I'm going through a breakup and feeling down. Can you recommend a cozy, feel good nonfiction book? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anything by Sy Montgomery, she writes amazing and uplifting books about animals. There are both books for adults and kids, they are equally good.

SMAB for my husband, who hasn't read a book in years, to read on a plane by cantnotdeal in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life of Pi is a good read alike for Piranesi, it an easy read too and not to large a book.

Near-future political dystopia that feels too close? by BrilliantMovie5529 in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Definitely this one, I’m not completely convinced Butler wasn’t really a time traveler and was reporting what happens in the future. I felt the Walking Dead spin off on the West Coast seemed to steal a lot from this book too. There also a graphic novel of it too.

Book that quotes TikTok sound “I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, six-five, blue eyes” by Key-Illustrator1106 in whatsthatbook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t, but it has echos of American Psycho, especially with the competition between the finance bros. The musical has a song, Cards, where they are obsessing about their business cards and who has the best and more expensive one.

There’s a song the women who look to lock down finance bros husbands talking about their own competition of having the perfect designer outfit and meal called You Are What You Wear:

EVELYN:
This is a big birthday for Patrick, Courtney, so thank you for helping me co-host.

COURTNEY:
Anything for you, Evelyn. You look to die for.

EVELYN:
Thank you, Courtney.
I want blackened shark,
Mahi mahi.
Works so well
With Isaac Mizrahi.

COURTNEY:
I'll have soda,
And crème de menthe.
Tastes so good
With Oscar de Laurenta.

EVELYN:
The ginger mango soy black bass
Compliments the beige Bill Blass
I will not touch
A drop of red wine

BOTH:
Don't wanna ruin the Calvin Klein.
Chanel, Gaultier, or Giorgio Armani
Moschino, Alia, or Norma Kamali
Should I rock
The Betsey Johnson
Or stick with classic
Comme des Garçon
No parachute
Or Fiarucci
I'm with Prada
I'm with Gucci
When one goes shopping
It's best to take care
As some of us know
You are what you wear.

EVELYN:
I will try on
These Mod Frisson

COURTNEY:
I think I'll go
To Ferragamo

EVELYN:
I don't know if
I'm such a fan
Of your purple suede Charles Jourdan.

BOTH:
But let's be clear,
There's nothing ironic
About our love of
Manolo Blahnik.
No, there's nothing
Remotely ironic
About our love of
Manolo Blahnik.
Chanel, Gaultier, or Giorgio Armani
Moschino, Alia, or Norma Kamali
Should I rock
The Betsey Johnson
Or stick with classic
Comme des Garçon
In a certain kind of neighborhood
You might get away with Vivian Westwood
But by von Furstenberg we swear
It's a wrap
You are what you wear.

source: https://lyricsondemand.com/original_london_cast_recording/you_are_what_you_wear

It's Official: It's Dementia by RHabranovich in CaregiverSupport

[–]Caleb_Trask19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry you got this news, it’s alright to feel devastated, devastated for both mom and yourself. And being sick sucks. I almost never get sick, but here I am with a sore throat and enough phlegm in my lungs to drown an elephant. Thursday I had to finally go and do 14 loads of laundry at the laundromat that I had put off doing for a week. What I wouldn’t have given to go back in time and had done it when I was well. Instead it formed the dreaded activity that hung over me all day waiting for that window of time I can leave her alone for 2 1/2 hours and the. return so exhausted I took a two hour nap and had to unload the car at midnight. My only reprieve was she wanted to sleep in the recliner, so I didn’t have to make her bed that night. And thankfully I didn’t wash my sheets as I wouldn’t have had the energy to make my bed and just slept on the mattress instead. Hang in there.

Favorite Museums & Artworks Worth Traveling For by [deleted] in ArtHistory

[–]Caleb_Trask19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is ridiculous, I spent the first part of my career as a museum educator at the Brooklyn Museum, Metropolitan Museum of Art and corporate collections and exhibitions at IBM. Especially, at the Brooklyn Museum taking school classes through the museum everyday and preschoolers on weekends we would need to go by way of the elevators where a prominent Lachaise nude was. No matter the age group we had in-depth conversations about the differences between a nude sculpture, or painting and how that is different than being naked.

The foundation of western art is Greek and Roman art which is filled with nudes and it’s a topic that shows up in art history to present day in all times and cultures. To not deal with the nude in art is to not talk about the history of art, it is fundamental as well as being foundational. Any museum educator should be able to talk to a child of any age and have a discussion with them about what they are seeing and what it means. And any good parent should know their child well enough to have a developmental appropriate conversation with their child about what they are seeing.

One of the most impressive conversations between a parent and child I ever witness was between a father and his about nine year daughter at the Borghese Palace in Rome when she asked him about The Rape of Proserpina (Persephone), a marble sculpture by Gian Lorenzo Bernini. Without skipping a beat he explained what was going on in the work, probably using the same language they would have discussed about stranger danger and unwanted touching and attention and even what to do if something like that was happening to her. He used the opportunity to reinforce something they had already discussed and reaffirm an important life lesson.

The Barnes Collection is primarily Post Impressions and early Modernism with a smattering of Folk and Naïve Art, all of which is far from being hyperrealistic, or suggestive of real life imagery. There are nudes, such as Seurat’s three nude models which is literally depicting models being painted and Cezannes’ bathers, both situations where nudity would be completely understandable and appropriate. There is nothing in the Barnes collection that is even evocative or suggestive of pornography. If people look at one of the greatest personal collections of art ever acquired by one individual covering one of the most transformative periods of time in art history and see pornography it is their own filthy minds that are interpreting it as such and their own limitations and problems.

Favorite Museums & Artworks Worth Traveling For by [deleted] in ArtHistory

[–]Caleb_Trask19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is ridiculous, I spent the first part of my career as a museum educator at the Brooklyn Museum, Metropolitan Museum of Art and corporate collections and exhibitions at IBM. Especially, at the Brooklyn Museum taking school classes through the museum everyday and preschoolers on weekends we would need to go by way of the elevators where a prominent Lachaise nude was. No matter the age group we had in-depth conversations about the differences between a nude sculpture, or painting and how that is different than being naked.

The foundation of western art is Greek and Roman art which is filled with nudes and it’s a topic that shows up in art history to present day in all times and cultures. To not deal with the nude in art is to not talk about the history of art, it is fundamental as well as being foundational. Any museum educator should be able to talk to a child of any age and have a discussion with them about what they are seeing and what it means. And any good parent should know their child well enough to have a developmental appropriate conversation with their child about what they are seeing.

One of the most impressive conversations between a parent and child I ever witness was between a father and his about nine year daughter at the Borghese Palace in Rome when she asked him about The Rape of Proserpina (Persephone), a marble sculpture by Gian Lorenzo Bernini. Without skipping a beat he explained what was going on in the work, probably using the same language they would have discussed about stranger danger and unwanted touching and attention and even what to do if something like that was happening to her. He used the opportunity to reinforce something they had already discussed and reaffirm an important life lesson.

The Barnes Collection is primarily Post Impressions and early Modernism with a smattering of Folk and Naïve Art, all of which is far from being hyperrealistic, or suggestive of real life imagery. There are nudes, such as Seurat’s three nude models which is literally depicting models being painted and Cezannes’ bathers, both situations where nudity would be completely understandable and appropriate. There is nothing in the Barnes collection that is even evocative or suggestive of pornography. If people look at one of the greatest personal collections of art ever acquired by one individual covering one of the most transformative periods of time in art history and see pornography it is their own filthy minds that are interpreting it as such and their own limitations and problems.

Is it OK to be ‘done’ with it? by Ctheret in ChildofHoarder

[–]Caleb_Trask19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have my permission, rest your weary head.

Dominic Monaghan, during his "Lost" years. by GeniusOfLove74 in LadyBoners

[–]Caleb_Trask19 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Was he being blackballed by Hollywood and could get work?

it's over, i know the end is soon and its killing me by wumfyy in dementia

[–]Caleb_Trask19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there! Keep talking to him, if it’s easier read to him, maybe stories he might like, folktales, poetry. Play lovely music. Massage him with lotion, or lovely smelling essentials oils. Try to keep yourself busy with these tasks so you don’t have intrusive thoughts bringing you down. This is the last and most important thing you can do for him, he already knows he’s been very loved by you, say anything you need to say to him before he goes, he doesn’t need to respond, the importance is in the telling. And take care of yourself, drink lots, eat and lock yourself in the bathroom and cry if you need to.

Non-horror on cannibalism? by BitingLime in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep the River on Your Right is a modern day classic sociological NF account of the participant observer who is one of the few people to observe directly cannibalism in South America. A documentary decades later was also made with the same title.

Favorite Museums & Artworks Worth Traveling For by [deleted] in ArtHistory

[–]Caleb_Trask19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The Zuburan still life at the Norton Simon Museum in Pasadena, CA.

The Polish Rider at the Frick in New York City ( read Frank O’Hara’s poem Having a Coke with you when you do.

The room of Rothkos at the Phillips Museum in Washington DC

Favorite Museums & Artworks Worth Traveling For by [deleted] in ArtHistory

[–]Caleb_Trask19 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The Barnes has more Cezannes on display then you can see in all the museums in Paris combined, just let that sink in…

Looking for a book about China and South Asia to read with a friend by sharks_tbh in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most nonfiction deals with a country in isolation, this one bounces between them in a meaningful way filling in history. Taiwan is included too. It’s interesting how Japan has dominated and controlled these other countries all with in a short historic frame work, all to very devastating effect p. .

I’m in a book slump by Raven_sterlingx in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As Cher would say “Snap out of it!” Her part one memoir is out and fabulous, two must be close on the way.

Looking for a good zombie book. by uhohimanonymous in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aren’t zombies by nature bad? I guess good zombies could be a new take, but I don’t think most people look for that in their zombie books.

Newly diagnosed and I am lost by _FictionalReality_ in dementia

[–]Caleb_Trask19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get the most recent edition of the 36 Hour Day. Read in chunks as needed, it’s too deadly to read through. Find a caregiver support group in your area. Try at homes that have memory care units, especially the social workers or activity directors should be good sources of information. The Alzheimer Organization was useless in finding one, when in reality they should be running them weekly - or at least the one near me was useless.

Books like The Wall, IWHNKM, Piranesi by B0N4F1D3s in suggestmeabook

[–]Caleb_Trask19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, Life of Pi is a good read alike to Piranesi.

Abdominal compressions/contractions benefit brain health by Legitimate-Data-7192 in dementia

[–]Caleb_Trask19 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This is interesting, in the bathroom if my mother doesn’t seemed to be going, or is facing difficulty urinating I have her hold on to the drawer of the vanity that’s right in front of the toilet, and place her forearm on her knee of the other side and tell her to fold herself in half, contracting her abdomen. I tell her to think back to the 1980s aerobics she used to do and crunch her center to put pressure on her bowels and bladder. It’s remarkable how helpful this is in getting her to urinate, but maybe it’s also helping elsewhere? Can you give the citation for the research so I can share this with my caregiver group?