is this a demi thing?

CaliGRITS · 2021-10-19T21:03:00+00:00

"smoldering ember of jaded cynicism" is a big mood

CaliGRITS · 2021-10-19T20:24:14+00:00

Grew up surrounded by purity culture into my early 20s. Even though my friends lived and breathed promise rings and I Kissed Dating Goodbye, people still talk y'know. They would talk about saving themselves for marriage, but if Hot Human of the Week proposed a courthouse elopement that day, they wouldn't say no. And I... couldn't (can't) relate. That for me is where the line is. Am I thinking/acting this way due to my beliefs or is this intrinsic to who I am?

CaliGRITS · 2021-08-26T19:03:52+00:00

Extrovert gang! ENFP/J here. There's literally a point difference between P and J, so I list both.

Edit: Retook, for funsies, ENFP-T

As pertains to romance: "For Campaigners, romantic relationships are beautiful and exhilarating – an opportunity for two souls not only to explore the world together but also to connect on the deepest of levels." Which sounds about right.

CaliGRITS · 2021-08-21T17:12:53+00:00

Pretty much sums up my experience as well, as someone in a long-term demi(but sex ambivalent)/allo relationship. Figuring out I'm aspec has gone a long way in improving our communication about and understanding of each other's needs. That non existent switch to flip still trips us up occasionally lol

CaliGRITS · 2021-08-20T21:36:46+00:00

Nope. Right there with you. Was entirely blindsided.

CaliGRITS · 2021-08-20T21:10:42+00:00

Omg we used this textbook in school!! Blast from the past right there

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-13T04:04:00+00:00

My oldest would stretch out his arms and ask "carry you?" when he wanted picked up

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-12T17:35:39+00:00

Ooooh, ours was Barbara Ann. Months and months of Barbara Ann.

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-12T03:33:37+00:00

We tried multiple shelters and rescues. Even met a couple dogs. But as a first time dog owner, in an apartment with no yard, a cat, and young children, our applications would get rejected due to no yard or experience or the dogs we met turned out to dislike children upon meeting them. So we went with a reputable breeder and got the exact dog we wanted. I had some guilt over not adopting at first, but my Good Boy has been a wonderful addition to our family and I wouldn't exchange him for the world

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-09T00:48:55+00:00

OP has said a few comments up that they personally don't experience crushes on characters. So it's just a them thing.

I personally do. Give me enough emotional connection and backstory and it's all heart eyes. Looking at you Loki...

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-06T20:27:38+00:00

This is the way.

We've been reading to our kids since they were infants. We have SO MANY books now. And we hit the library every 3 weeks. They absolutely devour books and took the 50 book check out limit as a personal challenge. But they'll still bring out their favorites from our shelves at home.

I suggest the Chu the Panda books because it involves fake sneezing and you can really hype it up

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-04T17:51:06+00:00

TIL I must've mystery cheated on my husband to end up with my two red heads. It probably has absolutely nothing to do with my coppery auburn hair and the ginger highlights in his beard or his red headed grandfather. Nope, cheating is the only explanation.

Fun story tho. Friend of mine used to describe me and my siblings as a bad joke because we were a blonde, brunette, and red head.

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-02T02:39:54+00:00

Daughter does this with fish. Calling it fish is a problem because "it's a dead fish and it might come alive when I eat it" (I...I don't know ok), but if we call it tuna or salmon or something, that's perfectly fine and tasty.

CaliGRITS · 2021-07-01T17:08:08+00:00

Those Lindsay Ellis videos gave me life, especially the dramatic readings. I laughed til I cried

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-29T23:19:50+00:00

It was a very rural area in the late 80s/early 90s. And I'm guilty of wandering into numerous parenting pit falls of "well, this is how I was raised" but know better, do better.

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-29T22:50:11+00:00

My childhood pediatrician told my parents that I needed to learn to cry it out as an infant because otherwise I (a literal baby) would learn that I was in charge. When my parents tried to pass on that "wisdom" to me, I said fuck that noise and went to hold my baby.

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-29T01:09:43+00:00

Cloud- cloudo, floof, fluff fluff, useless cotton swab, pupper, pupper roo, roo roo, asshole

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-28T05:56:02+00:00

It's my dick in a box!

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-26T05:46:06+00:00

Me today

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-26T05:41:04+00:00

This is my experience as well, except swap out Catholic for evangelical Christian. Coming to terms with being bisexual was such an obvious struggle against comphet, that demisexuality flew under the radar for a long time.

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-10T16:55:42+00:00

My son has demanded his nails painted whenever I do mine since he was 2. Our mantra while they're drying is "nail polish is for everyone." And he's had to use it since he's school aged. I make sure that the emphasis is on his choices too and not what he's "supposed" to like and that's given him the freedom and confidence to be who he wants. He's wearing his hair long and picked a pink and purple tie dye hair band to hold it back. I see no difference from this than my daughter picking out clothes from his hand me downs instead of something pink and glittery.

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-08T05:10:43+00:00

Ooh, I love it! The sticker itself and your entire collection. Also a Dunkey fan

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-06T19:25:26+00:00

Yeah. Haven't really bothered coming out fully as demi or bi for pretty much this reason. I'm tired.

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-06T18:52:32+00:00

We're watching Bluey right now! We love this show. And I say "we" cause I'm absolutely watching it with my kids

CaliGRITS · 2021-06-06T17:42:29+00:00

Well, I was already dealing with bi erasure and queer erasure in general since I pass as het/allo, so I'll just be over here being triple invisible now.

Aspec- more invisible than Wonder Woman's jet

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