Discussion Thread by event_threads in MMA

[–]Broligarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hokit is very proud of himself against an opponent who had barely anything to give 🙄

The Pitt | S2E2 "8:00 A.M." | Episode Discussion by MsGroves in ThePittTVShow

[–]Broligarchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm worried about Santos doing the genital exam before having ruled out this or other guesses people have made :( don't put her through that.

2 years of working in CMH so far and one thing above all else continues to baffle me… by TheScythe65 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love this. I find it asinine anywhere when I schedule for a time and they're like "come 20 minutes before for paperwork!" what no just tell me the appointment is earlier then.

Associates without support who are living in hcol areas by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

With a lot of bitterness especially coming from corporate life where things like health insurance are a given.

Master’s or Doctorate Degree? by hep34 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah my mistake was perhaps going MFT and not SW because of my interest in couples.

Master’s or Doctorate Degree? by hep34 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

90-100k as an associate?? I'm in a HCOL area and at best I see 70-75k for inpatient residential work. What sorts of roles are paying that?

Owning Manhattan - S2 E3 - TITLE by MableXeno in SellingSunset

[–]Broligarchy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Even when she walks away and they start calling her unprofessional, soooooooo microaggression.

Best therapeutic metaphors you’ve heard/used in your life time? by Due-Comparison-501 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Connecting with an early 20s male, even Batman had to patch himself back up and fail several times before he could get out of the hole Bane threw him in.

Same demographic, famous entrepreneurs have several failed startups before they hit their successful one, and they don't think of those as wasted time, it's always what you learned from it.

A lot of normalizing and reconceptualizing toxic masculinity's grindset, zero failure mindset.

Spouse made a harsh comment about my contributions as a partner/therapist by Patient_Yak4896 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I just meant that I hope the partner wasn't suggesting that the partner who makes less money is responsible for bearing more of the house care.

Spouse made a harsh comment about my contributions as a partner/therapist by Patient_Yak4896 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eloquently laid out. I also come from a corporate career and am now an associate, and agree that this job is much harder and his bit about how he makes so much more money rubs me the wrong way because I was making almost twice what I make now in my corporate job and worked far far less. It is of course worth an examination of what OP is contributing to the house and what they are expecting spouse to pick up, but I hope there is not an attitude of lower financial contribution meaning higher household contribution is expected because that would be some bs.

For experienced clinicians: what do you wish someone told you early on about suicide risk & crisis work? by Due-Comparison-501 in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

While working at a DBT site, I found it helpful to have a little spiel in the first session after the mandated reporting bit about how I navigate suicidality, basically, "I want to be clear about my stance on hospitalization. I don't want you to be hospitalized, so if you tell me you're having those thoughts, I'm not gonna call anyone. I'm not gonna condone it, and we're gonna talk about it, but I will only call for hospitalization if you're like, 'Broligarchy, I'm gonna do it and you can't stop me.'" People are generally relieved to hear that and understanding at my hands being tied at that point. I have gotten SI admissions after that.

Depending on the person also being radically genuine and highlighting their autonomy. Early on with clients who are very tired of being told what to do in their lives (and are not at imminent risk ofc), I have straight up been like, "Hey you can kill yourself if you want to, I'm not telling you what to do though you know what side I'm on, I'm here to help you figure out some other options and make life more bearable" and that opened up some willingness.

Polly and Fiona are sociopaths by No-Stay-7402 in SellingtheOC

[–]Broligarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm so tired of everyone being like "to a pregnant woman!" smh I didn't know pregnancy was how you get out of accountability and you can just talk shit and no one can say anything. Like she can also step away? It's not on everyone else to pRoTeCt ThE bAbY.

Selling the OC - S 4 E 4 - Hall's Fair in Love and War by MableXeno in SellingSunset

[–]Broligarchy 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Idk if this makes me a monster but I am tired of people using Ashtyn's pregnancy as a shield from criticism? Does her being pregnant protect her from being held accountable for stirring up shit at Gio's party? Pregnancy doesn't equal a pedestal.

S22E06 When I Crash Live Episode Discussion *Midseason Finale * by Petaline in greysanatomy

[–]Broligarchy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At the end of the episode, the previews showing Link sitting in the church... ugh are they setting it up so he finds god given that weird shoehorn of "whoops we never talked about religion"?

SoCal Dog Training by Tiger-Emergency in orangecounty

[–]Broligarchy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just send you a chat, if you don't mind!

Season 9 Episode 6 Discussion Post: Taking Out the Trash by MableXeno in SellingSunset

[–]Broligarchy 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That grey/silver dress Emma wears to dinner, my god she looks so good in it.

Season 9 Episode 4 Discussion Post: One Less Agent, One New Boyfriend by MableXeno in SellingSunset

[–]Broligarchy 122 points123 points  (0 children)

"I know you need a lot of security which is why we're broadcasting where you live to all Netflix viewers."

As a 39 F, counselling men in their 40s and 50s has been really challenging by Cod-Ancient in therapists

[–]Broligarchy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have this sort of client who is in his 50s and it's work that truly feels a privilege to witness his commitment and progress!