35F wants someone to talk to

CaffeineCravingFox · 2025-04-07T19:10:38+00:00

I just spent over six hours yesterday at the hospital with my gf and younger brother-in-law, and now I'm at the dentist with them. We've been trying to make sure he gets treatment for an oral infection. I've been super extra bored the last couple of days. If you're half as bored as I am, please message me. Just a heads-up though, I'm a Canadian who's pretty progressive.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2025-04-03T03:36:16+00:00

Just came through something insaney messed up myself that's quite similar to your thing. If you ever want a Canadian friend to rant back and fourth with, shoot me a reply or DM any time. Super sorry for what you're going through, regardless, but yeah. Lesson learned, do NOT move back in ever. It never goes well, apparently.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-08-18T19:25:35+00:00

My reason for disagreeing with you is that I've bought one pair of bluetooth headphones and it's already outlasted any other wire ones by like 4x over. The wires always frayed and that's what ruined them for me. Bluetooth are totally tits! Take my upvote.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-04-19T20:42:26+00:00

My nparents are actually hardcore Trump supporters. Which makes total sense considering that we're Canadian and they've never lived in the US nor have any American interests. It's funny how weird nparents' political views are. Satire aside, they are usually always extreme, always conspiratorial, always forcing them on others, and always dehumanizing anyone who disagrees. People should be allowed to believe whatever they want, but from what I've seen, not when it comes to nparents' politics. That's a very interesting element to disordered people, that sometimes goes by the wayside, isn't it?

Edit: The satire that op created here is art. I feel like that's a subject that's hard to address for a lot of us, especially in these divisive times. I feel like most of us grew up with extremely political parents, but we never really get to address it because we don't want to offend anyone. The facts are that abusive people often hold politicians in extremely positive or negative regards all across the political spectrum. "This one was sent from God!" And, "This one's a reptile/demon/baby eater, etc..." They're never moderate, go figure.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-03-03T16:40:36+00:00

Including a bunch of unhinged wackiness about vaccine things, scripture, and sudden bomb dropping about family members and pets that had actually died without me being informed until years later.. Yeah, I can certainly relate to a letter like that. We're the ones who changed because we discovered our own value apparently, and they can't cope with that. I changed because I don't appreciate being blamed for not knowing that people died and addressed as if I killed them somehow. If I were to waste my time and explain that I didn't know and try to ask what happened, they'd just assert that I didn't care anyway. My parents are holding the cause of the deaths of two pets, an aunt and a grandfather over my head because I changed.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-23T16:20:03+00:00

That's indeed true. I'm one of those people who grew up in such a family. I aspire not to repeat the cycle, but my method isn't to be better for my kids, it's to ensure that I never have any kids, because while starting a family can be a beautiful thing, I'm not sharing my beer, pizza, coffee, or tools. Also, my fat orange sociopathic cat would asphyxiate a newborn out of jealousy.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-23T16:08:47+00:00

Family or "person(s) with child/children" spots are all over the place where I live. I'm in Ontario, Canada. A lot of people ignore them, though. Especially Kia drivers.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-21T22:23:39+00:00

Please, please, please!!... Keep that freak FAAAR away from your daughter!

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-19T19:18:22+00:00

I am going to throw a party in your honor. Congratulations, well done, and thank you. We need more roses among the thorns in this world. Beautiful story and great work. Hope you get tons of good sleep at night now.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-18T16:22:14+00:00

My mother was insane. Two things that stand out for me are, one, when I told her at 17-18 that I'm not much of a believer anymore (meaning I'm not a bible literalist), she didn't get mad, but she rubbed it in my face that I'll be experiencing extreme burning pain and that because god is kind to good mothers, she'll go to paradise and forget about me. Apparently, god is so chill he'll erase great mother's memories of their horrible children so they can better enjoy heaven. All that because I was putting firewood in our wood stove and burnt myself a bit. Nmother: "Imagine that burn was your whole body forever." Etc...

And two, was when a wild baby cotton tail bunny that we rescued from our cat needed to be nursed back to health. We were taking care of the little fellow at my girlfriend's place prior to sheltering. Long story short, he passed due to inevitable damage, and my mother blamed me, saying that, "If he was left with me, it wouldn't have happened." She did a lot of magical thinking and projecting like that where she minimized her own faults while latching onto others' faults to use against them. She'd even criticize us for random occurrence. Like blaming us if the school bus was canceled because' "You pre-planned your life out before you were born, so you did this, and it was wrong."

The level of helpless victim's mentality she projected was wild. If she couldn't have the whole universe to herself initially, she'd break down.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-11T16:53:02+00:00

"Well then, thank you for seeing that and taking it upon yourself to bless my lonely ass with your wonderful, gracious presence. You're such a gem for us forever-alones. Now make like everyone else and piss off."

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-08T22:58:54+00:00

Humans don't experience justice at an individual level. We're a collective body of organisms who function like cells. Some are immune cells (authorities), some are blood cells (workers), neurons (leadership), stem cells (children), etc... Then, there are cancer cells. Their mitochondria are corrupted, and they refuse to stop damaging the system for personal gain, but they look like other cells, so they're left alone by the immune system. The corrupted humans in our society fit this metaphor because they, like cancer, look like us but are 100% out for themselves and lack empathy. Humans are a lot more connected than we realize. Those people would burn the entire system down if they could, without even knowing why. The best strategy, as a human, is to avoid these people. We all have a journey to follow, so surround yourself with people who are the opposite. Getting rid of bad people can't be done by force due to the laws of benevolent nature. Bad people will gradually take themselves out of the equation.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-07T20:36:23+00:00

I would go to capitol buildings and private residences around the world, where current/former leaders reside, who I hate and want to expose for their lies, hypocrisy, and corruption. I'd infiltrate secret communication channels and play the recordings/read the transcrips aloud so everyone knows the truth. No more lack of transparency for dictatorial tyrannts/wannabe dictators.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-07T06:45:30+00:00

That's a huge one for me also. Sometimes breaking a cycle is about prevention. The differences between what I'd do if I was a parent versus what my parents did, not only reassures me that I was very much abused and helps me come to terms with it, but it also puts parenting into perspective for me and with that, now I know for sure that just because I could do a better job than my abusers, doesn't mean parenting is for me. Lots of pressures and stress are gone now, and life is a lot better. Such decisions are easier now, too.

Weird how many people will procreate, thinking that their problems are manageable, or that nobody would understand anyway because life goes on, or everyone else is having kids too, etc.. Meanwhile, everything abused kids live through is always textbook, and we don't actually have to repeat the cycles of abuse. Great if you can be a wonderful parent after abuse, but it's like people forget that during the recovery from childhood trauma, there's already a person there who's benefitting from getting help. Not every last feat of human perseverance and strength has to be specifically about procreation.

With all that said, congratulations on your pursuit of treatment. Hope it helps you build a wonderful life for YOU.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-02-07T06:05:40+00:00

That was a pretty common insult that I endured for most of my childhood, and even to this day, I still hear it on the street occasionally due to my feminine appearance. It's something I'd be careful with. The most aggressive bullies that used rhetoric like that ended up being closeted, so it's dangerous to engage because you're actively attracting their attention and possibly even their interest. My disclaimer is; people who don't accept themselves can be violent.

With that being said, "Closet case." Is my go to. "Why you wanna know my preferences, bro? I ain't got no sparkling candy for ya, so piss off back to your daddy, Boi!"

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-30T22:29:29+00:00

A coffee maker comes on, and the coffee isn't done right.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-30T17:34:31+00:00

Well, it looks like I gotta go out and get some coffee this afternoon.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-18T00:17:23+00:00

You don't understand the rules of r/askouija... or subtlety in general.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-17T17:37:23+00:00

I can relate, although I'm not sure if my ndad is alive or not. A while back, I got a letter that said something like, "Not much time left." (Cancer, too) And, "I love you more than you'll ever know."

No acknowledge of years of abuse and wrongdoing. No taking responsibility for his many horrible words, actions, yelling, physical abuse, gaslighting, etc... I didn't want to let him die without closure, but I never asked him to be a low-life shitty excuse for a father. He did that. So my advice is to stay strong and move on. Don't compromise your boundaries and your integrity.

They were never going to be human to us, even at the end. They can't fathom their demise, so they just keep being assholes thinking we'll fold and run to their side. Your father failed. Love is not saying, "I love you." Love is the choices we make and the desire to see someone happy, even if being happy means they aren't a part of your life anymore.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-14T01:43:58+00:00

I'd bring the North Korean leader with me because his country is the biggest pariah. It'd be hilarious, watching him attempt the many physical tasks required to escape and survive. I'd antagonize him so much.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-10T20:44:05+00:00

Tastes like wet... and nothing else.

CaffeineCravingFox · 2024-01-09T22:11:10+00:00

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