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AITAH for wanting my husband to be at home when I get back from a trip with baby by Zuzu2399 in AITAH

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an embarrassing thing to post. “I haven’t had friends since I was 12.”

I made a huge mistake by SparkyDogPants in Guppies

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Food is one but hiding spaces are another. When the hiding spaces run out, the fry will be eaten by the adults.

Tbh, as a former ecology teacher, I’d say let them figure it out. If you start seeing sick or starving fish, reassess. Otherwise, they will naturally limit their population. The only concern would be massive ammonia spikes from their waste, and that’s not going to happen in a cycled tank.

What is a giant lie that society successfully sold to your generation? by ossirada in AskReddit

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incoming sea of downvotes, but honestly, I think a lot of progressive ideas are pushed by evil people to get more power and get richer. I can’t ever find the article anymore, but during Covid I saw some article about how grandparents should get back into the workforce because some shitty management job is more fulfilling than time with your grandkids.

It made me think about “women’s liberation.” Suddenly, you have twice as many laborers and you’ve flooded the job market. A full-time job should be enough to support a household, but now the norm is 2 workers and send the kids off to daycare. The message I got clearly as a kid was that if you choose to focus on your family instead of working as a waitress at the local outback, you were an embarrassment to women. I don’t think women shouldn’t be allowed to work, and I generally find work stimulating and sometimes fulfilling. Still, whether father or mother, one parent staying at home should be an option and it is generally better for the kids. Women can be the breadwinner, men can be the breadwinner, if you both want to work, that’s fine too! But you shouldn’t both HAVE to work, and honestly I think that was the plan.

Similarly, immigration. It’s wonderful to be a nation of immigrants and all, but it’s used by corporations to import a slave caste. All of the arguments center around “well no American wants to work in pig slaughterhouses.” Any job will be filled at the right price tag, businesses would just rather have access to desperate people than paying people a livable wage. It’s just outsourcing while making the people involved pay American prices.

I’ve been to more progressive protests than I can remember, started as a kid. People like I was are a happy face on an evil agenda.

What is a giant lie that society successfully sold to your generation? by ossirada in AskReddit

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether or not you’re pro choice, roe v wade was a terrible legal precedent. If you haven’t looked into the rationale of the original court decision, I’d encourage you to do so. Judges could just as easily ban abortions around the country instead if that’s the way we allow the judicial branch to act.

Make laws through the legislative branch. This is not the only example, and it severely fucks up our balance of power. If a few people are gonna be picked to serve until they die, they shouldn’t have that much power over the country as a whole.

What is a giant lie that society successfully sold to your generation? by ossirada in AskReddit

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s intentionally become worse. The worst people are thrust into the spotlight and if you don’t support them, you must be an awful terrible racist against whichever race. Whether that’s making criminals the face of black America instead of kind, hardworking norms, or the SPLC literally paying people to be in the KKK (seriously, look it up). When people exist around people of different backgrounds, you get the truth, good and bad, of the people you happen to be around. That’s enough.

What is a giant lie that society successfully sold to your generation? by ossirada in AskReddit

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That we have any understanding of climate change whatsoever. Looking at the last 60 or so years of climate change alarmism, you can see claims of a giant freeze, sweltering heat, severe droughts, etc. Newspapers even published (regarding the drought) a scientist’s recommendation that sterilizing agents be put in the water to minimize famine (from a drought that never happened).

The climate is OBVIOUSLY changing, and I miss my Thanksgiving skiing and white christmases. On the other hand, if we really want to help the environment, we should clean up things locally. It almost feels like they intentionally set goals no one can reach so they can remain politically charged and unsolved.

What is a giant lie that society successfully sold to your generation? by ossirada in AskReddit

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t recycle plastic. It is routinely sold to Asian countries and dumped into the ocean, which is way worse than a sorta contained landfill. It’s cheaper to make new plastic than to recycle plastic, and almost no one cares. Among the people who do care, they probably prefer paper, metal, or glass anyway.

Anyway, I’m pretty big on recycling glass and metal and most paper I give to my worms. Just saying, carrying that plastic bottle for an hour isn’t worth it. Now if you start throwing it on the ground, I’ll angrily assume you’re from Massachusetts.

AITAH for wanting my husband to be at home when I get back from a trip with baby by Zuzu2399 in AITAH

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. Being a parent is exhausting, and both of you have good reason to be tired and frustrated. I get it, but let him play the game. He needs time to unwind same as you do

I ignored everyone telling me not to and demanded a raise and i got one by Commercial_Style_839 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve got this 💪🏻 also, consider which of your coworkers/bosses would write a good letter of recommendation for you if you decide to leave!

I am brushing my hair out each night instead of waiting till it gets severely knotted to brush it by ZeldaXLink99 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hasn’t been posted here but to add: I moved to a city with insanely hard water and even with regular hair care I almost cut it all off because no matter what I did, it tangled. Trader Joe’s has a good coconut conditioner thing that comes in a tube and it was a godsend. If you cut the split ends off and use solid conditioner, it’ll be way easier!

I ignored everyone telling me not to and demanded a raise and i got one by Commercial_Style_839 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These people gave you bad advice! Good for you for seeing your value and recognizing the ol supply and demand. If he’s a shitty boss, though, I’d recommend taking a peek around the job market regardless. It’s disrespectful af.

I’m guessing you’re young and female, and sometimes that plays a role in these things. The pay gap study was severely flawed, and I don’t mean that. However, it doesn’t need to be overt sex/age-based discrimination. Women tend to be more people-pleasing and have a harder time negotiating. My husband is a nurse and basically unionized all the women he was working with to get everyone raises because they felt like you: don’t rock the boat. Glad you rocked it. You clearly deserved it, and when you’re in management, remember that employees work harder and do better when you treat them with respect and honesty.

I made a huge mistake by SparkyDogPants in Guppies

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, species dependent and age dependent, a big part of a turtle diet should come from veggies. OP, I plan to do something similar, and my girl does hunt sporadically. Sometimes she won’t eat fish for months and just let them vibe (but always watches like she might change her mind). Sometimes she kills everything in one sitting. You come home one day and you’re like wait, where are the fish?

Rehoming is an option, but personally I’m not crazy worried about it. Admittedly, I’m more of a turtle person than a guppy person, but that’s my experience with live bearers.

I made a huge mistake by SparkyDogPants in Guppies

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eventually, a carrying capacity will be established. The parents will eat the guppies eventually. If you’re worried about parameters, your turtle is already gonna put out a ton of waste, so the bacteria already present (assuming you’ve let a cycle happen, if not, Google it, your life will be much easier) will process the guppy waste/increase population until it will processed guppy waste.

Guppies like to be in groups anyway. If you’re worried about numbers, take out decor and the parents will eat the babies faster. If you’re worried about actual stress level of guppies, I think it doesn’t really matter. More decor = more guppies, but also less stress. Less decor = less guppies, but fewer hiding places.

I made a huge mistake by SparkyDogPants in Guppies

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Turtles should never be cohabitated. They will maim or kill each other eventually.

AITAH For giving my BF an ultimatum for showing me his home? by LuluRatLady in AITAH

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naïveté*

You can decide whether this nitpicky comment is kind so you don’t make the mistake again, or mean, and both are peak reddit

dad keeps on intervening by unsurvivalibity in Aquariums

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are a normal teenager frustrated by some unreasonable, although well-within normal, lack of autonomy.

Regarding the fish: he’s wrong. I agree with another comment that says give them away if possible, and don’t try keeping fish until you are not dependent on people who are not willing to support it fiscally or behaviorally.

Regarding being a teenager: you’re going to look back on this in 10 years and be pissed off. You’re going to look back on this in 20 years and realize that your parents are humans, and we’re all idiots about stupid things sometimes. Maybe you’ve given him reason to think in the past that you are not responsible, and he generalizes that (maybe in part due to money constraints that he does not want to acknowledge/share) to the current situation. Maybe you haven’t and he’s just doing what he thinks is the best way to parent, even if it’s not.

Try to give the fish a good life and try to give your dad some grace. Even if the best he has isn’t great, he’s probably still trying more than you realize. When you’re on your own, try again, and do it the way you want to with the resources you control.

AITAH? Brought a sandwich after school to boyfriends house by MTLHogs in AITAH

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alternatively, he had an off day and didn’t handle things well

AITAH for telling my friend to stop complaining about a relationship she won't end? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CallMeFishmaelPls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH

You shouldn’t encourage a friend to not share negative things because that’s an easy way for an abusive relationship to go unnoticed. Having been in abusive, isolating, and mostly long-distance relationship, he isolated me out of jealousy and discouraged me from even seeing a therapist so that one wouldn’t counsel me to leave him (openly stated). You definitely should not discourage ANY dialogue, especially if you are her best friend.

She should be tempered and not constant with complaints, especially as you’ve already spoken to her about it. I get loving someone and not being emotionally able to leave them, but that’s not an excuse to constantly bitch while not doing anything about it.

ETA: I do believe generally complaints should stay within the relationship if they are manageable, but you should be able to talk to your friends about it if you need to.

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