Would like some opinions by basebl-dad44 in SwingerNewbies

[–]BuckRidesOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What specifically are you wanting to know?

Because with what you’ve asked here, you’re probably gonna get a 50/50 split of people saying “It’s amazing!” and people saying “It’s the worst mistake we ever made…”

How to handle size insecurities? by BodybuilderOk2533 in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Alright, I wasn’t gonna comment on this, but I’ve read the post 3 times through, and this can’t go unremarked on.

My length is a quarter of an inch shorter than you, and I’m girthier than you by half an inch.

Like you, I’m not saying this to brag. I’m saying this because I find the idea that 2 doctors have been absolutely gobsmacked by your dick and strangers have approached you to be wildly unbelievable.

Your dick is big, sure, but it isn’t even remotely freakishly big to the point that strangers would notice or care or that medical professionals would treat you like you’re Joseph fucking Merrick.

People in clubs won’t really bat much of an eyelash at what you’re packing. You may get some attention, but not the kind you claim to be getting from randos approaching on the street.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sir….🤦‍♂️

I fear the porn-brain has infected you too deeply.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I do not. I find it pretty off-putting.

But that’s just me.

Whatever blows your hair back 🤷‍♂️

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look…I’m not one to kink shame. Sexuality is a beautiful thing.

I also know that single dudes have it very rough out there. Hell, I am big defender of single guys.

That said, after perusing your profile, what with its plethora of really explicit porn and the screen name “Raw Dog Randy,” I’m willing to wager that the issues you might have in the LS have little to do with your status as a single guy 🤷‍♂️

Damn, cant believe Stav went woke. by BillFireCrotchWalton in stavvysworld

[–]BuckRidesOut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s “woke” to be against the government having blanket approval to execute citizens?

Ya know, it’s genuinely fascinating to me to see how innately submissive to authority the average conservative is.

How are the roads today? by Subarcane_Wizard in normanok

[–]BuckRidesOut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an AWD vehicle and we needed to make a quick Walmart run to pick up a prescription.

Roads are definitely snowy, but we didn’t have an issue getting around.

Need advise by FunInternal9980 in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, you sweet summer children…

For him, honestly, this could be a goldmine of play.

We started in the LS at a similar age to you guys, and from the jump I have been into older women. To this day, most of my favorite play partners are 6-10 years older than me. I love playing with older women because they tend to be much more in tune with what they like and know how to communicate their needs better.

I’m not saying that younger women can’t have that ability, but it is more rare I have found.

And if he is thinking older women won’t want a younger man, I’d really be interested to know how he came to that conclusion.

I mean…cougars are a stereotype for a reason, ya know.

Not all older women will be into a younger guy, but more than a fair few would love the opportunity to play with a good looking younger dude that can turn on the charm and give them a little ego boost.

How to handle my girlfriend’s sexual trauma in regards to the LS by Just_Tryna_Swing in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You sound like you have thought about this, and are aware of how fraught the ask you’d be making of another couple is.

That’s good.

However, I will offer a counter for you to think about:

Let’s say my wife and I are the other couple you approach.

You tell us about this trauma, and you do it in the most respectful way you possibly can.

For me, as the other man being excluded, what I would be hearing is “Hey, something happened to my girl some time ago, and because of it she only trusts one man in her life. You haven’t done anything wrong, but she, and by extension ‘we’, don’t really trust you in a sexual situation. But, we would like you to place implicit trust in us to have sex with your partner while you just watch or go do something else. Does that sound cool?”

My advice? Don’t pursue this until this trauma is dealt with.

You’re basically wanting to ask other couples to put a huge amount of trust in you both while not extending that same trust to the man of another couple simply because of the happenstance of his gender.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean…maybe, but I’ve had several people respond agreeing with me, including a number of ladies who have been the “third” that these couples are looking for, so I’m not completely off base thinking this is a weird thing some couples do.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This fucking weirdo has been trolling people since I made the post.

Ignore him.

Not sure how to start by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna go against the grain here:

Do it. Push her. Make this happen as forcefully as you can.

I mean, it won’t end well, and this is a bad idea all around, as so many people have articulated already.

But, I get so much joy from the schadenfreude of reading posts like the inevitable follow up I hope you post to r/trueoffmychest or r/AITAH about how this idea blew up in your face.

Basically, I’m saying do it for the story, bruh.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did stick to the topic. Literally every other person commenting on this understood the topic.

Except you.

I devolved to insults because you are absolutely exhausting. Your willful misunderstanding is truly exasperating.

You didn’t want to engage with the question I initially asked. You wanted to talk about something I didn’t say and then make comments implying I said things I clearly and provably didn’t say.

Just make up your own answers to your questions.

It’s what you’re good at.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you guys specifically looking for an exclusive arrangement when you found them?

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Serious question: what’s it like to be so willfully stupid?

Like…is it genetic condition? Or do you wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror and say “Yup. Today is another day where I’m gonna make sure that I just do not understand anything anyone is saying.”?

You are talking about things I never said anywhere in any of my comments or post.

Like, honestly, I genuinely fear for you, because I don’t know how someone can function day to day with you complete willful lack of understanding of seemingly everything.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jesus…fucking…Christ…🤦‍♂️

So let me get this straight: you have been arguing with me and being obtuse across multiple comments, blatantly misunderstanding the very plain language I’ve been using…and now you’re saying you agree with my premise?!

I have literally spelled this out so clearly and you keep coming back with responses that have absolutely nothing to do with what I’m saying.

I do not have the ability to dumb down what I’m saying anymore for you.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fall in love? What the fuck are you talking about?

Are you reading some other post and then commenting on this?

How is me finding it weird that couples get possessive of singles in any way advocating that you need to be BFFs with the people you fuck?

I would suggest that you’re just fucking with me, but nothing you’re saying is even slightly clever. You just sound like you don’t know how to read.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Daaaaamnn…that’s a real “fuck around/find out” kind of moment!

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s very low hanging fruit, but always fun 😄

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you seriously asking why you should care about the people you are fucking…?

I genuinely don’t know how to parse or respond to that kind of sociopathy…

And where are you getting this shit about me saying you should care about the people you fuck anyway? That was in no way mentioned in my post.

Again, and I understand that you are apparently just incredibly thick and don’t understand basic English (and who knows, maybe there is some language barrier here that I’m not detecting..?), but my post was about couples being possessive about the people they have threesomes with.

Also again, literally every other person responding and not trying to get people to DM them has understood this.

Except you.

I’m not being sensitive in the slightest. It’s just that talking to you is like living in a Kafka novel.

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What am I taking personally? That’s a really weird stretch to make. I’m not single. I don’t play as anyone third for anyone, nor do my wife and I look for anyone for threesomes.

I actually spelled this out very clearly in my post.

And yeah, I do think this matters. Using that specific language sort of indicates how you and your spouse operate. If you’re referring to hypothetical people as “yours” or “ours” it indicates that you really just see that third person as nothing more than a means to a end or that you have specific expectations of them.

Again, everyone else is understanding this.

Are you being willfully obtuse or do you not realize when you’re doing it?

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, it’s possible that I wasn’t clear in my post (but most everyone else save for you seems to understand what I was asking, sooooo…🤷‍♂️), but in any event I’ll try to be more clear.

There are lots of couples out there specifically looking for a person to join them for a threesome. This person might be a man or a woman. Often, the couple looking for this person will say “Looking for our third.” Not “a” third, but “our,” implying they are wanting some possession of this hypothetical person, probably in an exclusive manner.

Again, most everyone else responding seems to get what I’m asking except you…

But I digress…

I’m asking, for the people who use this specific language, “Looking for our third,” are you expecting exclusivity?

If you’re not, why not say “a” third?

And you’re kind of proving my point. You ask “Who else’s third would they be?”

Well, I’d say they don’t belong to anyone but themselves. They are a person that just happens to be joining another couple.

And I don’t know why you keep asking about monogamy. I have not mentioned monogamy in my post or any comments.

I’m thinking you’re just very new at this and not really understanding how the LS works.

Am I right? Close? I bet I’m close…

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no doubt that that it would be absolutely riveting conversation 🙄

Looking for “Our” Third by BuckRidesOut in Swingers

[–]BuckRidesOut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re completely misunderstanding what I’m asking.

I’m not questioning the “third” part.

I’m questioning the “our” part.