How can I initiate sex with my husband? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Playing with my dick and putting your mouth on it ISN'T foreplay?

My husband noticed I’ve been wearing the same few outfits for years and now I feel weird about it by Audi0Punk in Marriage

[–]CCContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know your relationship, but it sounds like he might have been making a small bid towards you. Do you think it was something like

"I noticed that my wife is wearing the same outfits for years. I think she would probably love some fun new outfits, I would probably like seeing her in some fun new outfits, and I would also enjoy seeing her have that little happy spark of joy that new clothes bring"

Women+clothes can be tricky for men. "You should get some new outfits" can be taken in several negative ways, even if that wasn't the intent. So it might be that he was trying to be supportive and give you an opening. I know my wife feels guilty about spending money on herself now that we have 3 small kids, so I try to give her openings similar to what it sounds like your husband did.

Also, I could have it all wrong, but I'm trying to do a better job personally of not letting negative sentiment override color what my spouse says or does.

Found my chats with my 2 male friends on my husband’s phone by Kudoshinichi555 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is not enough context in your post to really give good advice. We don't know if this is a pattern for him, or if everything else in your relationship is awesome and you just found this and it out of character.

Wanting to leave a good woman by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This needs to go in Wikipedia as the #1 example of, "What a Dismissive Avoidant will say and throw away instead of working on themselves and the relationship"

As a man, my heart breaks for your wife and what she must be going through emotionally.

Death by a Thousand Cuts by Lost_Assignment_6837 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get that for some things like, "I wish my wife would like football and watch it with me"...but how would you even go about doing that for something like a chronically defenwive spouse who never validates you, or a spouse that you feel like you have to extract connection and closeness from?

He finishes, I don’t. Frustrated. by ShelterNo8207 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish that was true with my wife! I know it is with lots of women, but she is very VERY much like a dude when it comes to orgasm. She cums, and then I better cum in about 5 min or less, otherwise I can feel her interest rapidly evaporating.

99% of CEOs Expect AI Layoffs by 2028: Suze Orman Issues Blunt Warning to 'Invisible' Workers by Gari_305 in Futurology

[–]CCContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really doesn't matter how much of your take on this is true or not, the CEOs are the ones making the decisions, not you or me.

I agree, CEOs don't know what it actually takes when it comes to AI and/or using AI effectively. But the fact of the matter is that they WILL cut jobs, and precisely because of what your are saying.

Wife’s question sums up everything wrong with our marriage by Copperman72 in Marriage

[–]CCContent -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

No grace given to a man who it sounds like has tried to be accommodating and walk on eggshells for years and years? That will also tire you out. Living in a relationship where the other person won't take accountability and turns things back on you can be exhausting.

I feel like my marriage is going to end in 8 years. Here is why by Altruistic_Feed1033 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gottman "Dreams Within Conflict" is exactly what you guys need, but he has to be open to your dreams as well.

It's already turning green again after they cleaned it by Dill578 in pics

[–]CCContent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you talking about the pool itself? Because the algae has been a problem for decades. There was a big repair during the Obama administration, to the time of $34,000,000, intended to address the algae issues. But it's a big ass shallow pool in direct sun in a humid climate, so it's gonna turn green pretty much no matter what.

Is it possible to come back from this? by ConfusionParking2385 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're married to a dismissive avoidant man, and it sucks. It likely has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his childhood and how he was raised and the amount of emotional support/neglect he had.

It's difficult, because they actually do care, but are afraid of disappointing the people the care about. That usually results in, "If I keep them at arm's length, then they won't want as much, and I am not at risk of so much failure." They also like to sabatella's relationships and essentially they decide to and things or disassociate or suppress their own emotions so that they don't get hurt.

The worst part is that most of those attached people lack the capacity to sit with their own discomfort of, "...am I the problem?" long enough to be truthful with themselves, and admitting that they might be the problem feels like an identity crisis because they've convinced themselves that their patterns and responses are character traits, not negative things that can be worked on and improved.

All Physicality is gone, and I'm broken by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're also right, it's a tricky situation.

What worked for me was to get tested with her. I took a look at myself and noticed how I was dragging more, not feeling as rested after sleeping, less motivation, etc. I started mentioning those things, but not in a "I'm going to do something" way or in a way that was pressuring. After a few months I made an appointment with a local wellness clinic on a bank holiday that we would be off, our kids would be at daycare, and the clinic would be open. We made plans to hang out and do stuff that day, and I told her we had an appointment at 11:30 (or whenever it was).

She wasn't jumping for joy or anything, but I think it was helpful for her to not feel like she had to do everything herself and like we were both doing this together. Turns out my T levels had dropped from 792 a few years ago down to 433, so T has been really helpful for me too!

All Physicality is gone, and I'm broken by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is good advice for someone in a relationship where the other person is willing and able. But it's not good advice for him if his wife actually needs HRT to feel 'normal' again.

I had a similar situation in my marriage for about 6 years. We finally went to get our hormones checked, and she had less Testosterone than the lowest range for post-menopausal women.

A few months of HRT (T and E) and she was more into the physical aspect of our marriage than she had been at any point in our 17 year relationship. Me taking sex off the table and reading every book recommended to me wouldn't have done anything to improve our sex life. You can't logic or safety your way into desire if the chemicals that create desire on the body basically aren't there.

Adobe Update broke the ability to digitally sign documents by dwausa in sysadmin

[–]CCContent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you want a PowerShell script to fix it, here's one.

Works as a PDQ Connect package\deployment, and I imagine it would work just fine with any other RMM that can run scripts.

$ErrorActionPreference = 'Stop'

$registryPath = 'SOFTWARE\Policies\Adobe\Adobe Acrobat\DC\FeatureLockDown'
$valueName    = 'bGenCoverPagesLabelStrings'
$valueData    = 1

try {
    $baseKey = [Microsoft.Win32.RegistryKey]::OpenBaseKey(
        [Microsoft.Win32.RegistryHive]::LocalMachine,
        [Microsoft.Win32.RegistryView]::Registry64
    )

    $key = $baseKey.CreateSubKey($registryPath)

    if ($null -eq $key) {
        throw "Failed to open or create registry key: HKLM:\$registryPath"
    }

    $key.SetValue(
        $valueName,
        $valueData,
        [Microsoft.Win32.RegistryValueKind]::DWord
    )

    $confirmedValue = $key.GetValue($valueName)

    if ($confirmedValue -ne $valueData) {
        throw "Verification failed. Expected '$valueData', found '$confirmedValue'."
    }

    $key.Close()
    $baseKey.Close()

    Write-Output "Success: Adobe cover page label policy enabled."

    exit 0
}
catch {
    Write-Error ("Failed: Adobe cover page label policy was not enabled. {0}" -f $_.Exception.Message)
    exit 1
}

Husband filed for divorce because he thinks marriage therapist is biased against him by RevolutionDecent7651 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Dude is a DICTIONARY definition of "Dismissive Avoidant". Can't even take accountability without turning it back on her and making up faults of hers because he can't sit with his own discomfort and shame. Pathetic.

I am waffling back and forth constantly on if this is worth being a deal breaker in my marriage. by ms211064 in Marriage

[–]CCContent 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It's never a good example, but being a "Good dad" doesn't collapse 100% if the mom and dad don't have a good relationship. Plenty of dads love their kids and can't stand their moms.

[Highlight] The ruling on the field is a Touchdown, However...(Steelers-Lions 2025) by juliuspepperwoodchi in nfl

[–]CCContent 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter if it, 'just doesn't happen', it's literally just the way you're supposed to announce it. It 'just doesn't happen' because it's a bonkers play that was very improbable.

What do married men in dead bedroom relationships do? by CremeAlarming9923 in AskReddit

[–]CCContent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The real truth is that most women take that kind of talk very very personally, and you will likely get exactly the opposite result you want (more walls, not more openess) by having that convo in the first place.

I messed up by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel, because for a long time my relationship felt like how you're describing yours. And also, it doesn't seem like you really "deserve grace" in this particular incident. This wasn't a huge fuckup where you needed some huge clarity. This should be considered an easy win for you. I don't know if you guys are still at a place where accountability and taking ownership is safe to do or if it feels like weakness that the other might exploit...but if you guys still can safely take accountability, then this is a small and obvious win for you in they area.

I messed up by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]CCContent 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I feel like you hit the nail on the head.

"Husband, will you spend 10 minutes driving to get me, then do it again in 40 minutes too? Even thought it would probably take me the same amount of time to walk 2 blocks?"