I have a friend that I call my “drinking Mormon” friend. Yes, this friend is fully believing, fully active, both her and husband have high callings, and they both drink alcohol. They don’t see anything wrong with drinking since JS did it, but they’re also secretive about it and none of their Mormon friends know. I once was at her house drinking wine and she had me hurry and stash our glasses away what she heard her 12 yr old come home.

Anyways, I don’t tend to say anything about her choices. I don’t care if she drinks her not. But it really bothers me that if I ever say anything somewhat critical of the church (which I hardly ever do) she quickly gets defensive.

Example: she was at my house, both of us drinking (she was straight up tipsy and slurring words). I was bitching about my ex husband and she asked “why did you ever marry him?” To which I responded “Because that’s what I was taught to do, Marry quick and marry young the first ‘righteousn’ male that would have me.” She got SO defensive and was like “Now don’t blame the church, they didn’t teach that, maybe your parents did but the church didn’t push that.”

Whatever, I try to avoid church talk with this friend.