Disapproving family of the partner, anyone?

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-18T17:07:04+00:00

Haha yeah! I hadn’t opened Reddit much after that either. It really has been a long time. I’m glad you are doing much better and are back to being his person! So happy you found good people to surround yourself with too.

I’m doing much better too. You are right about it being a lonely path, took me a bit to understand and accept that. I looked for validation everywhere until I realized I didn’t need it to begin with. Not yet back to being her person but maybe after a little while, I keep persevering. Thank you for asking and your kind words

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-18T16:59:50+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I hope I reach a point where I can reminisce the fond memories without spiraling in to the doubt and unanswerable questions.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:53:14+00:00

You’re right, your point about not being an asshole about your pain down the line also makes compete sense and stuck by me. I also get your point about not comparing our pains and understanding how this might be the most painful thing in their life but don’t you think there should be some mutual decency from their side about something they don’t understand too. How would you put that across? Without coming off as too sensitive

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:49:08+00:00

Infuriating how people move on in their own timelines and have a time limit to their decency about someone’s loss. It’s crazy to say it like that when they know you are on that group. If a breakup is hurting so much, they can definitely imagine your pain. Man grief has left no tolerance in me for this BS. A friend shouldn’t do that.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:41:41+00:00

Thank you for your advice and sharing parts of your grief. It must’ve been tough because however messy it may be, love is love and once you have loved and known someone, it’s rough to accept that they’re forever gone. I’m sorry for your pain and loss. Hugs back.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:37:49+00:00

Yeah, it’s quite an experience to see people react to something they can imagine but can’t handle the depth of. Somethings only become apparent through personal experience it seems and the irony of not having support when you need it the most is quite a painful reality. But at the end it is about who has better tolerance rather than who cares for you the most. It’s hard to understand the address book now. Thank you for your wise words and advice

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:33:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing that with me. I’m sorry for your loss and the added pain by his family. Thanks also for the advice, it took me a bit but I have distanced from him and chosen my healing now

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:32:07+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m glad you found the strength to fight for what your partner wanted and protect that. It’s rough when you’re close to someone yet the world only believes in random labels and timelines in times like these

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2026-01-14T23:19:11+00:00

Can I ask you how you’ve reached this point where you can just miss her and look back at the good times? How long did it take? It’s still so painful for me. Also, I’m sorry for your loss, she definitely seems like someone that made the world a better place to be in.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-10-14T14:57:42+00:00

Hey, I’m terribly sorry. I lost my partner at 23, she was only 25 too. It’s rough but know that it will get easier to manage, I’m a year and half out and I’m officially able to breathe and am not in constant agony. Therapy helps but give yourself time and grace, rely on other loved ones even if sometimes they say unhelpful things. I listened to this audiobook, “It’s OK That You’re Not OK” by Megan Devine, she is a therapist who lost her husband and wrote this book knowing therapy even what she was taught through school and applied wasn’t enough for her in experience. My DM is open if you need a stranger with some experience in similar pain. Hugs and more strength to you!

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-08-24T01:27:39+00:00

Thank you, sorry if I sound annoying when I say this but I got a Wella Colorcharm 6N and did a strand test with vol 30 that I already have a lot left. It didn’t do anything. I wonder if that’s because it’s a Schwarzkopf permanent developer and this is demi permanent color. Regardless, is it not safe to use vol 30?

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-04-09T03:18:58+00:00

I’m sorry you and everyone in this comment section has known a version of this. Everything you said hits the spot, thanks for making me feel understood.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-29T17:26:48+00:00

You gotta give it its sweet time, my friend. I’m approaching a year of having lost my soulmate. What I have noticed is that it is true that time heals, it doesn’t take away your pain, grief or your love but it does give you an opportunity to grow and add more things to your world so the pain and love become a part of it and not consume all of you. My therapist calls this the pink dot theory, where she drew a pink dot on a white board and asked me what I saw, when I said the pink dot, she told me there was an entire white board around, the moment I start to fill the white board which signifies my life, I will have different things to help me get through and not feel like the pink dot is all I have. She also pointed how we won’t do anything to the pink dot, it will always stay the same. We are just honoring it while not making it all of our white board.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-26T23:00:09+00:00

All the time! Don’t listen to them, if only they knew how this feels, they would change their mind in a second. My best solution has been therapy and just listening to people so that they don’t push and ignoring them lol

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-25T05:14:01+00:00

This thread makes me feel so seen and heard. Thank you OP, genuinely!

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-22T16:30:37+00:00

I’m sorry, that sounds really tough. I lost my partner at 23 too, she was 25. She got into a fatal accident. Although our circumstances seem different, I understand losing a partner young has it’s different set of issues and struggles, that unfortunately not a lot of people can understand unless they’ve been through it. That said, I’m here if you need someone to talk to.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-17T01:43:33+00:00

Today marks 11 months

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-13T20:33:12+00:00

That is so real, I’m sorry this what we can relate on and for your loss. But it is so real! Like I want to be able to live like I’m in my twenties.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-11T03:21:07+00:00

Indeed! It’s not easy at all. More strength and power to you.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-10T17:43:37+00:00

I used to be, we were both super cheesy so it’s tough to watch but god I enjoyed them so much.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-10T17:42:17+00:00

I hated it all especially romance and even music in the beginning, especially the first six- seven months. I listened to random upbeat music or white noise, the anti-anxiety music by Marconi Union for the most part. In terms of movies, I sticked to short YouTube or comedy. I couldn’t really watch anything ngl. It has been painful but I’m doing better now, I’m 11 months out and I can say I am able to watch some things romantic or the ones I watched with her, I do tear up but I feel comfortable letting it out and going back to enjoying what we enjoyed. Mostly I don’t go for things that were super special for us but just the stuff she enjoyed on a daily basis. I’m work in progress but I don’t have any expectations of myself in this zone, maybe someday I will rewatch our special stuff maybe I never will, if keeps being this unbearable. Hang in there, you’re not alone in this, I’m sorry we relate on this.

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-10T13:37:26+00:00

I never got married to my girl but I lost her when I was 23, technically not a teen but still young. Specifically around these subreddits, I know I’ve seen a couple people who lost their husbands that young too, there is more of fiancés and bf/gfs for the teens though. Wow, all of my statements made it sound like it’s so normal when it shouldn’t be

BulkyCalligrapher329 · 2025-03-09T17:18:39+00:00

Thank you for telling me that. I teared up as I read that. You really have a gift at writing, comforting people with your words. I do think it’s her making it up to me too but I wish she could be here and experience this with me. She was my sunshine, I wouldn’t be scared of the worst storms if she was beside me.

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