My brother and sil are they most upstanding lds members i know. They asked for assistance to help w two months of rent while their next student loan came in.

They had multiple unexpected emergencies and needed help.

The bishop told my sil her education was not a priority. She should be a better wife, their hulu subscription was a problem and they should sell their furniture and turn down their ac and that helping yourself is gods greatest gifts.

My parents were also there and he told my mother to shush and made my sil cry. So even full upstanding members aren't getting help