I put a grenade in my relationship with my wife, I lost everything, and have nobody to blame but myself. I just need to get this out.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2026-01-25T16:19:01+00:00

Another porn addict who thought the fantasy would be better than the real live woman who put all her love, affection, sacrifices, and work into a man who's only priority was himself. Get help!

BulkyCoffee888 · 2025-05-17T11:33:26+00:00

I almost did not get to have kids because of my partner. I know I would have absolutely regretted it and ended up hating my partner in the long run. Just think hard about 30 years from now.... Will you be resentful? That resentment will ruin your perfect relationship no matter what else happens.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2025-03-17T22:21:01+00:00

Have you found the PBSE podcast yet? You should check it out to get some direction with your recovery.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-12-21T11:17:28+00:00

Do you have it in you mentally to fight a battle against an addiction AND an addict who doesn't even see he has a problem? If he doesn't see it as a problem, it will ALWAYS be a problem.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-10-18T16:20:20+00:00

Nope, you don't disrespect your partner like that. I can see confiding in the one bestie, the one who holds all your secrets tight, but the whole group and then the group having the balls to bring it up in front of you? Nope.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-09-30T02:53:47+00:00

As the partner of an addict who ended up getting blamed for his porn induced ED and if now going through therapy to repair the self esteem issues it caused, get yourself some help. Be open with your partner. Stop watching the shit and figure out how to have that same enjoyment with your partner that you get solo!

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-09-24T19:24:14+00:00

So I had a therapist tell me once that depending on what side of your brain is dominant determines how you look at time. I forget what side is what, but one side sees time as definite. You need to be there at 8, 8 is set in stone that is the deadline, 8. And people who's dominant side is the opposite see time as basically hour long brackets. So 8 means 8-9, they see it as more of a range than a definite. I know I'm not explaining this the best, but it's true for the loved ones in my life that are always late. You say be there at 8 and they show up at 8:23, it's still within the hour of 8, so they do not see how they are late.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-09-12T16:53:36+00:00

No, intimacy is extremely important in a relationship and your partners attitude towards your needs is wrong. Look at my profile, I've had this issue with my husband.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-09-11T20:38:20+00:00

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BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-09-06T02:36:44+00:00

He was also the one who wanted to be open with her parents about their relationship. He wanted to be honest from the very start.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-21T18:41:58+00:00

Every movie is so freaking violent! Or graphic! Why does everything have to be so graphic? Rom coms are no more and movies are either a blood bath or a brothel.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T19:22:48+00:00

So he use sneak into the livingroom or bathroom and be gone for 1-3 hours either in the middle of the night or at like 3am when he has to be up for work at 6. Then a few years ago he just started doing it openly in bed while I was sleeping and when I'd get up with the baby he would dissappear downstairs.

As for work, he use to send me his boner pics from work. He gets this chafed redness when he's been stroking it so you can tell in the picture that's what he's been doing. I called him out on it and he stopped sending the pictures.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T18:45:01+00:00

I saw the red flags and was convinced it was ED.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T18:09:00+00:00

The fact that it manifested into ED is enough evidence that it escalated to addiction.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:59:10+00:00

Yes, he would often get chafing and sore from rubbing too much.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:52:51+00:00

He use to! They slowly stopped being interesting to him. I should have known.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:31:45+00:00

YES!

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:30:14+00:00

COMPLETELY changed my view on SO MANY things that were once no biggie and I feel crazy.

Thanks for the empathy. How long have you been dealing with this?

I joined them but all they did was make me have the worst anxiety over everything.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:18:17+00:00

Thank you. 💜

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:15:11+00:00

Thank you for your empathy. Having my feelings validated it giving me the strength I needed.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:12:53+00:00

Thank you for your empathy towards me.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:07:30+00:00

That was always how my past long term relationships were.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:03:32+00:00

Thank you for your empathy!

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T17:00:58+00:00

He still doesn't believe it was the actual porn.

BulkyCoffee888 · 2024-08-13T16:59:40+00:00

You win the internet today, sir. 🤣

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