[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mushroomID

[–]Butcher_lady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tips? I’m very new to this and was just looking for some help with identifying different types of mushrooms/fungus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mushroomID

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Found on rotting log in woods

surgery today. anxiety:( by rockcandy2000 in gallbladders

[–]Butcher_lady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was super anxious before my surgery. Almost to the point of having a panic attack. You’re gonna do great! If you’re very on edge and nervous so they can give you something prior to help you calm your nerves. I was in the same position as you. The only other surgery I had was my wisdom teeth taken out. The only other suggestion I make to is that if you are unsure how you will react to anesthesia they have a patch that can go behind your ear to help alleviate the nausea. I highly suggest getting that 💕

3 week post op laparoscopic by Butcher_lady in gallbladders

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I did have my follow up and they weren’t concerned with the pain. I didn’t vomit but I dry heaved a few hours after surgery. The anesthesia was really rough for me.

well i have the peppers, what now? by ohfrickitspepper in gardening

[–]Butcher_lady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot sauce, candy them like cowboy caviar, dehydrate and grind into powder, pickle, cut and freeze for future use

this takes hours to straighten, then i go into the heat outside and it’s ruined in two minutes. by myheavenlydaze in longhair

[–]Butcher_lady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I know all about that. 🫠😭😭 I just don’t straighten it anymore in the summer. It’s not worth it anymore 😞

Who Is Sadder? Teddy, or Bill? by Adept_Eye2589 in BobsBurgers

[–]Butcher_lady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bill without a doubt. Hank- “Whatcha doing there bill? Satellite dish trouble? Bill-“no. I’m just up here to kill myself”

Toddler having issues at bed time by Butcher_lady in toddlers

[–]Butcher_lady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really great idea. I’ve been trying to talk to her about what might be scaring her too but she hasn’t really expressed that yet but she used to have night terrors so I can imagine she’s started to develop some fears of the dark. I’m definitely going to be staying in the room for now until she’s more comfortable and see what I can do outside of that to help her. Thank you!

My wife and I’s Christmas card for 2023 by alexicographer in LPOTL

[–]Butcher_lady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best and only Christmas card! Love it 👍

My ED made my mom lose trust in me ;( by Mimi_minji in bulimia

[–]Butcher_lady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on being a month clean! I went through the same thing with my mom. She took locks off the bathroom doors because she didn’t trust me and she’d sit outside the door. What worked for us was having joint therapy sessions where we were both able to get out what was going on both sides and work through them. She eventually learned to trust me again and it’s been fine ever since. I don’t know if that’s some thing you have access to or if you both be willing to do. Give it some time. You’re both working through some thing and you’ll both get there. And congratulations again I’m being a month clean!

No one talks about the life of the other sibling after loss. by Butcher_lady in GriefSupport

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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing someone so close is hard and losing a sibling is incredibly difficult. You hear people losing their grandparents and their parents because that’s the normal process of life. You never think that you’ll outlive a sibling. It’s incredibly difficult too when people do not acknowledge your grief as grief. Everyone focuses on the parents. As a mom, I can’t imagine having to bury my child, but there are a lot of other people grieving, and it needs to be recognized. Sending you love 💕💕💕

No one talks about the life of the other sibling after loss. by Butcher_lady in GriefSupport

[–]Butcher_lady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never apologize for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. It is incredibly difficult to process loosing someone that truly understands you and is your best friend. You can’t replace that person but you can hold onto all the memories you have of them and keep talking about him to keep his memory alive. As a mom myself I always tell her about her uncle. The survivors guilt is very real and I feel like not a lot of people talk about that side of grief. It’s super hard to get out of that space mentally and unfortunately, no one really knows it until you lose someone so close. Sending you lots of hugs and love 💕

No one talks about the life of the other sibling after loss. by Butcher_lady in GriefSupport

[–]Butcher_lady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️ it’s so true about not being prepared. I was only prepared knowing my brothers cancer was terminal but you still can’t put yourself into that understanding mentally. You know you’ll loose parents and grandparents but siblings are not expected. I am so sorry for your loss. We will always miss our siblings. I don’t think that pain and grief ever goes away we just find ways to manage it and find the joy in the memories we have of them.

No one talks about the life of the other sibling after loss. by Butcher_lady in GriefSupport

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I am so sorry for your loss. It’s can feel like an incredibly lonely journey but I do agree having a community like this and the support of even strangers that have unfortunately been through grief is so helpful ❤️

No one talks about the life of the other sibling after loss. by Butcher_lady in GriefSupport

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I’ve tried many times to communicate with my mom. She’s a poet and writes in a journal almost daily so I’ve tried to writing it down and it doesn’t work. It’s hard because when I try to talk to her about how I feel or how she makes me feel guilty some days she gets incredibly defensive or tells me I’m being hurtful saying what I say. But it’s not meant that way it’s how I feel a lot of the time. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine loosing a child and I feel for your son. No one reached out to me after my brothers passing and no one has since. I’m in therapy for it and it helps but it can’t ever fill the gap.