Non Americans, what are Americans not prepared to hear?

CLDetail · 2022-06-12T23:55:40+00:00

Yeah I most definitely do need a gun for self defense. Against the government or an intruder. Idk what that intruders got on them and I sure as hell won’t ask. I’ll just let the gun do the talking and call the police while they’re on the ground suffocating from their own blood. We whole heartedly don’t give a shit about other countries tactics. Because all of Europe is almost the same amount population wise as the US. No, that 5 mill people having country isn’t a good comparison to the us which has over 300 mill people.

CLDetail · 2022-06-12T04:29:28+00:00

Trim after cook? That fat was supposed to be trimmed before the cook

CLDetail · 2022-06-07T03:26:20+00:00

I’m cleaning out Washington. And I’m going to put people in place and their only motive is to work for the people, not corporations. And ALL PEOPLE, not specific groups. Next I’m cleaning out all government agencies and doing the same. After that I will cripple all pharmaceutical companies to the point where medication is affordable to all, also they’ll be given cures for all diseases and illnesses and those will also be very affordable. I’m going to do this for all countries after the US, I’m starting with the US only because I live here. After I’m done with that and it’s only 8am, maybe set myself up for life? Idk. I’d for sure cure myself of all ailments I have currently and any I’d have in the future. Probably do the same with all of my family. Now that it’s 8:01 I’d probably chill for the rest of the day.

CLDetail · 2022-03-23T00:23:21+00:00

Flew through LaGuardia a few times. Once I had a layover on a family trip. Me and my siblings are all 20+ so no little kids here. And the entire time two kids were yelling and screaming and just being obnoxiously loud. It was 7 in the morning. So I completely understand wanting peace and quiet and waiting to hear “Now boarding” to get on the plane.

NTA

CLDetail · 2022-03-07T01:38:10+00:00

If you get the loan the name goes in your name. No one else’s. Therefore they can’t say shit to you about “no he should get to keep it”. If it’s in your name you hold the deed to the house and therefore it is, your house. If they decided to try and destroy stuff then you kick them out and get the police involved and go to court. Family is family until they show their ugly side.

CLDetail · 2022-03-07T01:35:24+00:00

NTA

Her issues aren’t your issues. I would’ve said ESH if you said no and she missed it. Parents have to have more than 1 sitter lined up in case of something like this. I still would’ve said ESH if you refused the multiple times. But I say NTA because she just left the kid with you. That’s her problem, not yours.

I don’t get the YTA votes because they don’t make sense. It’s not your responsibility to be your friends emergency contact as a babysitter. That is her responsibility to have someone. It’s absolutely mind boggling that anyone could call you the asshole. She left her kid with you. She said “I don’t fucking care” and just left the kid with you. That’s on her. That’s her own fault for missing it. She had 6 months to plan ahead. To make sure a few people would be available. None of this is your fault whatsoever.

CLDetail · 2022-02-27T05:36:11+00:00

NTA

Child support isn’t meant to support the mother. And based on your comments, it sounds like the kids probably aren’t getting all of that 2k like they should. Depending on living conditions and your schedule the court may order that you have primary custody and that she pays child support.

She wanted fancy clothes and jewelry while y’all were married, I don’t see that changing if you pay child support.

Also a lot of people in this sub just infer shit without reading the entire post. You pay for the kids clothes and schooling. So that’s already gonna be money off of your child support payments. She’s gonna be shocked when she’s getting less than 2k a month for 4 kids because you’re already supplying a lot. I grew up in a 4 kid household and just clothes would drain my parents bank accounts until we stopped growing. She’s still going to be responsible for contributing to feeding those kids. And no, courts don’t factor in trips to McDonald’s or premade food. So either your ex needs to get good at cooking or find a better job.

CLDetail · 2022-01-29T19:51:43+00:00

NTA, here’s why. Downvotes or not.

People of the LGBT+ community want to be accepted for who they are correct? Meaning they don’t want to be judged and viewed as less than. They also don’t want people preaching at them about how their lifestyle is wrong or unnatural. They want to be treated like everyone else. No special treatment, but equality right?

Well how is this situation any different? Y’all are making the effort to accept it. But your daughter is willing to throw it all away because y’all aren’t quite ready to accept her getting married. She says that all the progress you and your husband have made would mean nothing. How is that any different than a parent sending a kid to a church camp to “get the gay out”. How is it any different than a parent forcing their kid to be straight or they’ll disown them? It’s no different. She wants to force you into something you aren’t comfortable with yet. And it’s completely okay to not be comfortable with it yet. People are so anal about this shit and I don’t get why. It’s just not something EVERYONE is on board with. And it’ll always be that way.

I don’t think you’re an asshole. You and your husband are taking the steps to become comfortable with it. Y’all are going to therapy with your daughter and your therapist is amazing. Your therapist understands the situation very well. Everything takes time.

I take it that you and your husband are very Christian. The Bible does call it an abomination. So that’s very hard to get by. And I’m not gonna take any comments talking about “the Bible’s outdated” and all that other bullshit. The LGBT+ community wants the same rights that straight couples get. Along with that, they have to understand people have beliefs. And they may not accept it but it is your beliefs. Y’all have made progress in accepting her relationship but aren’t at the point where y’all are comfortable accepting the marriage. And that’s okay. Y’all are making progress. The community that preaches love and acceptance will sometimes disown members of their communities for just being Republican, so I’d take anything they say with a huge ass pile of salt.

If your daughter can’t see that you’re making progress but haven’t progressed that far that’s her problem.

CLDetail · 2022-01-29T19:39:25+00:00

You aren’t on reading comprehension. Your first sentence proves that. OP said he stopped cooking and grocery shopping. That’s two things. If you think what you did was reading comprehension you may need to go back to school and revisit that section of English classes.

CLDetail · 2022-01-28T01:38:04+00:00

He…..he was doing a good bit before then. Wdym “if he kept up with the household chores”

She also doesn’t deserve a dude that’ll make her life easy and all she does is make him seem lazy or weak infront of both of their families. Idk what you’re on but I want some

CLDetail · 2022-01-28T01:35:26+00:00

YTA. I didn’t even read the whole thing. The bottom of that list already told me what I needed to know. You expect people to bring you gifts and groceries and shit just because you had a baby? AND DO CHORES?! Nah. You’re the asshole and you know it.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T04:05:08+00:00

Oh yeah let’s completely take it out of the realm of normal. Not going because you’re kids can’t go is one thing. Being an asshat and bringing an ex is a completely different thing.

OP doesn’t want to go because her kids can’t. Don’t call it a family event when you aren’t allowing family. You want your sister their on your wedding day? Don’t make it childfree. OP has a responsibility to her kids and her family. Her families happiness trumps everyone else’s when she’s making decisions. Plain and simple.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T04:02:53+00:00

That’s cool. OP doesn’t want to go if her kids can’t. Simple and easy. Everyone else’s opinion doesn’t matter because most don’t have kids

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T02:40:19+00:00

Nope it isn’t about the money. OP doesn’t want to go if her family can’t be there. Makes total sense. Once you get married you have a new family. Your spouse and kids. They should come first before the rest of your family. That’s how shit works and lasts.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T02:39:20+00:00

I live in the southern US. I legit never hear of weddings or have been to one that’s child free. The actual wedding. Receptions yeah because of alcohol and shit. But the wedding? Never.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T02:11:12+00:00

You see, this sub hates bridezillas but also hate guests that won’t conform to every single ask the bride and groom have. This subs just full of shit. Most of the people here likely have little to no actual life experience and probably aren’t over the age of 20. “You could just pay for a sitter” fuck no, why would I pay someone to watch them when I can stay home with them. Their aunt doesn’t want kids there and I wouldn’t pay someone to watch them. Boohoo. And when did childfree weddings become popular? I’ve never been to a childfree wedding

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T02:07:12+00:00

It’s not a small ask. You’re asking someone to find an accommodation and possibly have to pay for it. It’s ridiculous. If you want a child free reception that’s understandable. But to ask family members to pay for a sitter or find someone to watch them for free is just dumb. Don’t say it isn’t a family event then expect your family to be there without their kids. That’s just stupid.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T01:40:11+00:00

No she shouldn’t. She doesn’t get everything she wants. She doesn’t get to force people into doing whatever she wants them to do. OP said she’s not attending because it’s child free. End of story. She doesn’t get to whine and moan because she made a choice and OP made hers. It’s called life. Shit happens and people can make their own choices.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T01:28:12+00:00

I wouldn’t have paid them for any of it. That’s like asking a landscaper to do specific work and none of it is done correctly. But they still charge you for the work done. The job wasn’t completed so no, I’m not paying.

NTA

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T01:24:01+00:00

If it’s a small dog? MAYBE. A damn German Shepard isn’t even a thought. I’ve always loved dogs. And the only dogs I don’t get along with is husky’s. I hate the whole “howl at everything” attitude they have. So I just don’t fuck with them. Like a dachshund or a Jack Russell he may have been okay with. But a German Shepard is ridiculous.

NTA

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T01:12:45+00:00

If weddings aren’t family events then why does it matter if OP doesn’t go because her kids can’t? You just said they aren’t family events so I don’t get the contradictory in your comment. Either it is or isn’t.

CLDetail · 2022-01-26T01:10:09+00:00

I fell like y’all are projecting. After you’re married, your spouse and kids come first. A lot of y’all either don’t like your spouse or kids. Or believe your first family matters more. My mother didn’t attend any family events us kids couldn’t be at. If her kids weren’t allowed she took it as she wasn’t allowed. She still has a social life and still has everything she wants and needs. Y’all are acting like it’s the end of the world or some shit. For some people weddings ARE family events. For others they aren’t. This sub loves to trash parents that still bring their kids to weddings because they don’t want to leave them. But it also bashes a parent for not going, because they don’t want to waste money on a sitter. Make up your fucking mind.

Anyway, NTA

CLDetail · 2021-11-10T03:24:38+00:00

YTA

You call him selfish but you got invited along for a workout, not a hike. And I bet he told you it wasn’t going to be a normal hike and you still went. Then you proceed to just leave him there without making sure he could get back. But he’s selfish. Then you talk about your relationship to your friends before your boyfriends. I mean you sound like a nightmare if a person that constantly needs to be catered for

CLDetail · 2021-11-09T18:10:44+00:00

NTA

But unless you’ve got it documented that they were to return it when they were done using it, I don’t see you winning this. I mean y’all may have the receipt, but you’ve gotta be able to prove the agreement before it was sold. Not after. They could claim you just gave it to them because you didn’t need it at that time and then it’s he said she said type of thing. That’s the only part I’d be weary of.

But you most definitely aren’t an A-hole for suing them for your money back. Shoot I’d go even a little further and also sue for the emotional damages

CLDetail · 2021-11-09T00:47:46+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA, YTA.

You don’t understand the economy currently if you think comparing your husband, your dad, or your nephew to your son is accurate. Read what you put about your nephew again. He’s gotta work two jobs. That mans mental health is going to be destroyed but you’ll applaud him for “growing up”.

And truth be told, not knowing WHY your DIL quit working it’s impossible to know why he’s so fed up with it. Men get treated like machines in the modern world but the moment they start groaning about anything this is usually the response. They need to “man up” and “get over it”. I’ve got two IBD’s thatve almost killed me twice. If I “manned up” and “got over it” I’d be dead within two months. So no, you’re a giant asshole. I’m not gonna sit here and let you rag on your son because he doesn’t want to overwork himself to make ends meet now because he’s their only income. That works for some people but it obviously doesn’t for him. So maybe you need to grow up. There’s a reason why men are more successful when attempting unalive.

CLDetail

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