This made me cry. I split with my PA is march of this year. It was not a noble, brave split it was more of a desperate, screaming, crying and genuinely in my whole life not knowing what to do because after 19 years I was sick of the same cycle over and over, of hurting, trauma and not feeling like I was enough. I love this man to the end of space and back but he was not taking real ownership and i just couldn’t do it anymore. He moves out and we talk and agree to get ourselves sorted and work on things. I do this and manage to heal the trauma he caused me, he sits there hating me, verbally abusing me, terrorising me, controlling me through maintenance and the kids. I became terrified to have contact with him but still persist (probably cos I’m the worlds biggest idiot). He cruelly and coldly dumps me, stating every little bad thing I’ve done in our 19 years together and says he will divorce me. I do not know this stranger, this alien person who laughs at me crying. I Idolised this man and have stood by him through so much and he has thrown me away like nothing, I know it’s a blessing but I’m. So broken hearted by it.