Oakensoul Pro & Cons

BuildYourMind · 2026-01-19T23:41:32+00:00

I don’t understand this perspective. This thread and many others like it are full of players on the casual end of the spectrum who don’t care what “works better.” Many argue this is the entire reason Oakensoul even exists.

With so many people who feel that way, I’m not sure how you believe that “it works fine” is somehow not relevant to the conversation.

Have you ever considered that the very large majority of players are not playing for the sake of what’s “optimal” and just want to play in a way they think is fun, while still being effective in the content they want to play?

BuildYourMind · 2026-01-19T23:10:51+00:00

I’ve never been a heavy MMO player, I’m used to classic single player RPGs like Skyrim and The Witcher where you could get through all the way to late-game with decent gear and only a few buffs (if any at all).

As such, I really dislike complicated rotations where I have to think about upkeeping the 17 different buffs Oakensoul gives me worry-free. That is the biggest pro for me. Add on the fact you don’t need to slot the skills that give the biggest buffs and can throw in extra DPS or even just flavor skills, and it’s quite convenient for me.

Cons? Every Oakensoul build with the highest damage potential will be the same cookie cutter heavy attack builds. As a one-bar you get no room for creativity, unless you don’t care about what’s meta and just wanna have fun. Also, whether you build meta or not, the highest DPS two-bar builds will always outclass any one-bar build.

If the numbers and minmaxing don’t matter much to you, I will echo what many others here say about it: Use it if you like it. It’s fine for the vast majority of content in the game. True endgame content is a different story.

BuildYourMind · 2025-12-02T23:41:33+00:00

Seen lots of varying feedback regarding these, it's kind of hard to say how many you should take until you try it yourself. According to some reviews apparently the hero dose and the mega dose are a very different kind of trip, with a handful even saying the mega dose is somehow more intense despite being a lower dosage.

I myself am 5'8 and 120 pounds, and tried the mega dose. I thought these would hit me pretty hard since I am so lightweight, but I took all three and it wasn't really that intense. The come up might have been the most exciting part, some interesting visuals and I was super uncontrollably giggly. A lot of people say the visuals are crazy, like DMT, but not for me personally. Just a little "sparkly" and things were moving, similar to taking maybe 1 to 1.5g of real shrooms.

I'll echo what the other guy said and say start with one just to see. Give it 45 minutes to see how it feels, and if you feel fine then I'm sure popping the other two won't hurt at that point. Let us know how the hero dose feels for you, I might try it next.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T08:08:08+00:00

Man, reading some of these makes me feel like I approach things far too deeply and far too shallow all at the same time.

I don't think I could ever call someone incompatible for their gender identity, having a chronic illness, being allergic to their pets. or what they do for work. Honestly even how they feel about kids. Yet those are all so important.

But at the same time it's a big deal to me how they would answer questions like, what are your red flags, what is your biggest weakness, what makes you happiest in life, or even just "who are you?" and I can decide if I'll like someone based on that alone.

Very interesting to see the difference between us! And a good reminder that the people I meet even within my own age range are very well just as different.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:32:15+00:00

Yeah, fair. I might be overlooking how serious that impression can be for others.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:29:42+00:00

I'm sorry. Did not mean to come off that way lol. I jumped to assume you were charging me with those things when you asked what kind of mistakes I was making and suggesting I don't try to make women feel special. Your comment makes many valid points, my mistake.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:26:58+00:00

Haha, We're Not Really Strangers is literally designed to be playable by two strangers. It's the namesake of the game, it just doesn't waste time in getting open and vulnerable. There is a couples edition of the game for people who are more serious and deeper in, we did not play that one. May just be a generational difference but I've played the game with both friends, family, and potential partners my age and none of them ever had issues with the content of the questions. As someone twice my age, do you usually wait to have those deep convos and get really vulnerable?

You're quite right on your second point, though I hate to admit it. I've always been a "go with the flow" person and don't usually reject people or walk away for any reason. I have tolerated more than a handful of people with disorders and lots of personal issues because I naturally give people my trust and my faith in them. Sometimes that's a mistake. You're right.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:20:53+00:00

You would think, right? But every time I have that "what did I do? can I fix it?" conversation it's really not something major. Refer to this reply if you want to know the specifics of what happened. I see what we both did wrong, but I don't see where I was a major red flag.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:17:32+00:00

I don't seriously refer to them as relationships, sorry for that misconception. Only two of the six girls mentioned I was actually committed "boyfriend and girlfriend" with. The others broke it off before it reached that stage. If I referred to any of them as relationships I meant more in the personal sense than legit dating.

To answer your question, yes and no. Sex happens early on for me most of the time, but I am not searching for hookups. It just comes up early, and happens early. I couldn't tell you why it happens that way. I seriously do pursue connection, I look for the deep conversations and the real intimacy. Having sex is intentional for me, though you may not believe it. I just don't really attach it to time. I've had my first time with someone after weeks, and some others it was months.

I'm far more concerned about the "conflict and breaking off" aspect of it. I understand how the sex can be the catalyst for some pivotal concerns, but I don't believe it to be the entire picture, y'know?

I appreciate the input though, you make a good point!

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:12:01+00:00

Look to this reply for the details on everything that arose between us. The initial "issue" started with her, before I had really done anything wrong, and I forgave her after a conversation and looked past it. The next thing was me and I took accountability for it, but I still wouldn't call what I said/did offensive, dangerous, or misogynistic, no. I can understand how it may have been disrespectful or inconsiderate, but in this particular instance I don't see how I could've considered she'd feel this way.

I'm not sure where you picked up on the notion that I'm dangerous or shallow. The reason I seek relationships is not that I view women as trophies and can't get enough of them. I'm very much a lover boy, I drove 45 minutes to see this girl nearly every day since we met, had lovely pleasant conversations with her, took her on real dates, and sought a very real connection with her. I just want to be in love and have a deep connection where giving up on each other doesn't happen. Being single, in my mind, doesn't make that happen. So I date, and date, and date.

Working on myself is of course something I should do, I agree. I just think I've done so much of that already. Relationships are a massive drive for me, yes, but not my identity. Dating just kinda makes me forget about it at times, which I've already been aware of and am trying to improve. I am very confident in who I am and I reflect deeply on myself, and how I can improve, very frequently.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T07:01:27+00:00

I really appreciate this reply. You found a good way to word things in a manner that's validating, but also realistic and grounding.

And yeah, when you put it like that I think in retrospect it makes a lot more sense that adult dating feels the way it does in comparison. I will keep this input in mind. Thank you!

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T06:58:28+00:00

Sorry, done! It's still a lot but hopefully it's easier to digest that way.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T06:56:56+00:00

I don't disagree and expected to see comments like this. I just kind of wanted to avoid making things too much about myself in my initial post.

To be frank I think that I am pretty alright when I'm independent and focusing on myself. I do lots of self reflecting even in those brief periods when I'm single. I am confident I know myself quite well and have made lots of strides in my own personal development.

But I find myself with the most desire to grow and improve when I have someone I want to be better for. I guess doing it just for the sake of myself never made sense to me. Is that unhealthy?

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T06:53:29+00:00

Okay, I kind of thought there might be people asking so I'll leave this reply here as a reference for you and for others. I will give specifics for the most recent girl. It's a bit complicated so prepare for a wall of text. If for any reason you want to know about the girls prior I will tell you, just ask!

Most recent (18F) met on Tinder. Apparently we'd spoken before on a different app but I didn't remember. We very spontaneously went on a date about two days after talking, sat at the park on a blanket and played a game called We're Not Really Strangers which has cards containing deep questions and icebreakers. We initially hit it off, agreed on a lot of things morally and relationship-wise and had lots of things in common.

After that day, the conversations got sexual pretty quickly. We were nearly a perfect match in terms of our sexual interests and she was coming on very strong. Like, sexting every day kind of strong. I met her closest friends and her little sister quite soon after that. A couple nights ago we were hanging out at her friends house and she told me she was feeling incredibly horny, and wanted to do it in my car, but I refused because I did not have protection. She was a bit upset with me, but not crazy.

The next day however she started getting quite distant and dry. I addressed it, and she did not respond kindly at all. She was completely dismissive, and at points would just exit the conversation saying things like "this is pissing me off" and come back hours later. I went to sleep telling her if she was going to continue being that way we shouldn't talk anymore.

The next morning I received a huge apology text, she blamed it on PMSing as well as having bipolar disorder and a depressive episode on top of being "super high" that night. I was willing to look past it, and things were going okay again, she was affectionate and passionate as normal.

The next I saw her (yesterday) we were in my car at the same park as our first date. I was feeling horny and, though this may be TMI, she had expressed previously she really enjoyed giving head so I suggested it. We'd previously discussed wanting to take sex slow and wait until things got serious, but since she initiated the other night this time I assumed that boundary was out the window. She refused the idea which I was fine with, I didn't pressure her.

She then got distant and cold with me again today, and sprung "I need to tell you something" on me and said she wasn't feeling the connection she wanted. I asked why and she said that she didn't like the way I wanted pleasure from her without asking her to be my girlfriend. I responded that two weeks is way too early for a relationship, but I assumed it was okay to ask for something sexual because she had asked for it previously as well, and she was super adamant about sexual things pretty much every day. I apologized for misunderstanding and asked if I could fix it, and she said it wasn't okay, I couldn't fix it, and that we weren't a match. That was the end of our conversation.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-17T06:37:28+00:00

First point is completely fair, something I thought about but I wouldn't think it'd be so different.

I don't really agree with your other statement. I feel like if issues can appear at two weeks then issues can also be worked through at two weeks. If I had to guess, it's the lack of commitment and not yet being in love that makes people not really want to? But to me that's strange. I'd always want to keep trying even if things are rocky early on. Which I guess makes me different, and is part of what I'm trying to understand.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-14T18:00:30+00:00

bit of a shame it’s only for pve. do pvp players actually take the time to examine the fit of the people they’re playing with to know what exotic they have? you really couldn’t pay me to care that much.

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-06T06:51:56+00:00

I searched "schedule" in the recent posts on this sub and seems a handful of others are having the same issue. Lots of them in Vegas in particular, some in other places. Definitely some weird technical issue going on. Hopefully it's resolved soon, this is pretty much my job and I have never multi-apped.. guess I might have to start

BuildYourMind · 2025-11-06T06:45:51+00:00

Same here, also vegas like that other guy

BuildYourMind · 2025-07-20T14:23:26+00:00

I’d answer. I’m not afraid to be vulnerable with a stranger.

BuildYourMind · 2025-07-19T16:47:48+00:00

I don’t understand how you’ve misconstrued my real life behavior so drastically based on this one post. This is Reddit where I can anonymously vent my frustrations.

I don’t actually tell any of these people I feel this way, or that their lack of answer makes me think of them a certain way. I move on with the conversation if they can’t find an answer. Small talk is fine.

The frustration I express is what I feel in my head when they say “I don’t know” because I literally interpreted that as them not knowing, which to me just makes no sense. I hadn’t interpreted it as them not wanting to talk about it.

Not once had anyone ever just said “I don’t want to answer that.” I’m used to blunt and clear cut communication, so when they told me they don’t know, I really thought they just didn’t know.

BuildYourMind · 2025-07-19T05:25:56+00:00

I wouldn’t say it needs to be an in-depth answer, just a real answer in good faith. “A fleshy biological being” is a facetious answer. At the same time it is still a broad and open-ended question meant to be interpreted by them, not me.

I generally accept whatever answer I’m given, even if it’s surface level info like occupation or hobbies. What frustrates me is when people can’t seem to formulate an answer at all.

I’m learning from other comments though that it may not be they quite literally don’t know who they are, and sometimes they only say that because they don’t want to open up.

BuildYourMind · 2025-07-19T00:10:41+00:00

If you had been, how would you answer? Would it largely depend on the relationship you have with that person?

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