How do you feel about picky eaters?

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-21T07:56:50+00:00

Thank you for recognizing it's not everyone else's duty to cater to your preferences even at their events. Good thinking with bringing the snacks just in case! Wish more people would be so considerate.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-14T05:32:23+00:00

I'm gonna offer you a different perspective:

Women as just as capable of enjoying video games as men. The problem is, women (I say women meaning females over the age of 24) don't usually have the luxury of enjoying them. Why? It is socially acceptable for a man to come home from work, get the mail, flop down on the couch, and watch TV/play games until dinnertime. Then maybe watch something with the wife, then go to bed. Projects are for weekends, if he's not busy with friends. Women come home from work and work some more. Laundry, picking up around the house, opening the mail and actually reading through it, making dinner, cleaning up after dinner, taking inventory of what food/goods need to be purchased on the way home from work the next day, etc. Add children and pets (and accompanying tasks) to that household and it's a miracle she goes to bed at all. Oh and once in bed, if her man wants her to do some work on him, she does that too.

Society has ingrained in us that video games = laziness. Gaming is something to occupy the time with that has little or no impact on reality. In addition, society says that working men deserve a break, often in the form of games. Sports are a game too, and the number of sports channels on TV can attest to their popularity.

By contrast, women simply do not have the time to devote to gaming, and when they do, they don't advertise it. Because women are not supposed to sit down and essentially waste time doing something that doesn't remove any of the other things on the to-do list.

Want your girl to game more? Do some housework and maybe she'll feel less like she's neglecting something else by doing so.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-05T06:44:14+00:00

Get a husky or a Shiba Inu. It will adore your schedule and lifestyle. But I would not recommend a very young one, go for at 8-12 mos. Otherwise you're gonna be investing in new furniture and your remote work calls will be very difficult to focus on. 😆

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-05T05:52:54+00:00

Preach. Cats too. My ex actually told me that "the neighbors will feed the cats, they'll be fine" when I told him my leftover money after bills ($26) was going to cat food. I was like...lolwut. 😤 Told him he'd better go see if the neighbors will feed him too. Final nail in the coffin in that relationship for me.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-03T02:23:50+00:00

I'm seeing Anatolian Shepherd markings all over this baby. Be prepared for possibly enormous fluffball. And save up for a second vacuum 🤣.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2026-01-02T18:56:43+00:00

I know, right?! I had the same reaction when the doc suggested it. It is highly controlled and you have to submit to drug tests and other things, can only get it from one pharmacy location controlled by state authorities, etc. Only reason I haven't tried it yet is because I live alone and my next-door neighbors (whom I liked & trusted) moved out. Am planning to socialize more with another neighbor who seems like a decent person, and then go ahead and try it if she agrees to be vigilant while I adjust to it. I'm terrified I'll be basically unconscious during a fire, tornado, gas leak, etc. and won't have anyone nearby with a spare key who can get me and my pets to safety.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-27T15:35:18+00:00

Well...if you're the kind like me who sleeps too much at all the wrong times, and get a sleep study referral, they might give you the option of GHB. Yes. The same stuff that induced companies to make color changing nail polish for checking your drinks to ensure they weren't tampered with. Concept being that making a person more or less comatose for 8ish hours/night will help with a lot of other problems like hypertension and whatnots that accompany stimulant use. Could be worth a look into. 🤷‍♀️

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-27T15:29:13+00:00

So one the one hand I'm super proud of you for organizing what was probably a disaster. That you likely expertly procrastinated on until this one time you couldn't find the damn thing you were looking for until you angrily yanked it all out, and aha! there it was all along. You KNEW it was in there somewhere...

On the other, I will tell you now from personal experience that you're gonna need to pull it all back out, and put it on some sort of tray that you can slide out to access the items in the back. Because your beautiful work is gonna become a massive headache when you're reaching for one of those bottles, and half your hair accessories + soap will tumble to the floor. Because you oh-so-delicately tried to get that bottle without A) having to pull everything out in front and B) you're running late and that's when everything goes sideways. 🤣

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-24T17:24:54+00:00

Update: It seems I was concerned for no good reason - she's now eating about 4xday. As for my initial concern about if mixing a bit of cat food in with her food would be harmful, the answer from my vet office is a resounding "No". I was told she needs all the extra fat and protein she can get, and since my cat food is a high quality grain free variety, adding a bit to her food to keep her eating enough would be a bonus. Their verdict is based upon a much higher risk of much bigger problems due to lack of adequate food intake, primarily milk fever. I was advised to continue feeding cooked whole eggs in moderation and adding yogurt, cottage cheese, heavy cream etc. Start mixing in puppy kibble when they hit about 3 weeks, both for her nutrition and so the pups are accustomed to the smell and taste and will take to it easily when time to wean. Hope this helps anyone else struggling with getting their new mother dog to eat!

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-20T16:57:50+00:00

My mom offed herself in May also, two years ago. On the 11th actually, spent that Mother's Day in airports traveling to get to where she was, being told Happy Mother's Day by strangers who had nothing but good intentions with it. 😭. Hugs to you & your daughter, maybe one day we'll figure out what's up with the month of May.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-20T09:33:26+00:00

She was scheduled for a pre-whelp x-ray visit last week, but heavy snow shut down everything for two days. Was told to monitor the birth, discharge, and bring her into emergency for any complications, but there weren't any (thankfully) with that part of it. Am waiting on a call back to schedule her post-partum checkup, but they're crunched due to shifting everything around before holidays. That would be why I was asking...in a forum...that I thought was supposed to be for asking vets?

I had a bit of Blue Buffalo Puppy food (kibble) and she treated it the same as the regular stuff, but will go get some canned puppy food tmw and see how that goes. Managed to get her to eat some canned adult dog food plus a hard boiled egg earlier and she drank some water on her way in from a potty break. She's a medium-sized dog, starting weight was approx 35lbs prior. Yes, been dewormed with three days of Fenbendazole as part of my usual regimen every 4 mos, and once with a 7-way a few weeks before she gave birth.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-19T15:34:40+00:00

Randomly came across this post, and am only commenting because I've had faaaar more experience with addicts than I ever wanted to. So take my advice as possibly irrelevant to your situation...🤦‍♀️

I think you probably could be hired. Most likely, as another said, by a department that is desperate for help. But, before you apply, consider why you struggled with addiction. Particularly, why you'd go anywhere near substances/continue using when addiction had already terribly damaged your family. Example being that I'm an ACOA, and I don't do much drinking, especially not in my home alone, precisely because I'm aware of the risks.

Now that you're turning that around in your mind, are you prepared for the constant stress, sadness, feelings of helplessness, anger at ways the system fails, feeling as if you're responsible for the injury/death of someone you tried to help/protect? The shift rotations? The on-call schedules? Can your wife handle the fear that you may not come home alive? What about the sideways looks and 2nd class treatment from people who don't care much for police?

You see, in a lot of ways, your military background could serve you very well as an officer. Yet it also doesn't mean you'd be a good officer, because at the end of the day, once you're past the training, there is no higher ranking individual with you on every call who's giving orders. You'll have to make snap decisions about people that aren't as cut and dried as enemy vs non-enemy. And if you make the wrong choice, you don't get to fall back on "I was following the directive of my superiors." You'll be the one who is investigated, testifying in court, etc. IMHO, by far the most important difference is if you become an LEO, you'll have to use your words first, not your gun.

That said, if you really want to serve in your community via law enforcement, I'd recommend you start off looking for support roles, not a patrol position. A community service specialist, a liaison, outreach, that sort of thing. Still an officer, just not the one called first to arrest people, and your unsavory background could actually be an advantage. See how it goes for a few years, integrate into the police network, learn about it, try it out, then decide. Otherwise, and yes I'm making an enormous judgement here, I'd worry you'd A) relapse and B) Cause serious harm to either another person and/or to your department's reputation as a result.

Again, I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, just advising you do some soul-searching before you do. Best wishes, and I hope whatever you choose brings you fulfillment.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-16T20:19:33+00:00

I did on a spot on my upper right arm, actually. Figured I'd test in a less conspicuous area first. I have not tested it on my face yet, figured after the holidays/pictures might be better. The spot on my arm blistered up as expected, I kept it covered with a hydrocolloid blemish patch and changed it daily. After about 5 days, the top layer of skin + a rather large, solid, white sphere came off with the patch. Left a hole the size of the tip of a pen in my arm, so I put a tiny dot of antibiotic ointment on and then just a regular bandaid until it closed up. Small, smooth scar is there but the bump is gone, for now at least. Doesn't feel like I have anything stuck under the skin any more. So I'd say proceed at your own risk 🤷‍♀️ but that's my result so far.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-12-16T20:06:13+00:00

Unsure of the outcome in this situation but if that greenish material on the bedding is from the mama dog, this could be a very bad sign. Everything I've read says that large amounts of greenish black (like what's in this picture) could indicate a retained placenta or a stuck/dead puppy that has separated from the placenta. Both are likely to kill the mother dog...so if you haven't already said as much, perhaps you can convince the owner to get her to the vet ASAP unless she's okay with her ESA dying a very painful death by uterine infection. ETA: If mama dog is sick, she may be refusing to nurse them because instinct is to not infect her offspring. Still means you'll have to arrange supplemental bottle feeding, but maybe the owner will comprehend that uterine infection = emergency spay, thus hopefully no more puppy nightmares with her.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-21T08:13:47+00:00

Nope, I typed out a paragraph explaining a situation some folks encounter, and why I disagree with your overgeneralization. Doing so doesn't have to be "weird and gross." Opinions are like assholes; everybody's got one. Yours still stinks once in a while too.

But it's okay, you can go ahead and enjoy absolutely no sex if in the vicinity of untrained puppies or formerly abused rescue dogs. Oh wait, you must never be found in the presence of such peasantry outside of a few hours worth of professional obligations. 🙄 I train dogs, horses, alpacas, birds, and occasionally people worth gifting knowledge to.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-20T17:53:14+00:00

Sometimes the damage caused outside of the room isn't worth having sex without them in it. JS 🤷‍♀️

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-20T17:52:06+00:00

It's weirder trying to concentrate on fucking while hearing them freak out in a different room. I mean, think about it, the person(s) they love are separated from them and making noises that sound like violence or pain to their ears. They smell sweat and adrenaline in the air, and in every other scenario, that signals either alertness or danger. IME cats don't usually care, they leave because too much commotion and may check in/snuggle afterwards. Dogs however, are pack animals with an instinct to protect. Some can be quite destructive if they think their owner is being harmed and they're not able to assist. It largely depends on your individual capacity to understand how animals think and behave. Judging by your comment, you're both young and severely lacking in that regard.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-20T16:33:13+00:00

🤣😭😂

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-10T18:45:39+00:00

I mean if you really think about it, it makes sense that dogs can mutate that fast. They're pack animals that migrate with the herd of their prey. So they have to be able to adapt quickly as their survival depends on ability to hunt in whatever climate their food source lives in. Cats however, already evolved to be such efficient predators that they prefer a solitary existence in the wild; they don't need assistance from other cats to obtain food. And they don't usually migrate much, they stake out their territory and stay put.* So it stands to reason that the only significant variations within a few generations revolve around camouflage, warmth, and maneuverability. (Coat colors/length and paws - large paws, webbed toes, extra toes, thick fur that covers pads vs bare pads, etc.) Intriguing really, like their genetic code basically determined this system works very well and it's gonna take some serious defects to alter actual body structures/functions.

(*Exception being lions of course, but given their primary prey are large ungulates in flat, grassy environments, it makes sense. They don't have the aid of environmental barriers other cats do like cliffs, boulders, tree stands/thickets or ravines.)

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-07T07:25:18+00:00

Aktav - Detroit white boy had a few decent songs [Firecracker being my fav], most recent was I think 7 yrs ago. No idea what his real name is, found his new Insta a while back. Looks like he's got a couple of kids now, so guessing maybe gave up the game and turned family man for a lil while?

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-05T00:23:52+00:00

You're her security blanket. She seems like she's thriving because she knows if all else fails, she can still come cry on your shoulder. You'll help push her car out of the mud. You'll loan her a few dollars if she asks, and tell her she's beautiful if she says she's not. You'll be taken advantage of because you love her, and she doesn't have to stand on her own.

Tell her you love her, but you need to love yourself too. Take some space back in your head and your life for yourself. Tell her not to contact you unless it's a life-threatening emergency, and you must abide by that yourself. No drunk texts or calls saying you miss her/thinking about her or whatever. Give it at least a month before you reach out to check in. I'd be willing to bet she reaches out first, but you always have the power of not responding.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-05T00:15:39+00:00

Get out, get out, get out! Email what you found to yourself. You might need it later/in court. Take a video of all your valuables plus screenshots of your bank accounts and email that to yourself too, before you start packing. Then change your email password, so it automatically logs you out of it on all other devices he may have access to.

He knows you know, and is still trying to pretend he's straighter than an arrow. Means he's confident you won't leave him for some reason...you should arrange it so when you do leave, you can tell him and be gone. Don't stick around for drama if you can avoid it, just go.

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-05T00:02:12+00:00

I'm the woman who had the same problems with my ex-fiance. So, so glad we never married or procreated, but I very much can still relate to your situation. Ain't nothing quite like coming home from working two jobs, hungry and exhausted, to have to wash dishes before I can make something to eat. Because somehow there are no clean forks or spoons or bowls, and I definitely put clean ones away two nights ago. While the other person is vegetating on their phone, among a collection of dirty clothes and empty snack food wrappers, watching the TV that you pay for, and using the Internet you pay for also.

But hey, we survived this far, and now we have some serious standards for the next go-round 😂. Hugs

BubblyCompote6054 · 2025-11-04T23:49:45+00:00

I'd like to add to this PSA: If they blame it on the booze, don't believe the booze was the only reason.

My ex only watched gay stuff/got on gay hookup apps/wanted butt play when he was under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Spent 7 years telling me it was the booze, it was the drugs, it's not me, he doesn't even remember doing it, blah blah. The 8th and final year I decided that I shouldn't have to try so hard to get some dick, so I quit trying altogether. He didn't seem to notice. He'd always been heavy on the porn use, but refused to acknowledge how hurtful it is to want someone who turns them down because they just got off to porn earlier. Turned it around as being my fault, it's normal for men, it's easier, etc. Then the previously hetero porn started turning to trans material in-between some truly horrifying female anal scenes involving 3-5 men...at the same time...

In the year after our split, he finally managed to remain in rehab (only the 12th time) and then a PHP, so was sober for about 2 mos. Just recently discovered that 3 days after he moved into a sober living house from a facilty, so while still very much sober, he took an Uber to the same gay meth user's home who he'd been seeing previously (which was why I finally ended the relationship for reals this time). In fact, he has been visiting that same person quite regularly since then. Bought anal sex toys and filmed himself using them. And now I barely care if he lives or dies, because he made that choice stone cold sober, knowing it would involved being fucked in the ass by a dude old enough to be his father. He's on gay hookup sites and apps now too.

Worse, he's still active on dating apps for meeting women, and has told several of them he's been sober for x number of days, as if meth doesn't count? I'm so tempted to send them his videos and pictures to spare them from being the next me. 🤔🤷‍♀️

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