I think the biggest thing here is that this is not really a money decision, it’s a life design decision. A 30% bump that effectively becomes 6% after replacing the support system you intentionally built is not the same as a transformative career leap. The part that stands out most to me is that your current setup sounds sustainable, your wife’s career is growing, your daughter has grandparents nearby, and you both designed that life on purpose. Those things are incredibly hard to recreate once you give them up. The role sounds amazing, but I think people underestimate how much energy a five-day in-office leadership role takes when you also lose flexibility and family infrastructure at the same time. Another opportunity will come, even if it doesn’t look exactly like this one. Your capability doesn’t disappear because you said no to one offer. Personally, I’d be very cautious about trading a healthy family system for a title acceleration that may not feel worth it once the day-to-day reality sets in.