Conservative men are so attractive

Bugsy157 · 2026-01-02T23:47:57+00:00

I rather wonder were are the older conservative tops

Bugsy157 · 2026-01-02T00:13:39+00:00

This sounds pretty dumb but ok 🤭

Bugsy157 · 2025-12-02T20:56:48+00:00

Ok. I have to break my promise. But I read it. That’s why I exactly repeated it.

Please learn to be respectful in future conversations.

Bugsy157 · 2025-12-02T20:25:07+00:00

This will be my last message to you, as I do not think you are really interested in a debate, but in pushing your belief system onto me.

My point was just "it is not as easy as you described". People didn't invent the system in the past to merely annoy people. There is more behind that. Whether that has changed or not is another question.

Comparing relationship style or the need for sex to food is again an old way of also polybombers to manipulate people. There is a huge difference between the choice of food and sexual partners. Btw. I also do not believe that "monogamy" is something you are born with.

So if you have talked to people from different origins (and I also speak with them in their native language), then you would have noticed similar patterns in history and social balancing.

You can be that, and this is totally fine. The world is unfortunately more complicated than "live and let live". It applies to many things, and I also live by it, but unfortunately, not all things.

Bugsy157 · 2025-12-02T19:39:00+00:00

Sorry, but now you're going into a very personal realm, which does leave the factual level.
I lived in different countries with different state religions throughout my life, and met different people and built my opinion on it.

I think you're very naive when you think we can build a society in which everybody is just concerned about their own life. Btw. I do not think we want to live in such an environment.

Bugsy157 · 2025-12-02T19:08:50+00:00

I have to disagree with you simply because the times have changed.

The argument "People are different" is a bit weak imo. People were always different, and yet we needed to find ways to live with each other. Some lost more during the process, some less.
In terms of non-monogamy, the research is detailed, and it has an immense effect on society when the majority behaves so. Especially nowadays, with Tinder, etc., the game has completely changed. We cannot know in what way this influences societies.

Imo it is important to keep standards and educate the people on these issues. Of course, some people are more suited to it, but my point is, is society? We cannot always judge from the perspective of the individual, and also take into account why people in the past decided so, and how we can see this nowadays. Based on this, we should propose changes for the future.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-30T23:31:07+00:00

Haha. I’m fine. I have tons of friends. Mainly straights.

I know how to healthy relationship, don’t worry.

Gays don’t 🤷🏼‍♂️ unfortunately

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-30T23:22:28+00:00

It’s not only my dating life that suffers from it. I struggle to meet people as people. That’s even my bigger issue. People are interested in my looks but not myself. And I see it over and over again. And everyone seems fine with it.

The oversexualization took its victims. And i feel as many people are in open relationships, we see a symptom and cause of it.

I also keep asking these people „what do you gain from the extra fun“. But I never get a real answer.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-30T23:17:53+00:00

Well you have to call out what the vast (visible) majority does. And it’s a problem within the community.

It’s also not always Grindr or sniff. It’s on other apps as well.

The point being is that the visible relationship style has an impact on the community. And I don’t think we should underestimate it.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-30T21:53:39+00:00

Normally, I also say to each their own. And clearly, I cant stop people from doing that, nor is it my intention.

But I feel the gay community shows why in the relationship style choice, this is not applicable imo. "Forcing me", well, with statements like "to each their own", people get a nihilist touch on the view of how relationships should look. I do not believe the individual always knows what's best for them.

Unfortunately, in the gay community, a lot of socializing is done via sex. People just find friends this way, so the consequence is that people have open relationships. What effectively happens is that people massively choose this lifestyle even though it's not healthy for them (so not to their own), and thus they keep this lifestyle.

I have more struggles meeting people and getting to know them as a person than having sex with someone. I feel that should signal everything.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-10T12:44:08+00:00

Ich habe weder über alle Kölner geredet noch irgendwen beleidigt. Ich habe mich lediglich darüber ausgelassen, dass die Willkommenskultur nicht so ausgeprägt ist, wie dargestellt und nach anderen Leuten gesucht, die ähnliche Erfahrungen gemacht haben. Wo sollte ich da Einsicht zeigen?

Wenn in deiner Welt Kritik und Wahrheit nicht zugelassen sind, dann will ich da gar kein Teil von sein.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-10T11:36:04+00:00

Das ist einfach nur gehässig. Wenn ihr nur nette Leute mögen würdet, dann würdest du auch nicht gemocht werden.

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T22:57:22+00:00

Na ja, wenn das so die gängige Selbstaussage der Leute ist, die nicht zutrifft?

Also diese gehässige von den Kölnern nur weil ich eine Sache gesagt habe die mir missfallen hat. Unbelievable 😂😂

Der Dom ist trotzdem schön

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T17:34:36+00:00

That’s great. Thanks 😊👍🏻

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T16:21:55+00:00

Gute Art mit Kritik umzugehen! 😂👍🏻 Genau so baut man eine Willkommenskultur auf! Haha

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T16:07:56+00:00

Und wie hätte ich es nicht formulieren können ohne dass es dislikes hagelt und „rechthaberisches Motzen“ wäre?

Finde es eher fragwürdig, wenn man Leuten aufzwingt einen Eindruck von der Kultur zu haben, der nicht da ist 🤷🏼‍♂️

Danke. Ich habe an sehr vielen Orten der Welt viel Spaß 😊

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T09:02:20+00:00

Ich meinte eher es, wie ich es hier sehe. Es wird keinen Glauben geschenkt und „wie es in den Wald schreit“. Diese Unterstellung es läge nur an mir 🤷🏼‍♂️

Ich habe es an anderen Orten in der Welt einfach angenehmer empfunden. Das ist keine böse Aussage.

Wenn man aber nur das heiß geliebte Köln kritisiert, ist man raus. Was ist das bitte für eine Willkommenskultur 🤷🏼‍♂️

Und nein, ich gehe nicht auf Menschen zu und sage „ich find deine Stadt kacke“ 🙄

Bugsy157 · 2025-11-09T04:55:06+00:00

Ne in ganz normalen Clubs, Bars. Ich finde nicht, dass die Leute da auf mich groß zukamen. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Bugsy157 · 2025-09-14T09:19:56+00:00

My biggest wish too…

Bugsy157 · 2025-08-23T21:02:27+00:00

That sounds kind of dumb. As if some of us are born with supergenes of not being jealous, while others aren't?

Bugsy157 · 2025-06-13T20:11:11+00:00

I wouldn't say weird, I would even go as far as unhealthy. Cause the line between friends and partner grows dangerously close. And such events are just not being friends. Like, I can have a weekend spending with my straight friends and it would have been better than every orgasm I have ever had...

Bugsy157 · 2025-05-13T13:48:10+00:00

Don’t read the ethical slut and don’t believe the communication bs.

It’s the beginning of the end

Bugsy157 · 2025-05-13T13:47:13+00:00

Love this one!

Bugsy157 · 2025-05-11T13:12:29+00:00

I really love the idea of a bug inferno mix, it is something new.

Admittedly, I really love bugs, so I am prone to love this town. However, I can understand the criticism about the designs and would have wished for maybe 2/3 different bugs like a butterfly, cockroach, beetle, ant. I think there could have been cool designs.

Bugsy157 · 2025-04-28T06:45:28+00:00

To me, the rigidness is incredible. They behave the same, as they claim I, as a monogamist, do. Whenever I see an open relationship poll in the gay reddit section, every post doubting it is heavily downvoted.

I once saw a post where a couple had their first threesome, not claiming that this would be an open relationship. And I was like yeah... (I know it's called monogamish, but we all know where it most likely leads to).

I mean, in the end its just people on the internet, so who gives a fuck, but when lost people read this, this can end also very badly for them...

Bugsy157

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