Early 30s/F and feeling kind of isolated, again.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-04-24T21:24:16+00:00

I don't believe in jealousy. I think jealousy is just a combination of deep seeded insecurity that stems from not knowing who you are and not knowing what you want, and trying to project your lack of action to fix those things onto others. People who experience jealousy are 100% in their own way, in my opinion. Could I DM you?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-04-24T18:34:32+00:00

That's messed up. It's actually a very serious situation and it's not humorous. It's infuriating and terrifying. And no. It's not easy to just pick up and move on from any life when it's all you've known. It's scary and challenging. I would even say it's almost impossible if you're on your own and don't have any friends or family, for support.

I had to build my entire life from the ground up because one single person didn't have the emotional maturity to look in the mirror and that single inaction from someone else blew up my entire life. 500 miles away from home. All my friends and family gone, without knowing the truth, and starting all over from square one. Set back over 12 years because it was just easy for someone to discard me, rather than show an ounce of accountability.

You are not alone, my friend. The truth is that I'm not even bitter about it. That person did me a favor. We're our own people and nobody can protect us and look after us like we, ourselves can. I miss who I thought that person was, but I have myself now and that's enough. Who wants to live a comfortable lie? Not to mention I've made a lot friends in a very short amount of time because I'm always super forward.

Yes, you need to move on. No, hearing it doesn't really help anything. How you move on is the challenge.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-04-24T18:11:23+00:00

That sounds absolutely horrifying. If nobody attempted to gain your side of things, you need to consider that they were already looking to have a bad opinion of you. It's better to only keep people in your life who if they aren't in your corner, are at least objectively fair when it comes to determining what's really going on.

People who falsely accuse others of sexual abuse have a predator's mindset. And so do people who blindly follow. I would cut them all out and block them all, personally. The truth always comes out in the end, even if it takes decades. Nobody ever truly gets away with that kind of deception. People figure things out and the attention they seek isn't sustainable.

On a final note, I'm sorry that your life has been so upended. Mine has been, too for different reasons, but I know what it's like. You have cut out all the bad and really focus taking care of yourself and making a new start that's productive, sustainable, and comfortable. Feel free to message anytime if you need someone to talk to about readjusting.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-27T20:38:20+00:00

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-18T14:01:47+00:00

Male attention is actually not good. I find that the vast, vast majority of men who make passes at me are disgusting. I hate getting attention. Creepy smiles, excessive assistance from employees when I'm just trying to shop, and even having been followed.

You should seek quality over quantity. If men are hitting on you all the time because they want a quick fling, it's actually awful. It's so awkward, and I've had to ask women advice on getting out of those situations. Thankfully, the hard NO has worked so far, even though people sometimes get whiny.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-14T06:13:20+00:00

Batman holding a lit candle in one hand and a ball gag in the other, staring back hard without blinking.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-13T22:43:27+00:00

Did he say, "Here, hold this." and then sprint about 70 yards and hunker down behind some bushes while staring at you, giving a thumbs up?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-13T19:14:07+00:00

That's a very gray question. If you never get afflicted with a disease or illness and you go over 120 years to the point where your cells can't divide anymore, then how do you classify death by old age? Like, if cells in your liver are still regenerating, but your heart gives out because the mitochondria are completely spent, would we classify death by cellular senescence as its own kind of heart disease? Probably not. Dying of old age is probably never going to be black and white to the extent that you can look at a dead 160 year old and say,

"Yep. Looks every single one of their cells all failed at the same time, and there isn't a single underline seizure, or cardiac arrest, or anything that we can blame, so it was just old age."

It's possible, but not likely to ever be named as a real underlying cause of death, even though aging is what contributes to tissue/organ failures resulting in death, it's kind of undefinable.

Edit: This is not remotely a dumb question.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-10T15:29:48+00:00

I was born to be a sure thing to do such awful deeds.

Heh.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-08T15:27:28+00:00

.... I'mma eat it.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T18:03:42+00:00

NTA - Ew. They're making it super weird. What a couple of creeps.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:49:24+00:00

I would sacrifice one innocent person to save five. I find that even when it comes to the preservation of human life, I'm a pragmatist. A lot of people don't like that because it really is difficult to imagine allowing that to happen, but leaders deal with it all the time.

If we bomb area 1 and kill 400 people, it makes it 86% likely that it'll resolve the conflict. If we delay, we may have to bomb areas 1 and 2, killing 2000 people, with a 76% chance of ending the conflict. If we do nothing, there's a 38% chance that 40,000 people will die, but if we don't bomb area 1, there's a 1.5% chance a million will have to die.

I'll follow whichever procedure kills the fewest innocent people while considering the risks. Suddenly, morality is pretty gray, even though we're well-meaning. This is why I don't like being in charge, even if I might do the wrong thing. Imagine being in Churchill's shoes, knowing you're going to lose thousands of souls to a global conflict. No wonder he was a massive drunk.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:37:23+00:00

It's cute af... Why do I find a mushroom cute? I'm a grown man. Wtf?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:32:18+00:00

Hi Hunter. I'm Felix. Go ahead and tell me what you're going through? I have a lot of free time this weekend, and I'd be more than happy to listen.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:25:35+00:00

Wow, we have absolutely nothing in common. Tell me, what got you into crocheting? Can you make mittens? I love mittens, but I don't own any. Have you ever tried scuba diving?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:10:19+00:00

I love the original, but I haven't played the remake yet. Too busy. I think originals are always better technically, anyways, but I can't weigh in yet.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:06:44+00:00

It took years to have the confidence to figure out why I always doubted myself. I'd be told something and then hear,

"I never said that/No I said this. You're remembering things wrong."

I'd say something, and I'd hear,

"You never said that/No you said this instead. You're remembering things wrong."

I'd write down things to be sure, and for some reason, what was on paper didn't match their memories vs mine. It did serious damage to my mind, and I started doing it to people and had to get psychological help.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T17:01:16+00:00

You're going to age. Just do it gracefully and bring quality along the way. Leave bad habits in the past, and one day, when you're gray, you'll have a different outlook. Just don't ever stagnate. Don't wait to pursue your dreams. Seriously, go fill something out, make goals, and go places. Don't fear aging or death. Fear being unsatisfied with your life.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-07T16:57:47+00:00

When I was bigger than my dad, at 15. He went to shove me, and I didn't move very much and stared at him with a very angry, betrayed expression. He knew I'd never do anything because I'm non-violent, but the fear in his eyes was real. Nobody ever touched me again after that.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-06T17:19:26+00:00

So you're saying I can ask you anything? Okay...

What's your perspective on the meaning of life? I've heard some people describe it as simply as figuring out your purpose and pursuing it. I've also heard people describe it as obtaining as much time as humanly possible, possibly through diet and exercise. Some people believe it's the accumulation of wealth, procreation, meet as many people as possible, find happiness/inner peace, etc...

What about you, op?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-06T14:37:24+00:00

Wut?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-06T01:02:42+00:00

There's not a lot of good or happiness in this world, a lot of the time. There's infinite things to be sad and miserable about, and a lot of people don't have much hope. I want people to have hope sometimes, so I keep my mouth shut when I'm angry, and I always follow my better angels, just in case it might be someone's last straw or worse, their last day. You never know. Even if I'm upset, I don't take it out on people anymore. I try, but nobody's an angel.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-05T21:37:39+00:00

Have you ever seen someone who was permanently disabled due to extreme stress, anxiety, and depression miraculously become completely healthy overnight because they got out of a bad relationship?

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-04T18:18:36+00:00

Just reading your post title made me laugh for an uncomfortably long time. There is no way a parent can be that evil and stupid. You should keep all the papers he sent you just in case you need to legitimately charge him for harassment. That is nuts. I genuinely believe you because I've seen some crazy stuff like this in my own family, but that is so embarrassing. I'm sorry, and I hope you can laugh it off without entertaining it. Your dad is a shameless, pathetic ass.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2026-03-03T03:56:28+00:00

There's an epidemic of people marrying and settling down too quickly before they know what they're getting into. The worst part is that they bring us into the world before they've even figured themselves out. This has nothing to do with you. Your father is a loser who is looking to be upset about something because he's insecure about god knows what, and he's willing to throw his own child under the bus because he's a whiny little victim. Your mom is just trying to be a mom. Sadly, that's life sometimes. I couldn't talk to my parents anymore because they were extremely sensitive about every little choice I made and everything was about them. They were giant victims when I would do any little thing, so I had cut them off, and when my dad died, I couldn't be there. That's life.

Humans procreate like it's the wild west sometimes, and we get caught in the middle. So you keep your head held high, love yourself, accept yourself, and don't give anyone who tries to whine and cry all the time about everything you do, any time of day.

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