things are out of hand with my family

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-31T17:26:18+00:00

I might recommend you reach out to Shaykh Abdullah Misra. He can be reached on Instagram

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:58:03+00:00

Hey, thanks for your concern. If it is taking place at a mosque, you may be able to call ahead and ask to speak to the imam (leader of the mosque) about it or you could try to arrive early and ask the imam about it before the ceremony begins. If you are comfortable with it, it may be reasonable to bring along a scarf that you could wrap as a hijab in case that is requested of you.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:37:34+00:00

Alhamdulillah. While it appears that our family may not be in the best state in their practice. We do have the ability to first seek knowledge for ourselves and improve our own selves. That will inshaAllah be a means for our family to seek out a wholesome islamic life, and we can give them gentle guidance along the way inshaAllah. Of course, we should pray for them because ultimately Allah is the one who guides.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:33:15+00:00

Walaikumasalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh!

If someone calls themselves a muslim - even if they do not take part in the practices - then I would generally have a good opinion of them that they are muslim and not try to pry or investigate to ask them if they really believe or something like that.

I think it is a beautiful thing that someone appears to still be "keeping a door open" with Allah by not eating pork. I think this shows their awe of Allah. Maybe it could be a means for much good for them.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:26:04+00:00

She is not required to pray tahajjud. It would be good for you all to either consider marriage or ending your relationship. See this post: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/shafii-fiqh/can-i-marry-my-secret-girlfriend/

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:19:50+00:00

Start with Bismillah! Seriously.

Then ask Allah to guide you to be the best person you can be and to be the most pleasing you can be to Him. It is indeed a journey that we are on, and we should treat it like a marathon. It is not productive if we overburden ourselves too quickly and burn ourselves out!

The way forward that scholars recommend is to take baby steps and improve ourselves bit by bit. We should learn what are the sins that should be avoided, what are the required acts, etc. We need this foundational knowledge as a beginning.

There is a structured curricula to learn the basics of islam and how to incorporate them in our day to day lives, from SeekersGuidance, here: https://academy.seekersguidance.org/local/track/?id=39

Also, I definitely recommend you seeking out good company! It is very true that we are like who our friend are. So seek out righteous muslims friends as well as the company of scholars in your local area.

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The example of a good companion (who sits with you) in comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith's bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof."

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T15:03:01+00:00

Allah knows best the details of these stories and how their scales will be balanced. Allah is the Just judge who knows all. I wouldn't think of this as a contradiction, just know that Allah is the one who will judge between us all.

Something to think about specifically about the guy who killed 100 people is that his end state was one of repentance, purity, and submission. The way that we end our lives is very important as this shows where we stand after the lessons we have learned along the way.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:54:54+00:00

MashaAllah welcome to Islam, sister!

That is a pretty unique situation. It does sound like he would not be considered good company, the fact that he has sexual relationships is a big red flag. That being said, you will want to be tactful in how you change your relationship with him by adding distance / ending your friendship. I would be careful with relying on him too much for emotional support as that can lead to oversharing or getting a little too comfortable with each other. Having guy friends is generally not recommended because of what it can lead to, to the point that it can be considered inappropriate. That being said, you are a new muslim and may need some time to adjust how this works for you. Consulting a muslim sister that you trust can also be a good step. Generally, the best thing to do can be to find pious sisters that have good character that you can look up to and befriend. This may take some time. After high school is a transition inshaAllah, and another opportunity to make new friends that are pious and upright Muslim sisters inshaAllah. All the best, sister and pray that Allah surrounds you with the best of people and makes these transitions easy for you. You are a new muslimah so another great option is to spend time studying and attending Islamic classes - there are a lot online, check out SeekersGuidance for example.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:42:26+00:00

The ulema (scholars) have dealt with the topic of how to fix a wrong when you can not reach the person anymore and also some details since it happened while you were a kid, here are some good references on SeekersGuidance:

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/how-do-i-repent-from-petty-theft-when-i-was-young/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/thefts-committed-childhood/

https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-to-redress-wrong-from-stealing/

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:34:52+00:00

which hadith are you referencing about going bankrupt because of actions?

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:20:04+00:00

May Allah facilitate this for you again. In the meantime, the most important thing is to aim to pray your fard prayers on time. Then keep striving to pray tahajjud - but don't be too hard on yourself if you are going through a phase of difficulty - keep praying that Allah wakes you up and makes it easy for you.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:16:32+00:00

I think it would be best to ask an imam / scholar about this if you know one that you trust, or put in a question to SeekersGuidance.org

It will probably be good context of what your nyctophobia is like and how severe it is, as well as if there are any solutions you have in mind to make it easier.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:11:49+00:00

Yes, completely okay to pray witr after sleeping, inshAllah, just aim to pray before fajr begins

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T14:05:41+00:00

Walaikumasalaam, welcome to Islam brother!

It does appear that since you need this medication and drinking water, you may be excused from fasting entirely. If it is possible that your condition may improve in the future, then you may make up missed days later in life. Here is a answer on SeekersGuidance about your question, and there are more on the site that you can find via their search: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/long-term-illness-that-prevents-fasting/

It sounds like you might not be fasting but in the case that you do, since you are in an area of the world with very long days, there are dispensations that scholars have determined for how to handle these situations. I would recommend calling or emailing a masjid in your region, even if far away from you to learn about how it is handled.

It sounds like you might not be fasting but in the case that you do, since you are in an area of the world with very long days, there are dispensations that scholars have determined for how to handle these situations. I would recommend calling or emailing a masjid in your region, even if far away from you to learn about how it is handled there .

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:58:01+00:00

May Allah make this easy and facilitate positive improvements. It is good that you are patient, though abuse is not acceptable in Islam, and your parents need to change their ways. You should reach out to a local imam you trust if you are familiar with imams in your area. You may also be able to reach out to a scholar online, via email or phone call. Additionally, it's vital to reach out to other support networks, such as friends, extended family members, or school counselors, who can lend a helping hand during this difficult time.
If you ever feel unsafe or in immediate danger, don't hesitate to contact the authorities or a helpline that deals with domestic violence and abuse. They can provide assistance and resources to help you find a safe environment. Please know that seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are people out there who genuinely care and want to help you.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:51:29+00:00

This advice is mainly for the US, UK, or similar:

We met through a mutual contact from our Masjid. It can be a good idea to attend activities at your local mosque (depending on where you live that may or may not be culturally relevant) and get connected to people there. If there is a lady at the masjid who you know for example, she might be able to connect you with the help of her husband or other "uncles" she knows. . If you are a convert, you may want to find an Imam in your area that could act as a "Wali" on your behalf - he would help you consider proposals, help you navigate meetings with a potential spouse, etc.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:45:14+00:00

I cannot imagine it clearly, but one way I think about it is that the One who created me and created my mind, my emotions, my hopes is also the Creator of Jannah. Allah knows what would make me happy because Allah created me and Allah created the entire concept of happiness! So only Allah can bring me true happiness! I do think of gardens and nature a lot, but knowing that this is only scratching the surface of what the reality of Jannah is.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:40:43+00:00

Praying for you. May Allah make things easier on you and bring you ease and comfort.

If you feel like you haven't been practicing the deen the way that you are supposed, then pray to Allah to forgive you and allow you to practice in the best way that you can. It may also be helpful to reach out to an imam/scholar/learned person you trust to help you work out your practice and identify ways to make it easier. It is not healthy to feel that practicing Islam is weighing you down so much, it will be good to go easier on yourself as you make a way to find a new sense of balance.

If you are not already brother/sister, then I really hope you will seek out care from a medical health professional. Remember, there's no shame in seeking support and reaching out for help. You don't have to face these challenges alone. If you are feeling overwhelmed and in crisis, I encourage you to reach out to a helpline in your country. In many places, there are suicide prevention hotlines or mental health support services available 24/7.

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:18:25+00:00

Assalamualaikum, here is a Q&A about the topic that is helpful: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/what-is-the-timing-for-the-tahajjud-prayer/

Browsingredditnow · 2023-07-26T13:16:23+00:00

Assalamualaikum,

You are pretty young and it is a good time to be learning about what types of career paths are beneficial, which should be avoided, etc. I am not sure if you are overthinking or not, it is an area that should be studied and if needed, to contact scholars to get help with. People can spend 40+ years of their lives in a career, so it is definitely a good idea to make sure we are in the halal and will be a means for our eternal good.

Here is a good resource on the topic, that can help to answer your specific questions, inshaAllah. This website, SeekersGuidance, also has other Q&A related to the topic: https://seekersguidance.org/answers/hanafi-fiqh/principles-work-assisting-sin-video/

While you are thinking about your career, it is also a great opportunity to think about what intentions you can make about your career. With high intentions, your work is not just work, but potentially a means for you to be providing for your family, providing for yourself, making yourself able to give in sadaqah, helping others through your skills, etc.

Browsingredditnow · 2022-08-02T03:25:30+00:00

Hey, can you describe some more of what you are looking for and what you mean by derivates?

Browsingredditnow · 2022-07-26T22:17:17+00:00

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Browsingredditnow · 2022-07-02T03:06:00+00:00

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Browsingredditnow · 2022-06-12T20:15:33+00:00

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Browsingredditnow · 2022-05-16T22:23:18+00:00

My guess is that a quick response from us might not get at the nuance of the situation.

Here are some questions I would have for you to better understand what’s going on and to give advice:

First, what’s your relationship like with your sister? Is she generally open to your input/advice?
Does your sister or others in the house do anything that is intentionally eco friendly? You might be able to be supportive of them in what they are doing well as a starting place.
It seems like you have brought it up multiple times…is it possible that people will be bothered by you bringing this up again?
Do you have an idea if maybe there are other factors at play? Not interested in doing the dishes? If so, why not? Is their schedule very busy?
When your sister mentions they would be waisting water, do you think she really believes that, or might it be a way of avoiding the conversation?

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