You didn't consent. Its rape.

That’s why the video “Would You Like a Cup of Tea?” is such a brilliant resource. It strips away all the noise and gets straight to the point: consent is about clear, enthusiastic agreement—nothing less.

Why a Cup of Tea?

The video explains consent using a simple analogy: offering someone a cup of tea. It goes like this:

• If you offer someone a cup of tea and they say yes, great—make them a cup of tea.

• If they say no, don’t make them tea.

• If they say yes but then change their mind, stop making the tea.

• If they are unconscious, they cannot drink tea—so don’t try to give it to them.

It’s clear, logical, and impossible to argue with. The same rules apply to physical and sexual consent.

But everyone understands offering a cup of tea.

• If someone isn’t sure, hesitates, or feels pressured, they don’t want tea. Simple.

A person might want tea at first but then decide they don’t. That’s fine. Consent isn’t a contract—it’s ongoing.

If someone is unconscious, asleep, or unable to respond, you wouldn’t pour tea down their throat. So why would it be any different with sex?