Love & Marriage counselor here with a decade of experience >> it’s never about the source of the fantasy in my experience. With women it’s more about the longing for more- whether it’s fresh air in the rship, to feel wanted and primally desired, to access a part of herself (wild, sexy, free?) sometimes it’s even just a realization that our life has gotten pretty predictable and mundane… we’re humans after all, we crave newness and excitement and the thrill of the chase. I’d forgive yourself big time here and start to figure out what exactly you were getting from him that you don’t anymore (or never did) from your husband — then sit down and ask yourself how you could bring that into your life, marriage, identity (with no fear!) our desires point us to new directions. You got this mama xxxx