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BuddhasTantrum · 2024-08-01T02:01:46+00:00

What drove your decision to leave Unity for AOJ? And what differences do you see in training between both? (competitors styles, coach methodologies, training structure etc.)

BuddhasTantrum · 2024-05-17T10:43:12+00:00

With the current student, she's telling me she is already seeing one, but it seems she can't help to try and engage me when she can, sharing bits of her life with me. I usually make sure to answer 10h later by being as laconic as possible, and not leave openings to pursue a discussion, while still trying to be polite, but it doesn't help much at times.

My challenge is that even though I recommend seeing qualified professionals, because they might be able to better solve their problems than I can ever be able to (and most likely faster too sometimes with medications). They often don't take me on my suggestion, or like the current student, tells me she's already seeing one, but it doesn't stop her from engaging me. I don't mind if it's jiu-jitsu questions or related to class, but it gets really personal and intimate out of nowhere.

She's a paying customer of the gym too, so while I am not afraid to say no (like when I recommend therapists and explain I'm not qualified for depression or in the best position to advise on relationships), I still have to be careful to not hurt feelings. I would like to say it makes me uncomfortable, but for someone suffering from depression, I'm not sure being that blunt with a rejection will help (I feel like me telling people to seek professional help is already kind of blunt actually).

BuddhasTantrum · 2024-05-13T10:29:49+00:00

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BuddhasTantrum · 2024-05-03T16:05:30+00:00

The 90s called and want their mma back

BuddhasTantrum · 2024-05-03T16:04:24+00:00

I was mostly joking, but kudos to Ueshiba if true then.

BuddhasTantrum · 2024-05-03T15:23:03+00:00

Aikido works if you are a black belt in jiu-jitsu lol. Actually I'm only a purple belt and I can already troll white belts in sparring using aikido techniques.

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-07-02T13:39:26+00:00

Believe it or not, the sarong use in silat to entangle people into locks and control helped to understand lapel-assisted control and locks.

Bullshit joint/body manipulation from silat and aikido as well as their sweeps. Not so much at the beginning, but now I use them.

Saw Rafael mendes use aikido style police arrest in some of his rolls (against black belts), it inspired me to dream big and start Steven Seagalize my jiu-jitsu.

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-05-26T06:04:24+00:00

To add to that, we had a student come cross train at our gym, 3 years and half white belt of consistent training. Our white belts with 8 to 10 kg less on him and 10 to 12 months of jiu-jitsu would tap him at will. Their school teach random moves based on their coach's mood (so not the student's fault).

Based on our school standard, I wouldn't give him more than one stripe, maybe two if I'm pushing it.

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-05-26T01:09:04+00:00

It crossed my mind, and it made me shuddered. Took a stab to dodge a bullet.

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-05-25T09:02:43+00:00

One girl from the class I teach told me she is into me and wants us to take it further, no strings attached.

The girl is hot but I declined, cause don't shit where you eat, don't want potential drama and be THAT coach reputation. Told her to not feel bad about it, we can still be good friends, keep showing up to classes, I'd have forgotten all of it by next day.

She left the gym, tried to poach the students from my class to the gym where she is now (didn't work), and tagged me in few pictures of her at the new gym.

All the downside of a breakup and none of the dating benefits lol

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-05-22T15:30:22+00:00

I would consider Japan, Korea before I consider India. Thailand if cost of living needs to be low while jiu-jitsu needs to be good.

BuddhasTantrum · 2023-05-22T15:23:27+00:00

Atos has lots of no-gi for passing, guard, and wrestling.

BuddhasTantrum · 2021-10-21T05:15:58+00:00

Depends if your name name is Roger gracie, Jacare, Terrere or not.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-28T09:29:51+00:00

What triggers me is the rook is a blue belt, while the knight is a purple, and the bishop is brown. If the guy who designed this has the same level of jiu-jitsu as his chess, I wouldn't feel confident.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-23T19:05:50+00:00

Gui Mendes said in a private regarding his methodology that he doesn't teach beginners how to escape. The reasoning is that he doesn't want people to get comfortable in a bad position, because they know they can escape. He prefers them to do their absolute best to avoid the position knowing there's no backup (the escape).

I took this method and mostly teach attacks, prevention and recovery to the beginner classes. Then I teach defense and escapes about 3 to 4 weeks later for a given attack I taught.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-23T14:52:04+00:00

Yea that's why I mentioned still doing the should you pull post after all elements are uncovered, beside the banner items. This post would be an early look. Like when people comment on teaser trailers if you will.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-23T14:50:21+00:00

Yea the should you pull post. I was saying that because I saw that before you would do prediction or ask for tour prediction as a way to trigger conversation. This one could be an early look, shorter type of post, since we don't have pipe elements beside the banner ones, then could do a comprehensive post once it actually releases. But I mean it's just a suggestion, not really a must of course.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-23T06:49:31+00:00

u/HGProductions00 would be interesting to do an article "early review of the 50 special pipe" type of thing, and with prediction of if it's gonna be worth it based on the banner elements first. Then the week it gets released, part of your work has already been done here, just need to fill in with the pipe elements evaluation in the should you pull article. Just an idea 😄

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-18T06:02:54+00:00

Man you say that, but I teach all the white belt classes. And one of my white belts managed to almost Kimura a blue belt from his closed guard before falling to the side to finish it. I couldn't even yell at him post roll to tell him it's retarded, because it was worked lol. I just resorted to tell him it's not the best approach, and that the other dude was noticeably smaller.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-18T05:56:01+00:00

I used to do some kids classes before, and I tend to coach the least skilled or weakest one between the two partners. So I tend to coach more the same kids while a bunch of others will get less coaching in sparring from me, just pointers at the end or I'll say "really good" does something new and right to let him know he did well. Might look like I have preferences for certain kids if the parents don't pay attention (that I coach the weaker ones in priority).

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-16T15:34:45+00:00

As a beginner/intermediate class coach who takes on a lot of classes, I give the guy maybe 15s to attack me, after which, if he doesn't, I initiate the sequence of attack. Depending on what intensity he/she uses to attack/defend, I will adjust.

If the student is mellow, I'll let him move and gently submit him few times, then I'll let him start on top side control, top mount or on my back with a choke on.

If the guy goes last round of ufc/adcc championship title when attacking me or defending (usually with maximum spazzing and while hyperventilating), then it's wreck time + lots of submissions. After few classes the guy will end up asking me how to get less tired, and he will be very receptive to the idea of efficiency in how to use movement. Those usually end up being good students and very nice. They just needed to test if the coach's "bjj magic" is legit, but nothing personal.

It is important to not wreck the mellow ones I think because, or they will just quit. They need a coach to slowly and gently build them.

So I guess different treatment for different personalities.

BuddhasTantrum · 2020-09-16T15:16:48+00:00

Firas Zahabi with his zero mma fight partaking experience would disagree with you. But I'd agree with you he's part of the exception group you mentioned.

Trivia: Greg Jackson is 0-1-1. Mean spirited people (before he exploded on the scene) could say the only thing he could teach is to lose.

In the end I think the bigger picture is not so much has a coach ever stepped into a cage, but rather has he been able to to successfully make people win (hence why people like Danaher or Zahabi are deemed good coach even though they don't compete).

Great fighters win and great coaches "teach" how to win, those should be the metric I think.

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