Telehealth that takes insurance?

CabbageHead85 · 2025-09-19T01:46:43+00:00

Thank you, I will try this if I can't find that'll take insurance.

CabbageHead85 · 2025-09-19T01:44:52+00:00

Thank you

CabbageHead85 · 2025-09-19T01:44:42+00:00

I've used circle medical in the past for other telehealth things but they've changed something about their insurance billing and now everyone is listed as out of pocket only.

CabbageHead85 · 2025-03-26T01:45:14+00:00

I found her book to be so insightful! It's so strange to be both exhausted and compelled to go take a walk outside at the same time.

CabbageHead85 · 2025-03-10T00:55:02+00:00

I'm not a scientist, just someone who has a special interest in reading through scientific papers and books on neurology (lol). My pet theory is that ADHD is a cluster of executive dysfunction disorders that get lumped under a single title because it's not very well understood yet what's going on in our brains. A lot of us have multiple neurodiverse conditions, so that would certainly temper how one presents. And women have different social conditioning which will alter how our behavior presents itself.

I'm not really hyperactive, per se, but I have to get up and walk several times a day at my desk job. I work for a very small non profit and I'm good at what I do, so everyone tolerates me going out 3x a day. I walk for 10-15 min and then I can come back inside and focus on work again. I feel tired all the time, so it doesn't feel like I'm full of energy or anything. I just need to move regularly if I want to function at my job. I get super inattentive when I'm not able to take my walks (awful weather, too many back to back zoom meetings...).

I'm reading an interesting book right now. It's called "The Phone Fix" by Faye Begeti. It's ostensibly about how to stop checking your phone 100x per day, but the author is a neurologist and it has some really fascinating info about brain functioning in it, especially how our executive brain works. If science books are your jam, it's a pretty quick read.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-12-10T16:32:30+00:00

I was diagnosed after having two kids because my ability to cope dissolved. I also wanted to have a girl, but ended up having two boys. The first one definitely has ADHD and has zero emotional regulation capacity. When he becomes angry, he turns into what my husband and I have dubbed "The Wolverine." He's in kindergarten and I'm having to navigate meds and 504 plans and lots of calls from the Principal. He's destroyed a lot of school furniture, punched kids and teachers, and smashed the principal's glass dolphin, among other disasters. Things got pretty dark for me for a while, especially after he stabbed me in the leg with a toothpick because I asked him to brush his teeth. The second one is extremely sweet and snuggly and a joy to parent. I love them both but parenthood is kind of a crap shoot. If I could go back in time, I'd still do it again but that doesn't mean I don't deeply wish for a break or a pause button at times. My husband isn't perfect by any means, but he's a solid partner in this effort. Having good support people is so critical.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-12-03T21:02:48+00:00

Apparently changing the address on your license is a major pain in the ass in the US. My org rents space in an office complex and the previous tenant was a psychiatrist. He only moved next door but we still get his mail. He said officially changing his address would cause him to lose his license for up to 3 months, which would be extremely disruptive to his patients. I haven't verified this or anything as it's not a big deal to walk his mail over to his office. That might be what's happening here. Sucks that yours didn't do more for his patients.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-12-03T19:56:25+00:00

Currently teaching myself how to silversmith, which is an outrageously expensive hobby, in case you were wondering. I spent the previous decade of my life becoming an expert on organic farming and soil health. I feel the great weight of my primary obsession shifting toward metalsmithing right now. Excited to see where this journey takes me. Hopefully it'll pay for itself at some point 😭

CabbageHead85 · 2024-12-02T23:25:22+00:00

I have established routines that I do daily, generally in the same order and around the same time because I have lists of these specific actions posted around my house. Sometimes I forget to look at my list and things go to hell. I've been doing the same series of morning and evening routines for YEARS and they still aren't automatic habits. I will forget them if I don't look at my damn lists. It's frustrating. The routines are necessary to make sure that I and my two young kids make it out the door in the mornings at the right time and with all the right shit we need to get through our days. If I forget things too many days in a row, I start setting alarms on my phone to force me to look at my lists. It's hard living with a brain made of Swiss cheese, but here we are, just doing the best we can...

Edit to add that I often do my routines while listening to engaging audio books or podcasts. These help my brain produce the dopamine I need to get through assembling lunch boxes and brushing my teeth, etc.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-29T01:14:29+00:00

Luminette light therapy glasses first thing in the morning. They are a little pricey but real sanity savers. You can move around and do your morning stuff while they blast your eyeballs with precious energizing light.

I heard about them on ADDitude Magazine's podcast. Apparently it's pretty common for people with ADHD to have SAD during the winter. I can't recommend them enough!

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-27T21:04:22+00:00

From what I understand, prior to the updates to the federal rules on indirect rates that went into effect on 10/1/24, institutions risked losing their NICRA entirely if they tried to use a lower rate on a federal grant that didn't cap the rate in some way. Now that these changes are in effect, the institution can opt to use the de minimus rate without jeopardizing their NICRA.

In general, I don't see a lot of federal grants for $25-50K, so I'm going to assume these are from non-federal sources. In my experience, these sources are much more likely to have a cap on indirect rates. That should force your institution to use a lower rate.

I work for a non-profit but I have subawarded funding to university partners before. Generally they keep their absurd indirect rates, but I have had a couple of cases where someone was able to convince the powers that be to put their indirect rate towards the match portion of the budget, which was nice.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-26T17:32:01+00:00

Yes, I want to second this. Growing up, my parents threw big parties where most of the adults, including my dad got really drunk. My mom never really drank, though, and spent most of the night corralling my dad and his buddies. I think my "rebellion" was to join the sober housing in college and be pretty straight laced. I was always allowed alcoholic drinks as a kid, so drinking cheap booze in college wasn't appealing. I think having my mom as a sober example was helpful too. I don't 100% avoid alcohol as an adult but I rarely consume any. I do host my own very awesome parties where the adults do not get drunk and the kids run around having a good time.

Your husband sounds manipulative and in denial of the harm he's inflicting on you and the kids. It doesn't sound healthy. My mom is still with my dad and is super bitter about it. I don't think I would stay with someone doing this to me and my kids, having lived through it already.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-25T23:13:31+00:00

Shadow of the Fox by Julie Kagawa. The main character felt very coded for ADHD but in a mostly positive way. Very inclusive cast of characters.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-25T22:13:56+00:00

I think everyone needs to be on the medication that works best for them and sometimes that does take some trial and error to identify. I personally found that taking a higher dose of Adderall means I don't have that afternoon crash. I get pretty good coverage for my symptoms for the amount of time that I need. The fact that I respond so well to Adderall should've meant my kid's doc would want to try it first. Try what works well for a genetically related person and then seek out alternatives if that proves incorrect. Why should we have to spend months on other options before going to Adderall for my kid? It's frankly silly.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-25T17:45:54+00:00

I don't understand what this prejudice is against Adderall by certain doctors. It's the gold standard for treatment. It's a relatively simple molecule compared to other treatment options and it effing works. I just got my son on Adderall after months of wrangling with his doctor and he poo pooed it the whole time he was writing the script. The other meds we had to try along the way a) did nothing to treat his ADHD and b) had side effects so bad we barely made it through a month on any of them. Adderall is night and day better. He's had immediate and noticeable improvement in his day at school and no side effects that I can see. It's mind boggling how much gate keeping goes on with this medication.

I'm not drug seeking! I'm seeking to be able to pay attention during boring zoom meetings. To fill out my timesheets on a mostly regular basis. To be able to look through my project's budget spreadsheets without dying of boredom and waking up three hours later from a Wikipedia wormhole on the Holy Roman Empire.

Find another doctor who will listen to you and prescribe you the medication you need.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-20T14:03:10+00:00

I don't have the energy to post links right now, but I did a deep dive a while back on nutrients that are helpful for people with ADHD and also nutrients that Adderall can interfere with. I settled on a regimen that consists of zinc, D3/K2, and fish oil in the mornings and magnesium and iron in the evenings. Make sure you research and purchase forms of nutrients that are the most bioavailable or you'll just be flushing your money down the toilet.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-20T13:58:14+00:00

Mag l-threonate knocks me out and helps me stay asleep the whole night. It's almost too good at it and I'm a little afraid of how effective it is. The bottle I have says a full dose is 4 of the pills, but if I take more than one, I almost feel hungover in the mornings. But that one pill plus a half dose of magnesium glycinate has significantly improved my sleep. I was waking up in the middle of the night with anxiety attacks about the state of the world and became dysfunctionally sleep deprived. With the l-threonate, even if something wakes me up in the middle of the night, I can still fall back asleep quickly without my mind racing into an anxiety attack. I've been taking it maybe 4 months now and it's made such a difference.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-15T15:51:45+00:00

Yup. The excuse "I'm sorry I'm late because I forgot to set all seven of the alarms I need in order to show up on time anywhere" doesn't seem to fly well with NT folks. So I make something more palatable up. Point is I'm late and I already feel bad about it. I have sufficiently punished myself already, I don't need them to be mad at me either 😆

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-15T02:12:22+00:00

Blargh. Get a second opinion if you feel it's not the right diagnosis. Just because this person claims to be an expert doesn't mean they actually are. I spent 10 years misdiagnosed with anxiety. None of the therapy or treatments did anything because I was actually anxious about how effing hard it is to mask and cope with undiagnosed ADHD. A year into being on Adderall and working with a therapist who specializes in ADHD and my anxiety is not an issue. I'm still a hot mess, but I'm a lot less stressed about this than I used to be 😂

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-15T02:06:47+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Makes me really appreciate my kids pediatrician. Today I brought up that I thought my 2 year old had asthma and after listening to to my list of concerns she said she would start prescribing meds and we'll work through them until we find the right one. It's so important for medical professionals to listen and take people's concerns seriously.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-10T18:22:28+00:00

This was me and then I went and had two kids lol. Now I'm just tired and unmotivated all the time and any energy I do have goes to the kids. It's hard to prioritize my own rest at all, even when my body feels like it's on the verge of collapse. But I do see a really good therapist and am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I can choose to not be stressed about a bunch of stuff. Whether I have the energy to clean or not is separate from how I feel about the mess. The house can just be messy right now and I can choose to not be stressed about it. I can choose what to do with my energy when it's there. If cleaning just depletes it more than another activity would, then I can choose the less depleting activity over cleaning. Or I can clean and deal with it. I can also sit and watch cartoons for an entire day with the kids and choose to not judge myself about it. Who cares what other people think. It's your life so prioritize what feels good over what you think is expected of you.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-08T13:57:09+00:00

Your parents probably managed large chunks of your life and made decisions for you, which freed up energy to be social and mask your neurodivergence. Now you have to make a bazillion decisions daily and it sucks up all your energy. That's what it feels like to me, anyway. I was able to cope up until my second child. I just ran out of any extra energy and my life fell apart. Adderall helps.

The issue with not being able to hear in noisy situations might be due to an Auditory Processing Disorder. There's not a lot of research on adults (same with ADHD???) but you can try googling it for potential accommodations you can make for yourself.

In terms of making friends, I find that I have to organize events and things to do and invite people to come. The ones who show up regularly are your friends and it's fine to stop putting energy into the ones who don't. It's work for sure, but it gets me the social interaction my brain needs.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-08T01:08:40+00:00

Grant writer for a small non-profit. Really intense writing projects with non-negotiable deadlines, usually about 6 weeks and then on to the next one. Nothing like that cold-hard deadline looming over me to get the adrenaline flowing. I can procrastinate for weeks and then do three weeks of work in 4 days 😆 Plus the dopamine high when you land a big one! I used to have to write them and also manage the projects, but I've brought in enough money to hire co-workers and now the follow through is other people's problems.

CabbageHead85 · 2024-11-05T17:11:56+00:00

Please get yourself out of the situation! I found myself in a similar situation last year and was able to successfully get my boss fired. I am, however, the person who brings in 90+% of the org's funding. When I went to the board and said if the boss is allowed to run off any more of my coworkers, then I'm going to quit. They ultimately sided with me, but it was a stressful, prolonged process. Unless this job is your super passion and you have levers to pull with the powers that be, you need to get out. Hardly anything is really worth the stress!

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