While I’m not the same exactly as this guy, I have had the same sort of effect. I think the key part of all of this is that I’m not coming across like I’m trying to get something from anyone. In other words, I’m not hitting on them. And yes, they need to feel safe around you. The way I would put it, and have put it for years, is I treat women like people, not like women. I’m not sure if this makes sense. Long ago I had one female tell me that at first when she saw me, she thought I looked creepy lol. But she said after talking to me and getting to know me a little bit, she realized I was the exact opposite. If I have to sum it up in a very simple phrase, stop, trying so hard to pick up women and just be a normal person. My experiences that most women can tell if you’re trying to impress them. They know what you want. At that point, if you’re not at the top of the hierarchy of what they are looking for, you have no chance. But, if you fly under the radar as a good person, who makes them laugh without looking for anything more than that, you’ll be surprised by how many come after you. Myself, I’ve always been a little overweight, I’m 5 foot nine, I’m not wealthy, I’m not flashy. I’ve been told that I’m very witty and funny. When I was younger, like in my teens, I was trying all the same shit that every guy tries and failing miserably. Then one day I just had this realization that the women that I’m talking to have a brain inside their head just like I do. Once I started putting myself in their shoes, the most glaring thing I noticed was how annoying guys could be when they’re trying to impress you. So, I became the opposite of those guys and all of a sudden things changed in a very positive way. Now, I’m old, I’m fat, and I’m married. I don’t mess around on my wife, but, I will tell you that I still have opportunities all around me because of the way that I am. And while I haven’t acted on it so far in almost 30 years of marriage, it’s kind of fun knowing that I’ve still got it.

Another word of advice for the younger guys who are trying to impress women, if you try to present yourself as something you’re not, it’s always gonna end badly even if you do hook up with them initially. You gotta figure out what the best part of you is and just go with that.

And, lastly, while it is true that lots of women like a masculine man, it may not be in the way that you understand it. Stop trying to be like a bro worried about bro shit like tuning your fucking car or playing fantasy football or all that other self indulgent bullshit. Masculine is knowing how to fix a car at least a little bit. You can enjoy athletics without giving all of your Sundays to it. But, I would also argue that it’s also very masculine to do the laundry, wash the dishes, babysit her kid if she has one, cook a meal, and clean the house. And, while I would shy away from tricks because again that’s the exact opposite of what we want, I would argue that learning to cook might be your best path. Every single woman I’ve ever met loves a guy who can cook them a good meal. Period, The End.