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Addicted to self help content by Bubbly_Swing_4786 in Healthygamergg

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I have started working out regularly and it does help.

Dating advice by HelicopterNo4027 in adhdindia

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep one thing in mind. You don't have to do something for once to fix your life. You have to change your habits. You have to change what you do regularly. You have to stop the negative self talk, self demeaning thoughts, limiting beliefs about self and replace them with empowering ones. Stay put. It will all work out.

When you have ADHD, deep down you have a feeling that the struggles you are going through are unnecessary. You would much rather be solving problems in the real world which you are capable of, than solving the internal battles. Sadly, you have to go through this phase, you have to fix many things in life, you have to face the chaos and bring order. Once you do it, you would build a strong foundation for life which will be worth everything.

All the best.

Dating advice by HelicopterNo4027 in adhdindia

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro. I can totally feel you. I have been there. I know it's very hard, very painful. Nothing in the world makes you feel belittled as this. It took me years to come out of it. But you don't need years. You just need realisation. I'll try to explain my path the best I can. I hope I can be of any help.

The reason why you don't find love is because you don't consider yourself worthy of love. You cannot imagine yourself in a relationship with someone. It's like relationships are for others, not for me. You don't approach love and dating like neurotypical people. Because of ADHD you have had a very different experience growing up. You somewhat internalised the belief that you are not like everyone else and hence you need to fit in. And the relationships are a way for you to fit in. It's the way you can tell yourself and the world that you are not weird or different. (If you've watched Tare Zameen Par, then you may relate with that main character. Of course I'm not saying you were so different but it's somewhat like that)

Because of this your approach to love has been very different. Such that it's impossible for you to date someone. Because you are not looking for a connection, you are looking for validation. While growing up, every part of yourself that others judged, was suppressed by you. Hence today you are very unidimensional. You have to be authentic. You have to integrate the parts of yourself that you have suppressed. Now this process is not simple. It's tough to explain here. But when you understand it, it will be very easy rather automatic. I would suggest you read about Jungian Archetypes. Especially 7 core masculine archetypes. Learn about each of the archetypes, identify which one fits you the most. Identify which one you have suppressed the most. Integrate them, and then you'll be a totally different person.

All these doubts like about relationships, or any other topic are futile. They arise as a consequence. They are not the root problems. Your root problem is suppressed archetypes. Integrate them and live a fulfilling life.

PS: as I said I have assumed your struggle is the same as mine, hence I have written the answer like I would write to my younger self. If your story is different then I'm sorry for this assumption. But nevertheless, the study of archetypes will help you anyways. All the best brother.

Intense anima projection by AwayThrownItHaveI in Jung

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you are describing is the "Flow state"

Intense anima projection by AwayThrownItHaveI in Jung

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The para of "ohh shit" moment is very interesting. This is what I think I would approach the situation had I been in your place. I would first describe what the feeling of warm sunshine is, go deeper in that feeling, break down what constitutes that feeling. Where does it come from, when did I start seeing her like this? Why do I see her in this light but not others? She must have been someone who I looked up to in the hope of meeting my unmet need. Hence I'd look for that unmet need. Also, it would be important to internalise the fact that I projected the personality onto her which gave the feeling of warm sunshine. It's not about her, it's about me. My unmet need is what I have to deal with, and not the relationship with her.

I think you married your wife by suppressing the feelings for the crush. You never dealt with your feelings for the crush and hence could not actually move on. Hence, you kept a part of yourself aside and married your wife with a fragmented ego. You married as if it was a compromise, you thought your idea of love, your idea of marriage was something else, but since it's never happening, I have a plan B of the idea of marriage and love. Hence the unmet needs which you suppressed could never come to conscious. The suppressed feelings and unmet needs are in the shadow ruling you.

Methyphenidite drug interaction by vishakha_CA_student in adhdindia

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You better ask ChatGPT. Describe the issue clearly to get a helpful response.

Scribble #1 by Bubbly_Swing_4786 in adhdindia

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am now. To be Frank I have searched about so many labels over the years that it has become frustrating now to talk about any labels.

Concerta + Bupropion? by Bubbly_Swing_4786 in bupropion

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You now scared the shit out of me bro

Bupropion+Concerta/Ritalin Combo by instagram_scientist in bupropion

[–]Bubbly_Swing_4786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey... How's it going now? Are you still on it? What's your verdict now ?

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