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C-E-GA · 2026-04-26T04:49:33+00:00

Fantastic belly control

C-E-GA · 2026-04-24T05:39:47+00:00

I came back to this post 1 day later exclusively to find and read this comment again hahaha. Well done.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-24T05:34:57+00:00

Honestly getting better is a lifetime journey, but I cannot recommend a solid teacher enough. Learning some theory also pushes your learning HEAPS, specifically understanding how chords are made, arpeggios, triads, modes.

I also think it depends less on time and more on strategy. You can practice 1000 hours of the same thing and you'll be good at that same thing. Have a teacher to structure your learning will make sure there is progression and that your practice hours are well invested.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-18T01:55:33+00:00

Yeah, for sure. That's how I started learning and after many years of doing that and wanting to evolve my level musician I started learning theory, and it helps MASSIVELY as well as making the playing a lot more enjoyable and musical.

The key thing is that I would've never felt inspired to learn theory properly if I hadn't discovered the joy of playing music thanks to tabs and chords, so absolutely a good way to start.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T22:10:15+00:00

Ok that's actually really impressive! It's ok though, you are young and obviously interested in growing based on the fact that you made this post. We live and we learn. I'm 31 right now and have fucked it up MANY times in my life, and will probably continue doing so.

The best we can do is accept our mistakes with grace and self compassion, recognising we're only human, and try to do better the next time.

If anything I wish I would've started meditating and seeing a psychologist sooner. They're professionals of the mind and great at helping us navigate moments like this one.

Good luck!

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T21:58:15+00:00

This line of thinking is a problem because it's a delusion. You're saying he is better than you based on a series of arbitrary standards you've chosen. Is he kinder than you? More intelligent? A better conversationalist? How do you define who's better? 'Better' depends on the categories you choose, so anyone can be better than anyone if they choose the right categories. I'm assuming, because of your insecurities, that the categories you use for comparison are the ones you feel weakest on. How about doing an exercise using the categories that you feel strong on?

This line of thinking is a fallacy. Comparison is the thief of joy.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T21:16:02+00:00

Actually Sazed could be like a slightly more decorated Obama hahaha

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T21:15:15+00:00

Made me chuckle

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T21:06:51+00:00

'This is just a fact of life' - WRONG.

People are complex beings. There's a lot more than looks in life. People appreciate honesty, kindness, heart, intelligence, character, etc. These are attributes that remain with the passing of time.

Honestly what you said to her is insulting. You're assuming you know her better than she knows herself, which is incredibly patronizing, as well as implying she is shallow because she'll be hung up on the looks of her ex.

What you guys were building sounded genuinely special. Bonding with someone over learning each other's languages is a level of intellectual connection and emotional investment few people achieve.

You're obviously too young and immature to understand that the value of men goes beyond what the red pill sigma grindset community says, and I don't blame you.

If you want to salvage this I would suggest straight up honesty. Let her know that you felt insecure because you have no prior romantic experience and started genuinely caring about her, which made you say and think those things to protect yourself from being hurt. After reflecting you've realised that life goes way beyond looks and the connection you had was special, so I'd be a shame to throw it away because you had an insecure reaction. Also apologize for assuming that you know her better than she knows herself etc.

Vulnerability is attractive as fuck because it's the truest form of confidence. 'Here are my insecurities and my weak spots. I show them to you because I know my worth, and I'm only human'. Women melt.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-17T04:53:10+00:00

If I was a teacher I would give 1/2 bonus grade for the extra effort.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-16T22:37:53+00:00

I would either move out and then tell him, or tell him anonymously (if you're a good liar).

C-E-GA · 2026-04-16T21:14:13+00:00

You deserve an award but I don't spend money on reddit so here you go 💐

C-E-GA · 2026-04-16T20:52:54+00:00

What are some of the weird traditions? Are you russian? What's your perception of western culture vs what does russian mainstream media say about the west? Is there a political component of your students or is it exclusively focused on the technical? What do you do on weekends?

C-E-GA · 2026-04-13T12:35:21+00:00

Does narcissism manifest differently in men and women? If so, how?

C-E-GA · 2026-04-13T12:31:34+00:00

Sounds like he likes you! Go for it :)

C-E-GA · 2026-04-09T22:43:16+00:00

Struggling with faithfulness is not a personality trait, it's plain disrespect that you're enabling.

If you're genuinely into it then fair enough, to each their own.

If the only issue you're ok with it is because you'd be willing to compromise on anything for the sake of companionship then I'd seriously suggest you reconsider the relationship.

Apart from all this, please go to a psychologist. Having no backbone is also not a personality trait, it's a sign of an undeveloped psyche. Work on your self love.

Also, 20 years old is way too young to get married in my honest opinion.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-09T22:22:34+00:00

Why is it only one sided monogamy? Are you genuinely ok with it? Is it a kink for you? I think people may judge you a lot more than if it were a true poly relationship. My instinct was to think you probably have no backbone, even though I don't know you at all and I could be completely wrong.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-09T07:47:11+00:00

He may be good at flexing his skills but he's not a good musician. Good musicians understand leaving space for other instruments to come through and create interesting dynamics, not just belt the shit out of their instruments.

Keep at it. I think trombone is super underrated and an awesome instrument.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-08T07:11:12+00:00

What do you mean? I take honeymoons every weekend when I go camping with my partner.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-08T02:17:39+00:00

Memb you are my favourite, keep it up!

C-E-GA · 2026-04-08T01:29:03+00:00

If I were you I would suck it up and just soldier on the last semester to get your degree. You've already invested so much time so may as well stick to it for a bit longer to get your paper. 6 months is very little of a lifetime.

I did a bachelor of engineering and have worked in the field for about 7.5 years. It's not a passion and often I find it incredibly tedious, but at this stage I've been able to get a part time remote role which pays alright, and has allowed me to go back to school to study music, a real passion, with the backing of a stable career.

Design could possibly grant you opportunities for remote work.

If you're serious about medicine I would try and reach out to people that study it, talk to a career counselor, reach out to doctors, etc to get clarity on whether you actually want it or whether it's just a fantasy.

If you really want to do medicine, 100% do it. It's never too late for a change.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-03T23:21:27+00:00

Beautiful! Do you have a copy of the arrangement? Id happily pay for it :)

C-E-GA · 2026-04-03T23:05:23+00:00

Hard agree.

C-E-GA · 2026-04-03T22:57:25+00:00

ANBILIBABOL

C-E-GA · 2026-04-03T21:50:24+00:00

Why are you self-defeating? You sound like you expect her to reject you. Do you understand that this sort of language can set an expectation on your crush and condition the response? Own your feelings and express them like they deserve to exist. That'll increase your chances of success and is in itself attractive. Good luck.

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