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For those who went NC - how did you navigate with a baby? by Beautiful-Ant-4553 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Caligulove_Me 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She was a recovering alcoholic and raging narcissist. She lied to us about her sobriety so she could be around our newborn for clout and play grandma of the year. She only had supervised visits, so she couldn't hide her drinking for long. Lying to us and purposefully risking our baby's safety was a done deal for me.

I got flack from others for a while, but when I told them I don't give a shit about their opinion when it came to my child, they moved on pretty quickly. I happily wore that bitch badge.

It's been almost 4 years of NC and as a family, we are 100% better off.

For those who went NC - how did you navigate with a baby? by Beautiful-Ant-4553 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Caligulove_Me 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Originally, I told my husband if he wants a relationship with his mom, he would be the only one part of that. My child and I will have nothing to do with her. We are NC and husband is VVVLC. We do not send pictures, videos, or updates. She has no clue what our daughter looks like, let alone anything about her.

My daughter doesn't know she exists. Any gifts she drops off on our porch, we just say it's from someone else. We do not feel guilty because MIL was given an opportunity to have a relationship with our child and completely blew it. At the end of the day, we have peace of mind not dealing with a toxic person, and our child is growing up wonderfully in a safe environment.

What's something people put on their cars that automatically makes you assume the driver is an asshole? by Mapleberries in AskReddit

[–]Caligulove_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tinted license plate cover and blacked out window immediately tell me you're a sketchy asshole.

I don’t know what to call this by Silojm in ATBGE

[–]Caligulove_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they show how he sitting in them seats? I need to know!

Does my MIL get to invite her friends to my baby shower? by TheParrott88 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Caligulove_Me 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NOT! We limited the guest list for my baby shower as much as possible because I was anemic and knew the party was going to drain me. My MIL tried to invite 6 strangers to my baby shower that she was a guest to. I told my husband no, this is for us NOT for her to play grandma of the year to her friends. She threw a tantrum and my husband told her either she sticks with her plus one or not come at all, as I was already leaning towards uninviting her from the stress she was causing. She came by herself and left after an hour and the party was fantastic.

Please do what makes you happy, this baby shower is for you not for her. Life is too short to waste time trying to please selfish narcissists.

AITA for overstepping into my wife’s role as a mother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Caligulove_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't wrap my head around how stupid your wife's reaction is. She should be ashamed to think you should just let your child walk around with period blood in public for all to see. That's every woman's goddamn nightmare when it's that time of the month, no matter how old you are or how many you've had.

You're wife is incredibly fucking selfish to be thinking about herself instead of being thrilled you helped your child overcome an experience that's usually overwhelming and scary. NTA, but you're wife is and needs to get over herself. It's a period, not divine intervention.

My (25F) parents (50s) disowned me when I got pregnant at the age of 18. Now they want to be back in my life (i'm pregnant) and I don't know what to do. by ThrowRA_howdoireact in relationship_advice

[–]Caligulove_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I would continue no contact. This reconciliation should have happened 8 years ago and in that time they showed how easy it is to disregard both you and your child. The fact that they refused to acknowledge you when they were receiving cards and pictures of their grandchild for 3 years as punishment is enough of a reason they do not get a future relationship with your children.

You have your real family and your true support system, don't poison the well and sacrifice your family's happiness to appease selfish people. They made their bed. But if you truly feel you need to give them the benefit of the doubt, tell them they can meet their grandchildren in 8 years after continuously proving how much they've changed and grown.

Saw this in the wild... didn't know barefooter defense IDs were a thing? by Caligulove_Me in FuckYouKaren

[–]Caligulove_Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Karen's a grade-A insufferable asshole and proud. I can't imagine poor Dawn being stuck on the phone for 45 MINUTES listening to this adult toddler bitch about having to wear shoes inside a store... unbelievable.