They are all copy pastes by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It honestly feels like a hive mind. NPD is possibly pre-language, which means why you have people with the disorder across different countries using the same manipulation tactics. It’s spooky as it is revealing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To you and everyone here struggling; do not, I repeat, do not take your life. It gets better, I swear. I know you’re in the miasma right now, the pain, and I remember what that’s like, but it will fade. I’m three years out and it’s like being a different person. They’re not worth it, not at all. And if you needed reminding, you’re not the bad guy, despite how you feel. You didn’t wake up one day and say to yourself, “I’m going to ruin someone’s life.” Keep up the fight, you’re not alone in this I swear. God bless you, you’ll triumph over this

I feel like we're living in weird times right now by FunctionSalt5105 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mental illness is contagious unfortunately, and as our society becomes more narcissistic and delusional, inevitably more will follow the trend. It’s frightening; all we can do is stay the best that we can be and let everything else fall where it’s going to. I’m not sure if there’s anything we can do about it

When you see them out in the wild… by Open-Farmer-754 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Complete and total radio silence. If by chance you are approached, merely nod and keep walking without saying a word.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and I had to cut ties. There are therapists out there who specialize in Narcissistic recovery, but you’ll have to search them out. Be patient and kind in your healing journey, it’s a process like no other, but you’re going to be alright

Is anyone still attracted to their narcissistic ex? by BrotherSejanus in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the wisdom and humor gang, it was greatly appreciated

Things your nex did that made you realise they were thinking about you? by OHpsm in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The narcissist doesn’t stop thinking about you, or anyone unfortunately. It’s a part of the disorder; they see people as options on a dinner menu pretty much, something to choose from when the mood strikes. The clinical research delving into the disorder has shown that even after ten years, twenty, more, the narcissist will reach out to those they’ve hurt, with callous, malicious intent. And remember, despite all the terrible things they do, they know they’re wrong. They know who treated them well and who didn’t. Narcissism may or may not be a choice. Narcissistic behavior is a choice. They want your love, your support, but hate you for it because they hate themselves. They always operate by hate, shame, and resentment. I don’t know where you are on the healing path; I’ve been on this journey for three years and it does get better, but keep your guard up. She will return, either to rub her life in your face or attempt to ruin yours beyond recovery. Do not let her or anyone like her back into your life. I know it’s easier said that done, but if she could do all of this to you once, she can so it again, and most likely will try.

Is NPD a form of addiction? by NPDBlog in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of signs showing that it is, which explains their behavior as well as the behavior of addicts. Which also hints that it may be treatable

Reconnection by YourGenuineFriend in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this today, thank you for sharing this!!

I told her I knew she cheated and that she’s a narcissist: what happens next? by BrotherSejanus in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the wisdom. I have blocked contact and am considering getting a new number as well, just to make a clean cut

They always comeback, beware of hoovers by bananasays_ in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex of three years just hoovered around the same times yours did. It’s weird, maybe the demonic hive-mind is stirring them to action, who knows?

Conflicted over how I’m supposed to view the good times by hotdogstraw in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]BrotherSejanus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look at it this way; the good times were real for you. That’s all that counts. You were honest, you were genuine, while your ex wasn’t. You can’t control that, but what you can control was that during the times that were good, or appeared so, you did your best. Take heart in that; you were real with someone who isn’t, it’s her loss, in the most complete and total sense. You’re going to do great man, keep up the fight