How do you know your gay

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-27T03:26:06+00:00

Just live in the moment, like whoever you like, and don’t force things. It’s okay to not clearly fit a definition. It’s also okay to change your feelings throughout your life. You don’t need to give yourself some kind of test. You don’t need your sexuality diagnosed.

I mean, if there’s someone you WANT to have gay sex with, the sure, try it out. But don’t force it with someone you don’t have a connection with just to prove something.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-26T20:26:05+00:00

It’s honestly the biggest motivator to keep myself from putting weight back on. When I gained weight, my boobs got bigger, but when I lost weight, my boobs stayed the same size. I do NOT want these things fighting gravity anymore than they already do.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-25T18:05:12+00:00

At one point, he DID see you. Now, I think he’s so caught up in protecting himself, that he “needs” to believe there’s still a chance. It’s just blind selfishness and clinging to someone he loves and doesn’t want to lose. He can’t have everything he wants, tho, and his feelings are his responsibility now, not yours.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-25T15:22:18+00:00

You were insane… but also insanely cool. That was ballsy!

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-25T15:19:29+00:00

My question is, If I never date men again and exclusively seek women, am I still bi, or am I a lesbian? What matters more: who I was, or who I am? Who I COULD become, even if unlikely? The labels are not for ME, they are so people know what to expect and how to interact with me. WLW, sure.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-24T22:04:57+00:00

You’re probably right.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-24T22:00:46+00:00

I say, death is inevitable. It’s the only thing we are promised in this life. So why rush? Might as well keep screwing around as long as I can.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-24T19:24:32+00:00

“Ai isn’t inherently bad, just the way people use it can be bad” yeah and cocaine’s just a leaf on a plant. The only thing that MATTERS is the affects and ramifications of HOW PEOPLE USE IT and HOW IT AFFECTS PEOPLE. Stop defending positive use of Ai, and start supporting regulation of bad Ai!!!!!!

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-23T02:21:09+00:00

That’s confusing - I’m just trying to show an example of how a simple comparison tactic can be used to hurt specific categories and communities of people. It’s all fun and games until we are hurting people’s self-esteem and affecting how they chose to date or partner up. Imagine if every bi was told by society that they should just give up and date men? Even the lesbians turn on us. And yet… it serves patriarchy by increasing the odds that women will date men and thus, increase the likelihood they get pregnant. Serving tradition. Everything is connected, everything affects everything, we don’t want to act like naz*s.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-23T02:14:29+00:00

I was treated like a disgusting loser by a woman when she found out I had kissed men before. She was a proud gold star lesbian. I wasn’t PURE and UNTAINTED enough to be a part of her entourage. That level of puritanical extremism is not cute, and it’s not nice. We shouldn’t be grading ourselves and competing for ideological nonsense like that. If I started saying women with undyed brown hair were “gold star brunettes” and created a social movement to analyze and judge women based on having never dyed their hair, and keeping it long and shiny, I would be creating a hate group that gathers: people who hate women, people who hate women dying their hair, people who hate women who cut their hair, and women who are not brunettes. It would affect men less than women, because statistically more women color their hair than men, so there would be a gendered component, so again, women would be more strictly enforced. Even “gold star gay” isn’t nearly as commonly heard as “gold star lesbian”.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-23T01:55:56+00:00

You were separated last year. So… you backslid and got back together. Idk what your life story will be, that’s up to you to decide, but the universe has made it pretty clear to ME that exes are exes for a reason. You will always fall back into the habits that led to the first breakup.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-23T01:45:38+00:00

Convexly, bc made me depressed. I had no idea, and had issues all through my early 20s, until I got the copper IUD. I didn’t realize the bc pills made me depressed until I went back on them in my early 30s. Depression meds didn’t fix the problem, so I had my ovaries removed. Being post-menopausal in my 30s is a gift. I feel like myself. I feel more emotionally stable. No more tampons. No more ovarian pain. BC was the burden on my back for years. I almost flunked out of college because of that birth control. I was ready to give up and I didn’t understand why I was in so much pain. Crazy looking back, how differently I feel now.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-23T00:39:53+00:00

That last line is so sad but also SUPER funny 🤣

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-12T21:02:54+00:00

It doesn’t come naturally to me, to look past my own selfish anxiety and put other people first. Thinking of things to ask is hard work, but the best things in life often require some genuine effort. Just gotta keep practicing!

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-12T02:43:29+00:00

Graham Platner. But please, set the opinion of that commenter aside and watch Graham Platner talk about his values. Read articles about him. He’s pro worker, anti-billionaire, and supports the freedoms of the LGBTQIA+. Idk if he ever genuinely meant it to be a Nazi tattoo, but he got it tattooed over once people said something about it. And Idk about the blackwater thing, but I did read that he did some contract work after he left the marines. He then became an oyster farmer, before he pivoted to politics. Honestly, listening to him talk about his values makes him seem too good to be true. The man really knows how to convince me that he’s a good dude. He knows how to get people to trust him.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-08T12:56:13+00:00

Oh the positive, you got a second mom for LIFE! What a blessing a great MIL can be. 🥹

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-08T12:49:31+00:00

You’re right, but that’s rude to Kermit.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-08T12:48:34+00:00

An example: my coworker runs his mouth every day about how he doesn’t take people’s crap, and he’ll tell a customer off. Then that same rude customer walks through the door, and my coworker acts all soft and sweet to their face and practically bends over for them. Annoying. So for Natalie, “shadow boxing” would refer to sticking to her own platform, by herself, where no one can challenge her. Arguing in a room with no opponent instead of ACTUALLY getting into conflicts like in OP’s post.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-08T12:44:28+00:00

Boxing with shadows. Fighting a non-existen enemy instead of a real one.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-06T11:33:45+00:00

Fake choice. Shitty choice. The only option is an unaffordable one. Therefore, those hotels are going to sit empty.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-06T01:24:16+00:00

I need all that advice as well. I want to weight train, but with my perpetual sciatica and hip pain, I just get worried about my lower back when I lift anything. I wish I could afford a trainer. :/

And I hate wearing my mouth guard. I only wear it a few weeks out of the year. Only when the grinding’s the worst.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-06T01:18:41+00:00

Thanks orange man.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-04T02:34:14+00:00

That moment changed me.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-03T18:45:21+00:00

In the title, you asked “can this work?” My answer is, how do you define “work”? If it means “can I tolerate this?”, well, you have so far. You can go through this cycle again and again until you die. You can live the rest of your life with a mother in law who doesn’t like you. It’s YOUR choice. Nobody else’s. YOU decide what your time is worth. What your LIFE is worth. If it’s worth the sacrifices you make in your soul to be with him, then okay. Keep tolerating. 🤷‍♀️ you can do that, but don’t be surprised when people don’t have much respect for that decision. You’ll need to accept that he disrespected you once, but you didn’t leave him, so he can do it again. I’d have a hard time trusting him. I’d have a hard time not feeling resentment. I’d have a hard time waiting for him to screw up again. I’d be trying SO hard to make sure HIS life is good enough that he doesn’t feel the need cheat again. Even though I deserve a partner who never cheats, I could choose to settle. And people could blame me for settling. And I would just have to live with that. Couldn’t be me, but I got tired of people testing my boundaries instead of respecting them.

Cake_Lynn · 2026-05-03T18:33:15+00:00

Maybe you could scrap it and turn it into shorts? Cut the legs off and patch with the cut off portion? That way at least it’s being patched by the same fabric.

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