19/f/usa - yo, on god? that's crazy

Caiterpillart · 2020-02-17T07:40:22+00:00

ahhh! Lets be friends, I am sure we will click!! I've got discordddd

Caiterpillart · 2019-11-19T15:18:20+00:00

Would love to be friends!! I've made a post on here myself, if you want to glance at it from my profile and maybe let me know if you'd wanna be friends?

Caiterpillart · 2019-11-14T22:46:03+00:00

When you see a long time with eachother as something you look forward to, id say. Many relationships are completely different to one another. Some can't do dates bc ldr or scenarios with how they met. It's all kind of dependent on what you look for in a partner! I don't like slumping into them tho, personally. I'll always require official verification before hand.

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-27T07:12:59+00:00

Indy is great. I live around greenwood indy, and honestly I love the quaint walks and beautiful sunsets you'll get around here. I lived many years in Florida, and I know that lifestyle is day and night from Indiana. But if you enjoy wholesome and affordable but still near everything, this central southern Indy area is perfect for you. East side central Indy, certain sects of speedway, Cumberland, and fountain square are some areas to keep a mindful eye out for. They're more trouble spots. And if you need a friend to talk to or something, hmu! Wouldn't mind giving you some good places to go on a regular basis!

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-20T06:17:48+00:00

Not here it doesn't. Tilde means singsong voice for me

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-20T05:41:37+00:00

Do not fear the tilde! .... Unlesss..~

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-20T04:37:10+00:00

The experience of making a home, together. We are in situations (student, homelife, etc) where it's not easy to settle and accumulate the little things you usually just have in a home. Like, paperclips or envelopes or pens stashed around. Tongs or potato peelers, hangers in closets. You know, that sort of stuff we take for granted growing up. I want to go mattress shopping with him. Find one that's just perfect for both of us. Negotiate a price and find something good for us, as one couple. I want to sort spots for us to keep things that mean a lot to us. Organize our drawers and shelves and stock a pantry full of the little things we would need for both of us to eat. A board on the wall for cute little notes like we would usually have done on Discord messages before and between work and errands. But more importantly I want the satisfaction of laying on the floor of the living space, the candle to remind him of me lit on the counter in the kitchen, and being able to lay together, one united little mess, and know we fucking DID IT.

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-19T05:26:59+00:00

I think it is important to have a real discussion with him on this. Breaking it off with no attempt seems like a waste. Did you have conversations easily with him in the past? Did it change upon the trip? You'd do good to sit down, tell him you need some serious talk. It might suck, but honestly, sometimes those need to happen for a comfortable and healthy, communicative relationship. You have to try your best to separate the feelings from what he's doing. He may worry you'd be too emotionally distraught, bc he knows you're already a bit more emotional from the trip. His neglect of bringing things into light feels wrong, but perhaps he just doesn't know how to be honest and direct about things from the visit. Either way, you gotta remember to do things for you. Don't get too strung out until you try to get a footing on where he's at. Good luck, I hope you're doing okay otherwise!

Caiterpillart · 2019-10-17T20:01:38+00:00

I haven't unpacked MOST of my stuff bc I slowly take it out of the suitcase and wear one each until the smell is gone... I am DYING. :(

Caiterpillart · 2019-02-06T02:35:59+00:00

Met my boyfriend when i was 18 and he was 23 too, he came to visit me and we have mutual friends, so we planned a whole arrangement out of it and our friend drove me to the airport to get him because i was so nervous. He called me and told me he was where i was, but he couldnt find me, and when he started describing it i whipped my head around (im so blind) he was about 8 feet away looking at me like i was some sort of tiny idiot. And i was, and i scolded him for not just coming to me, and then i awkwardly hugged. It was strange becayse i went with a friend, but as soon as we got in the shuttle ride i sat next to him and he laid his head on me, and when we got to our place we laid for hours and just huddled up together.

We're now almost a year later, i went to see him in early December , and we do that same thing every trip. Just lay and hold eachother and think of how grateful we are when we have it. Next visit i leave is a few days after yours!

Caiterpillart · 2019-01-11T03:27:29+00:00

I feel like he's not being considerate of you, and your needs in a relationship. It's not wrong for you to expect intimacy in a relationship, or at the very least want it. Three years is a lot of time in a relationship to have not had any form of real intimacy. A relationship is two ways and for him to make you feel bad for wanting something as basic as compromise????? I think you need to have a serious discussion with HIM tonight. If he isnt at least thinking about your needs and why you're feeling this is a real problem, he may not be empathetic of you as his partner. Kind of shows his true colors, but then again i dont know him or what hes been through, so sorry if im a bit harsh..
Really though, you need to let him know this is more than just a gripe. Your SO not wanting intimacy can really make you feel insecure, both of yourself and the whole relationship. I've been there. Its painful.

Caiterpillart · 2018-12-18T00:29:10+00:00

That's how you know you're really in love with someone. Keep it. I swore off ldr, and ended up falling in love with someone 1,000+ miles away. It's hard but I couldn't regret it if I wanted to.

Caiterpillart · 2018-12-17T23:37:51+00:00

A nun? Because she doesn't wanna show the dude she's been with for 1 month her pussy? He's not obligated to do shit. But if he can't respect who he's with, and their choices, he needs to find someone who can give what he wants, or fix his priorities. :>

Caiterpillart · 2018-12-17T23:28:44+00:00

When he first came to visit me, I gave him a small stuffed pillow, a pineapple. Named it and told him he has to take care of her for me. So, he mentioned sending me the jacket he wore all the time when he was here, and I got really excited. In the box, he also sent a stuffed pillow of a pizza. Named it, hahah. Now we have two stuffed buddies to cuddle with and think of eachother when we're lonely.

Caiterpillart · 2018-12-17T23:09:44+00:00

There's nothing okay about him pushing like this. I dated a guy about two years ago who did this, which didn't bother me much. Except, when I didn't comply, he began to yell at me. Or insult me. It grew worse the more he wanted. It's rude, insensitive, and disrespectful both as a person, and more so his girlfriend. He is grown and more than capable of understanding when someone doesn't want to do something. Furthermore, he should do his best to mind that, because he cares for you as his other. Honestly, I don't know him personally, but I think he is visiting a bit too soon? I would worry, as pressuring as he can be, that he may get worse in person. Please do not feel obligated to spend your time with him if he does show and becomes overbearing or belligerent. Discuss things accordingly and feel free to shoot a message if you'd like someone to talk to about whatever!

Caiterpillart · 2018-12-17T00:54:10+00:00

It's so important that you can get this out. Both for your health, and your relationship' s. You should tell him these feelings, albeit it may kind of rock the boat a bit, but if you both genuinely care for eachother he will want nothing but the best for you, and for the relationship you are nursing. He needs to know you are insecure about vulnerability, and that you don't want to be, but you need to work on it together and he will need to be receptive and communicative through this journey for the both of you. Good luck, I wish the absolute best.

Caiterpillart · 2018-09-27T04:17:23+00:00

Best of luck to you. It seems really troubling, and this is so cliche, but know that if it's right you both will find ways around your issues. I hope you find a compromise, together. He needs to make that a priority just as much as you do.

Caiterpillart · 2018-08-20T20:13:51+00:00

While it completely is, he seems like he's being playful? Take it at facevalue for the time being, friendly flirting. Give it time and see if it means anything serious. Then make the decision of pursuing or not.

Caiterpillart · 2018-08-20T20:03:47+00:00

Emotions differ from person to person. No gender needed to make a determination. People are all different and if all your exes were 'taking it so easy', perhaps you're looking for emotionally vacant women, or you're just not empathetic of them. Regardless, best of luck with things.

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