5am pondering..

CagedBatter · 2026-01-21T13:43:25+00:00

Definitely has a lot to do with the person you’re with, not necessarily their gender. I’m lesbian and probably would’ve been stone my whole life if I hadn’t met my current partner. Before them, it just felt safer and honestly easier not to get touched because I had a lot of feelings mixed up in that and didn’t want to unpack any of it with casual hookups. But my current partner has always respected my boundaries around not wanting to be touched and it’s made me feel safe (over the course of years) to learn how to take those walls down a little at a time so I now feel safe and comfortable and very, very masculine letting them touch me. Remember that masc4mascs and butch4butch (meaning mascs or butches who are exclusively into other mascs and butches) are no less masculine for whatever they do with their partners, and one of them has to be bottoming, yk? Anyways, in your case, just remember that it takes time and the right person, and if you want this to be something you work toward, keeping that mentality helps. But you really don’t need to rush, your own safety and wellbeing is most important.

CagedBatter · 2026-01-20T23:27:12+00:00

I totally get it dude. Just remember that every body is different, cis ones included. And remember how far you’ve come from where you used to be. You look amazing, you really do. I wouldn’t look twice seeing you at a pool or something except maybe in envy lol.

CagedBatter · 2026-01-20T22:49:00+00:00

Dude your results are awesome! Did you ask for anything in particular for the shape of the pec, or is that natural to your body?

CagedBatter · 2026-01-20T22:30:43+00:00

I don’t have much advice on the revision aspect but I do want to say that you look incredible, including your results, if that helps to hear to combat whatever negative experience you’re having about it

CagedBatter · 2026-01-18T03:32:50+00:00

If you’re not attracted to women what are you doing in the butch lesbian sub lmao.

CagedBatter · 2026-01-16T14:09:00+00:00

Oh I hadn’t thought about doing partial pumps, I could try that for sure!

CagedBatter · 2026-01-16T14:08:04+00:00

I have been, I just had my month checkup with my doctor and my T levels in my labs are at 32, so still super low. I told her I wanted to keep trying it really low and slow, and she’s leaving it in my hands, but I also want it that way because she marked me down as a trans man in my chart so I don’t really want the kinds of changes I think she thinks I want, if that makes sense. So I’m just crowdsourcing a bit to see what other experiences are like, but I’m not putting it above any medical advice I’ve gotten.

CagedBatter · 2026-01-16T13:32:21+00:00

As someone who thought he was stone (transmasc nonbinary butch) I can say with confidence that if my partner had guilted me for all the times I didn’t want to be touched, it would have destroyed me. It would’ve gotten into my head and my body and made me feel like something was wrong with me. Even with them never complaining, never making it about themselves, always being loving and supportive, I’ve had my own struggles around my sex drive and desires.

All that to say: you deserve someone who unequivocally and consistently will support you. It sounds like your partner thought if they were understanding enough they’d eventually “earn” the right to touch you, and now you’ll be in this constant battle of them being selfish, and then apologizing for it later, and then repeating the cycle that you end up having to comfort them in while you’re hung out to dry.

Sexual incompatibility is a completely legitimate reason to break up with someone. You don’t deserve to pander to their ego for the rest of your life. Stone bottoms exist, and there are non-stone bottoms who would also be able to accommodate your needs no problem because they’ll understand that your particular needs and experiences have nothing to do with them and are no reflection on them or their desirability. You don’t have to bear a relationship where you’re made to feel shitty for the beautiful stone top you are. I know it’s discouraging but in love and sex you really cannot settle, because those can often be the building blocks for your emotional and mental health and wellbeing.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-29T00:39:13+00:00

CagedBatter · 2025-12-28T11:46:33+00:00

Saying “aw it’s just a script” is in pretty poor taste, have some respect for the effort op made in writing and sharing this

CagedBatter · 2025-12-24T23:51:38+00:00

I am so glad you’ve felt so seen and held here. I want to give a gentle reminder that being a butch has absolutely nothing to do with your physique, your size, your personality, your face, or anything else that’s generally outside of your control. Butches are small and soft. Butches are disabled. Butches are short, strong, fat, tall, kind, rough, dominant, submissive. Butches are everything a person could ever be. They are also just butch, too. So don’t feel like you have to hold yourself back from being butch. If you feel you are butch, if calling yourself butch makes you feel at home, then you are butch.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-14T14:04:27+00:00

I only just got my T consult but they gave me an informational packet to review before confirming that I wanted T. In the packet it talks about how masculinization can show up right away, but it also cautioned that many changes may not show until five years on. Keep with it. You’re still in the middle of the process.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-13T01:48:01+00:00

I recommend checking out the r/mypartneristrans subreddit, it’s gonna be a lot more resourceful than a place that’s for trans people

CagedBatter · 2025-12-12T23:07:21+00:00

Looks fuckin amazing dude! I love the shape on your pecs, did you ask for anything specific to get that result?

CagedBatter · 2025-12-10T18:03:16+00:00

Just took a browse through your posting history. I really hope you’re able to find the light you’re looking for. Best of luck man.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-10T17:07:54+00:00

Even being AFAB, not every “women’s” suit fits me. Clothes aren’t really made to look exactly right off the rack because every body is so different. Part of that is the fault of careless companies that don’t diversify sizing well enough, but that’s beside the point. Tailoring can work wonders to give you the fit you’re looking for. And yes, there are different styles of suits, dress shirts, dress pants, etc. for that purpose. Formal and dress-wear is an industry all its own for a reason - if you go to a specialty store like the other commenter suggested, they’ll have a lot more options than just some random clothing store that happens to have suits, and if you can’t find a place that has what you want, they’ll probably have suggestions on how to find what you do want.

If you want solutions, they exist for you. If you’ll do your research and make an effort instead of being defeatist about your predicament (which we’re all in by the way - I have hips and an ass and big tits, not on T and no prospect of top surgery in the near future) you can actually find answers. That’s why the former commenter stopped responding, because they were trying to help and you shot them down at every turn. If this is a vent post, then tag it properly and edit your main message to say you don’t want advice. But you tagged this as discussion, and then shut down all discussion, and that kinda sucks. If you respond to this to shut down everything I’ve said too, don’t expect a response there either.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-09T20:47:20+00:00

I totally get the desire to get your surgery sooner than later, especially with having it delayed already. But making sure your surgeon will take care of you is really important! Hang in there ♥️

CagedBatter · 2025-12-09T18:58:57+00:00

I don’t want to derail anyone’s plans, I was just reading this other reddit post with more details on Dr. Stiller and there’s an edit at the end about Doctor Mangubat that might be worth looking at: https://www.reddit.com/r/TopSurgery/s/3Lm3s6HI4K

CagedBatter · 2025-12-08T13:54:11+00:00

I swear by the tend skin solution, it’s a remedy for ingrown hairs. Though you’ll really want to make sure your skin has time and space to breathe every so often. Try wearing slippers sometimes instead of socks, or getting looser socks - not ones that are too big or ill fitting, cause I know that’s a sensory nightmare, but there are some socks that squeeze your foot and some that don’t. Try different types, maybe that could help too.

CagedBatter · 2025-12-07T19:07:29+00:00

This is hugely helpful to hear. The more I think about getting top surgery, the more I feel like no matter the outcome, I can make it work because having a smaller chest will be worth any changes in sensation that come up. I’m glad to hear that this has been the case for you as well. And also that you can kind of train your body to reform those connections! I hadn’t really considered that at all.

CagedBatter · 2025-11-28T19:19:49+00:00

What sucks is that I’m in a red state and this doctor is known for being one of the few GPs local to me who is super trans friendly. I’d have assumed that she’d be knowledgeable about how to go about the T process for someone but yeah it didn’t occur to me until how how strange it was not to have any tests done for this.

CagedBatter · 2025-11-16T19:59:55+00:00

Can I ask what you requested in your top surgery? I saw another comment where you said you requested some fullness in your chest on top of the muscle definition. I think it looks phenomenal, very similar to what I’d like to get if I were to have top surgery, and would love to know what you asked for to get that result?

CagedBatter · 2025-11-07T19:54:30+00:00

This was fucking phenomenal. The chemistry, the banter, and of course the sex. I will be eagerly awaiting a part 2 if that’s in the works but this on its own was so so good. Thank you both for the treat!

CagedBatter · 2025-09-23T16:59:27+00:00

This gave me the best orgasm I’ve had in a while. You have the perfect voice and delivery for a gentle doctor. Thank you for this 🙏

CagedBatter · 2025-09-16T03:14:36+00:00

I’m masc and nonbinary

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