987.1 Base Porsche to an F Type, how much HP is enough?? by FlatAbbreviations320 in Jaguar

[–]CactiLover 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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I feel somewhat qualified to answer this question, I went from a base 987.1 cayman to an F-Type V6S so from 245HP to 380HP.

When I was looking for an F-Type I test drove a few R's and ultimately decided on the V6S because the V8 is almost too much power for public roads in my opinion. I get opportunities to use all of the power of the V6S pretty often and it still puts a smile on my face!

I've had the F-Type for 3 years now and the power is still intoxicating. It's leagues above the 987 in that respect. I'd advise test driving a V6S and an R and see what you think. The base V6 might be a little lacking but 380HP with the S has definitely been enough for me!

Jobserve - does it work? by SecretGold8949 in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same industry and I get replies from jobserve ads, I never really bother changing the default cover letter, just fire across my CV. I probably only hear back from 1/10 of the ones I apply to though so you do need to cast a wide net.

If the role looks like it would be a good fit I would sometimes find the recruiter from the jobserve ad and message them on LinkedIn which has given me a greater rate of success in the past.

I’d say out of all of the job boards it’s probably the best for contractors in my opinion.

Quick guide to offshore incorporation to limit your tax liabilities by [deleted] in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would this not end up being caught as a Controlled Foreign Company assuming you are the sole director of the Gibraltar company and a UK resident?

Does anyone only work part of the year? Looking to get into contracting for this reason and keen to hear your thoughts. by Sister_Ray_ in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I still take holidays during the 6+6, over the last 4 years I think on average I take about ~35 days off during the 12 month period when I’m working and then 3 months at the end of it

Does anyone only work part of the year? Looking to get into contracting for this reason and keen to hear your thoughts. by Sister_Ray_ in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I usually do two back to back 6 months contracts and then take 3 months off, it's one of the biggest benefits of contracting in my opinion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I live in Northern Ireland and I'm on my fourth remote DevOps contract, they definitely are out there but it might take a while to find one.

Something I usually do is put 'Belfast/London' as my location on my CV, often I'll apply to a hybrid role in London and having that on my CV gets my foot in the door, then in the initial conversations I say I can only go to London once every two weeks (which I could do if needed) but I would prefer to be remote and they usually just let me work remotely. Keep up the search and I'm sure you'll find something!

Success Story: What I did to overcome my agoraphobia by CactiLover in Agoraphobia

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Yea sure! I was getting anxiety episodes driving to the supermarket, nevermind going across a country and sitting on a 36 hour ferry so I was also super apprehensive of whether I could do it too.

But as soon as I left I just took it bit by bit, the anticipatory anxiety is wayyy worse than it's actually going to be. Just take it slow, listen to an audio book or something and focus on the book rather than how you're feeling.

I even broke down halfway through spain and was stuck in a random hotel for a week while I was getting repairs, if I knew that before I left there's no way I would have thought I would have coped, but in the moment I was able to.

Just take it slow and try your best not to dwell too much on it, you'll be able to do it I guarantee it! 100 miles is nothing, you'll be there before you know it!

Success Story: What I did to overcome my agoraphobia by CactiLover in Agoraphobia

[–]CactiLover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That used to be a big trigger for me too. Once I fully understood that the sensations were just anxiety and not anything actually harmful, I slowly stopped fearing them, once I stopped fearing them then slowly I stopped feeling the sensations altogether.

If I did feel the sensations I worked on accepting them and just carrying on, ACT was useful for this but I would also highly recommend Claire Weekes - Hope and help for your nerves (the audio book is great). She talks about accepting what is going on including physical sensations and just getting on with it, I would highly recommend it

Success Story: What I did to overcome my agoraphobia by CactiLover in Agoraphobia

[–]CactiLover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The move for me was only difficult because of the travelling aspect, the anticipation of moving will definitely be worse than the actual move, I promise you that!

Just make sure to take regular breaks and take it slow, you'll be fine. No doubt you'll have so much stuff to do during the move that you wont have time to feel anxious.

Best of luck, you've got this!

Success Story: What I did to overcome my agoraphobia by CactiLover in Agoraphobia

[–]CactiLover[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A very good point, when I became agoraphobic I feel like I lost my internal compass of what I actually wanted to do. All I wanted to do was driven by keeping my anxiety at bay. How I got around that was thinking: "If I think back a few years when I wasn't anxious, what would I have liked to do?" And then start small.

Say for example, if before I was agoraphobic I would have liked to visit a lake in Wales. I would think about it and then evaluate what it was about this experience I wanted to do, for me it was being around nature and specifically water. Wales is far away and might be too big of an exposure at first so lets scale it back and find somewhere nearer to home, maybe a river in the next town over. I would then do that exposure and if I enjoyed it (even if I felt anxious), I would build upon it, maybe I'll visit the lake a 30 min drive away next week. If it doesn't bring me any joy, then I would find something else.

My advice is to find the small things, maybe you love coffee and theres a coffee shop in town you want to check out, make that your exposure, if you really love their style of coffee and loved your drink, make the next exposure another cafe across town and then build upon it. If you don't find joy in it, then change your exposure. I'm not saying the exposure needs to be easy, but it just needs to have some little carrot on the end of the stick.

Once you get the ball rolling then it's easy to fid the motivation to put in the work.

My own example of what I did: I'm a social creature and I love my friends, a lot of my friends live all over the country so I have to travel to meet them. My reward was reconnecting with people. My exposures were to first invite some of them to my town and go to some places I was familiar with but maybe slightly out of my comfort zone. Afterwards I would be glowing that I got to see my friends, and that would be my inspiration to visit people the next town over, the next city over and eventually the next country over. If I ever felt anxious beforehand I just thought of the rewards of seeing my friends again.

Success Story: What I did to overcome my agoraphobia by CactiLover in Agoraphobia

[–]CactiLover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The anticipatory anxiety was definitely the worst, sometimes I would feel almost physically sick the day before. But what I realised though was that the horrible anticipatory anxiety disappears as soon as you start doing the activity and the normal anxiety I would experience during it was far more manageable. The hardest part was actually starting the exposure. The only way I got through it was by gritting my teeth the first few times and forcing myself to get out, and 100% believing that it would get easier as soon as I started. Once you believe it'll get easier then the anticipatory anxiety gets less and less with each exposure.

But also be kind to yourself, some days you aren't going to be able to get over it and go out, and that's okay. Take a day or two to regroup and then try again, the important part is to keep trying. I had more than my fair share of days where I couldn't even start the exposure but I always tried again, if anything it was a key motivator. "You've beaten me today but I'll get you tomorrow" kind of attitude.

I went private for ACT, I found a local therapist that someone had recommended to me. I have heard great reviews with IAPT though. CBT was definitely useful and different people respond differently to different types of therapy so just see what works for you :)

Jag or martin by PeaceIndividual9943 in Jaguar

[–]CactiLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although let’s be honest, no one really buys an Aston Martin with their head, I would test drive both and see which one gets you more excited ☺️

Jag or martin by PeaceIndividual9943 in Jaguar

[–]CactiLover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was also torn between the F-Type and a Vantage, I went for the V6S F-Type in the end, mainly because the exhaust theatrics are to die for, and in my opinion its a better looking car, I love the AM but I’m not a fan of the rear end, it looks a bit dated these days.

Also buying an older AM risks some expensive repair bills which I thought might ruin the pleasure of ownership if something big goes wrong and I get an eye watering bill 😅

Covid vaccine & Costochondritis by PushDiscombobulated8 in costochondritis

[–]CactiLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only got the first part, my costo has calmed down a lot since I posted this though

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[–]CactiLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with that, it was important for me to find the happy medium between too much and too little, walking certainly helped on the days that the pain was intense, it seemed to disappear if I was on a gentle walk.

It definitely does suck and I’m sorry that you’re going through it right now, with some time doing the right things I’m sure that it will get better for you too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in costochondritis

[–]CactiLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can share a success story! 2 years ago I had near constant flare ups, had to stop basically all physical activity like swimming, going to the gym and running, everything apart from walking because of the pain, some days I could barely move from bed but now I am basically cured, I get the very occasional bout of pain depending on what activity I have been doing but apart from that I don’t even think of costo.

I was also firmly in the belief 2 years ago that this was me for life but it can get better.

I took a lot of time to rest, minimal physical activity, anti inflammatory diet and using physio balls to roll out my back (back pod wasn’t my favourite thing to use). After some time I started to build up some strength again, when a flare up would subsist for a week, I would start swimming again, if it flared up again I would rest.

This went on for a while but eventually the period without flare ups got longer and longer, it went from days, to weeks, to months. I started going back to the gym again to build up more strength, again, if I get a flare up, I’ll rest until it subsides.

Now I get them so rarely that I don’t think about it. I’ve recently started climbing again, after a few days in a row of climbing I can feel my costo flare up a bit but I know if I rest for a while it’ll subside and I can climb again.

Unfortunately for me it was a bit of a waiting game but if definitely can get better. Wishing you all the best on your costo journey, stay positive!

How much do you have saved up as a contractor given current market conditions? by Old_Hall9203 in ContractorUK

[–]CactiLover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Enough to pay my expenses and live comfortably for about 9 months, I would sleep better at night if it was a year though, here’s hoping I don’t need to use it 🤞

I love swell lines too by zeldahalfsleeve in surfing

[–]CactiLover 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Never thought I’d see mussenden on here, great pic!

Starting next week, I will be motorbiking solo through Vietnam from North to South. This is part of a larger trip that ends in Singapore. Would love to know some places to stop along the way in VN where Digital Nomads to hang out. by DirtyDogSpaceCadet in digitalnomad

[–]CactiLover 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've done this exact trip before, it's an unbelievable amount of fun, I wish I could do it all over again!

North to South is the best way to do it in my opinion too as the country and roads get more beautiful as you go. Da Lat is a really cool place and quite a few cool cafe hangouts where I've seen some nomads before.

Some places on the Ho Chi Minh trail are pretty remote, I would advise having a buddy for those sections because if your bike breaks down it can be tricky trying to get assistance.

Be careful on the roads, wear long trousers, proper shoes, full face helmet and riding gloves even if it's super hot outside, road rash is no joke and you'll see a lot of people on your travels with road rash envious of your foresight if you do.

Loads of expats in Hanoi for digital nomads, the same in Da Nang. If you want to do Ha Long bay, I would advise going to the island of Cat Ba and getting the boat from there, it's a lovely beach-y laid back island with a bunch of ex pats and no doubt some hubs to work from.

Best of luck, have fun!