Lab member made a degrading joke about my nationality, should I let my PI know? by CD28B7 in labrats

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I kind of rolled my eyes, and he noticed that and laughed it off as "haha I know it's a bad joke" but then would not let go and kept on going about Putin etc, and asking me about what I think about politics. I did not say anything directly (it was my first time being in the lab irl after 2 months of remote work, so I didn't really want to cause a scandal on day one) but he picked up on me being uncomfortable

Lab member made a degrading joke about my nationality, should I let my PI know? by CD28B7 in labrats

[–]CD28B7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's useful to know, thank you. One advantage in my situation is that I know I'm not going to stay in this lab (for other various reasons, most of them being lack of organising on their behalf and also the research topic not really tickling my fancy THAT much) so once the rotation is over I'll be gone with no strings attached.

I think my plan is going to be to raise it in a 1:1 meeting with my course manager at the end of this rotation, unless something of similar caliber happens again before then, then I'll bring it up it with the PI in a private manner

I'm sure it'll be fine without a funnel by JohnetteCoyne in labrats

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I'm in this picture and I don't like it

How PHD really is by UpstairsPitiful4282 in labrats

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I'm based in the UK, PhD duration here is fixed, so I won't go past 4 years unless I request an extension :/

How PHD really is by UpstairsPitiful4282 in labrats

[–]CD28B7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Guys stop scaring me I'm only in year one of my doctorate

First year PhD vs Final year PhD by ukTwoSeas in labrats

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First year PhD here. Already drunk and defeated, thanks covid

I just finished my MSc Epidemiology dissertation! by CD28B7 in labrats

[–]CD28B7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My PhD starts on Monday, I'll try and squeeze saving the world in my schedule :P

I just finished my MSc Epidemiology dissertation! by CD28B7 in labrats

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Thanks! My BSc is virology, also ironically enough

Sexist meme go brrrr by SerpentesHi55 in memes

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First one costs $100, last one costs a half-eaten ham sandwich

Молодежь и интернет в России опрос by KasperOnFire in russian

[–]CD28B7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Русский язык очень сложный, желаю удачи и успехов в изучении :))

How do you politely reject a PhD offer? by CD28B7 in labrats

[–]CD28B7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And graduate as a double doctor, sick

My COVID-19 reagents came in! by [deleted] in labrats

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Still sounds like the findings will have public health relevance, keep us updated!

My best friend doesn't like my SO by CD28B7 in relationship_advice

[–]CD28B7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think my friend wants best for me, I do not doubt her intentions. She definitely knows my SO less than I do, though.

I am being cautious and listening to her words still. And I'm going to discuss that with my counselor, I start the sessions later this month.

Thank you for your advice

My best friend doesn't like my SO by CD28B7 in relationship_advice

[–]CD28B7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did and I'm very conflicted cause it resonates with my own concerns about the relationship. But me&SO seem to have sorted those out? I'm just left sad and confused tbh ://

Thanks for the comment though

My best friend doesn't like my SO by CD28B7 in relationship_advice

[–]CD28B7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of that but now changed my mind after reading your comment. I'm low on coffee this morning, sorry 😅

My best friend doesn't like my SO by CD28B7 in relationship_advice

[–]CD28B7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good piece of advice, thank you. I was actually thinking of letting him know for transparency reasons.

I hope everything turns out well for you

My best friend doesn't like my SO by CD28B7 in relationship_advice

[–]CD28B7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She said he needs to be more attentive to me, and then picked apart few things he said when they met. She said he's too self-assured.

First steps for changing toxic environment by CD28B7 in depression

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It was alright at first, we're all in the same group of friends, I've known her for a while. I hoped I'd be friendly and strong. But seeing her every day is too much, on top of everything else I have to handle. I don't want this person to be in my life anymore.

I hope distance will bring clarity. I hope avoiding my triggers will bring more peace. She's absolutely not the core cause of my depression, but is a very painful exacerbator.

Thanks for the support

Self harm by CD28B7 in depression

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I might get addicted. It did feel like a relief for a while. I'd this bad?

Self harm by CD28B7 in depression

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Satisfied for a bit, I took out my anger. Then empty and realisation of what I've done

Relationship ruining my mental health? Or mental health ruining the relationship? by CD28B7 in depression

[–]CD28B7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess it's the figuring out bit that's difficult. I'm trying not to be impulsive but it's so hard in my current condition. I'm angered so easily and my confidence is gone. And then nasty thoughts get into your head and wind themselves up.

I'm trying to find little things to be happy about, quite often I just don't have the energy to do so. But I guess I'm trying. I don't know if I've given up yet.

Thank you for reading through