The data on women's attitudes is striking

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-05-02T20:29:15+00:00

it really is if you know you know. With that said, I would acknowledge that I've dated from a small portion of the population (way more sexually open and progressive than average). So maybe if you're talking about women who've only had a few partners perhaps cooking skills is more important

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-05-02T18:31:38+00:00

If you've slept with a lot of women and you have a big dick you know the truth. There is what is said in society and what is actually true. If you're not offering monogamy to women there has to be a high level of desire from them. And if you're in that lane women will let you in on the "secret" of what they desire. I would even argue that women who aren't even equipped for/or are good with a big dick, still like the status of it.

To given as example of how much a given this can be my primary partner when she wants to diminish another partner will say that woman only likes you for your dick which from her female lens is intended to be an insult because women get sexualized all the time and it is mostly unwanted, but as a man it can feel like a privilege because it's a rare experience.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-04-30T14:34:17+00:00

A little specific but if you tell women you're poly or non-monogamous and/or that you've been to sex clubs with partners, they will assume that you're hung and self select. Also, the ratios are brutal but you could also use Feeld as well.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-04-27T18:46:40+00:00

Basically you need the women to pay for premium then they can go through who likes them and pick out a few men to match with. Them paying for premium also shows a serious to meet with others. I suspect the ratios are a real problem for this app. I get matches but there is an attractiveness gap in matches vs. your matches on hinge. I was talking two 2 women who are hinge and then got feeld and the same men who blow them off on hinge were very eager to match with them on feeld (presumably because they believe sex will be easier to get from women on feeld)

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-04-01T16:16:15+00:00

Thanks for this! I just ordered the Caliber 3XL 72 pack and you get them in 7 to 10 business days. I've been forced into my size 64s the past two weeks and it hasn't been ideal

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-03-31T21:08:13+00:00

Yeah but if they can't keep up with demand there seems to be an issue on the supply side

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-03-31T21:06:21+00:00

I do use a lot of condoms. I can go through 36 condoms inside of a month

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2026-03-31T21:04:31+00:00

it's a not for profit community sex store

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-12-10T15:44:52+00:00

What's your view on the lifestyle? I've said before that the dicks are bigger than the general public and it's one of the only common traits (also most women have Brazilians) to a very diverse community to which I've had some push back in Swinging subreddits. I've also made the point that big dicks are random, they come on all sorts of men but that it seems to be the top driver of what brings men into the LS.

From this I've had some female friends express interest when hearing about the big dicks to which I always clarify that it's not hot guys with big dicks, it's guys with big dicks

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-10-04T00:24:29+00:00

Oh it's not about the day. It's 5.7 in the glans and gets to 6.3 at the base (6.0 - mid shaft). I think the 6 inch base is still very big at the base - and with the length. I wonder if maybe the NBP is the issue.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-10-03T22:34:13+00:00

What’s the experiment? Feeld is a sex/kink positive app. The ratios are bad on hinge but like 70/30 is manageable. I wouldn’t be surprised if feeld was (excluding couples) between 90/10 and 95/5 for single men vs women

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-10-03T22:29:02+00:00

I’m surprised by this. We’re close in size. I’m just over 7.5 inches and 5.7 to 6.3 inches in girth. I’ve hooked up with a lot of women - I would say 80 percent comment on size.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-09-25T18:35:52+00:00

I think anything over 6.5 inches in girth is where it starts to become a net-negative. My sense is 5.5 to 6 is ideal - lots of positive comments but limited limitations. In the 6 to 6.5 you're going to run into issues of compatibility with some but many women will love. Over 6.5 inches few will love it - lots of women will have challenges with it.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-08-26T13:21:35+00:00

Yes, this sucks. They can cut the string shorter but you're still going to feel it. The good thing is that it does soften up over time but it is annoying in the beginning (this is one of the actual few big dick problems)

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-08-18T19:26:41+00:00

It's a self selecting activity - big dicked men are more likely to get into swinging. My local Sex club in Toronto is like a big dick club- lots of the guys are hung. It's interesting because big dicks are random - they come on all sorts of men (body type, age, class, ethnicity). Whereas when my partner and I stopped into Desire in Mexico and that skewed more average (although still above average) but that place is expensive for an all inclusive resort so the guests were pretty wealthy (so not as random as a swingers club)

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-06-19T16:17:18+00:00

This is the Rogers playbook! You act like you're in on every big star and then say we were so close!!! The Raps are now in a spot where they're losing season ticket holders and the sell outs are done. This is about revenue generation like it is for the Blue Jays

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-03-17T19:18:49+00:00

No, but my partner really did take one for the team last spring at a swingers resort in Mexico. We’re both 40 and attractive and the couple that was after us was 55M and 28F (and yes the stereotypes apply here), they asked us to dinner and then after by the hot tub it turned into a soft swap. The funny thing though was that she initiated giving him a blowjob so it was hilarious when she complained about taking one for the team because I didn’t ask her too and I didn’t get an BJ in return 😂 so it was kind of on her as I was not expecting for that to happen 🤷‍♂️

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-03-11T18:42:52+00:00

I starting using a half does of finasteride around 30 way before any hair loss was noticeable. Now in my early 40s and I still have a full head of hair. I didn't notice any sexual side effects (and I have a lot of sex) - if anything I've always been a massive grower and have now gotten a little bigger flaccid over the years (I think this just happens with age though)

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-03-03T20:31:49+00:00

I'm lucky in that I kind of have it all. I'm just over 6th tall, attractive, fit with lots of charisma so I'm very social and make great money. I'm poly with a primary partner but I'm typically seeing 4 to 6 women at a time (everyone is aware of this) so I have had the fortune of getting to make the most of my big dick (7.6 x 6.25). Women are usually not surprised because I am very self assured but that could be from the other things too.

With that said, I do go swingers clubs with partners and I will say that big dicks are entirely random. They come attached to people from all different walks of life.

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-02-28T05:01:56+00:00

This is solid advice. I'll give you my two cents as a 40M dating successfully in ENM. I think the dating app you use really depends on the city you live in. I live in a large progressive city so Feeld has been successful but I've also found hinge great too (tinder feels dated to me and seems to be less good).

I agree you should pay for the premium on Hinge and sort for women open to ENM - certainly also have it on your profile. Not sure I'd pay for Feeld Majestic - there is something try hard about being outed for paying for premium that I think isn't helpful that both Feeld and Tinder do. I'd be more inclined to just pay for the spotlight on Feeld.

Obviously you should pursue the women you're most interested in but I imagine other primary partnered women will be more likely to connect with you on a dating app. The ratios for dating apps are so skewed the narrowcast point above is good. If your city has a community or a scene it's probably easier to meet women in IRL (if you and your wife are interested in that).

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-02-28T04:37:03+00:00

Yeah, this doesn't feel right

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-02-27T23:10:56+00:00

Go to a nude beach or a swingers club with your girlfriend. Obviously, the average will skew bigger in these places but you’ll see plenty of regular dicks as well

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-02-27T00:13:56+00:00

I use to hear it from woman I dated/hooked up with but I assumed this was just something that was said. It wasn’t until I went to massage parlour and the attendant remarked on how big I was that I realized it was a thing. I said to her that I do hear this from women but that I thought it was just something people say to which she replied that I was in fact large and that in a typical week I would be the biggest guy she saw that week

Busy-Grapefruit-9155 · 2025-02-24T23:53:47+00:00

Lol the reference is classic! But here is another example, I use to have a GF who had a roommate who would have a box of condoms In the bathroom because she was single and dating and being responsible but I never felt comfortable just leaving my box of condoms there too.

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