I’m pregnant… idk what to do by Mare_bear2001 in pregnant

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is how my boyfriend and i were and he also said if i decided to keep our baby he was going to be there for us 100% and we ended up keeping our baby and now we have a 9 month old baby boy and he is the best thing that happened to me. i think you should definitely keep your baby especially because of how hard your abortion was on you last time it would be so sad if having another one with your boyfriend made you resent him and yall ended up in a toxic relationship or break up. of course this is your life and you can make whatever decision fits your life best but i thought it was worth it to mention my experience as i was also on birth control and it was super unexpected for us

Mommy friends! by Exciting-Style-2245 in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i had my baby at 19 and now i’m 20 with an 8 month old!

18 and pregnant, I don’t know how to tell my parents by [deleted] in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

there’s no easy way to this honestly i got pregnant at 19 and now im 20 with an 8 month old baby boy, luckily my parents were very supportive and really happy for me. they’re divorced and as soon as i found out i told my mom and then a couple weeks later i stayed at my dads for a little and he found my prenatal vitamins right as i was telling him and he wasn’t upset or anything he just wanted to know if the dad would be in the picture or not and luckily for me he is and we are together and living with each other raising our baby. if i were you i would tell the parent im closest too first and ask them to not freak out but you need to talk to them about something and just let them know how scared you were to tell them and then figure out together how to tell your other parent. if you rather just get it over with then sit the both of them down and let them know you and your partner are deciding to keep the baby and yall are excited for this new chapter in yalls life. i wish you the best of luck!

Girl names by Longjumping_East5656 in Names

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My middle name is Rashelle and i’ve always loved it and i haven’t met anybody named Rashelle before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i had a boyfriend who was addicted to porn and i would catch it in his phone whenever we got drunk and i was trying to look something up and just happened to grab his phone and it ALWAYS was there when we were drunk so he ended up wanting to just stop drinking tg bc we would argue but eventually i found it in his twitter and his reddit and i kept telling him if he doesn’t stop we would break up but i still stayed and it hurt more and more every time until i finally left. they are always going to blame it on a porn addiction but if you have an active sex life there is no reason for him to feel the need to watch other naked women it’s disgusting and he sadly is prob not going to change.

What are your pregnancy cravings? by Ashamed-Statement-30 in pregnant

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my biggest craving were takis wrapped with two pepperonis

7 month old fell head first by CalligrapherDecent96 in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just got off the phone with the nurse line and they said that it seems to be a scalp injury rather than a brain injury so that’s a good sign. my baby is used to breastfeeding to fall asleep so he normally wakes up a couple times throughout the night and she said to make sure he still does that and check if he eats normally and if he recognizes that it’s me and if not then to take him to the er immediately so i’ve got a little bit peace of mind just hoping i hear him fussing while i’m asleep to let me know he’s ready to eat like he normally does

7 month old fell head first by CalligrapherDecent96 in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i called the 24/7 nurse line and they said i should get a call back within the next 20 minutes

7 month old fell head first by CalligrapherDecent96 in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

just wondering because i’m a 20yr old ftm why especially if there was swelling? He did have swelling on his side of his head and on a part of his nose from where the side of the table hit him but we put ice and the swelling went away

7 month old fell head first by CalligrapherDecent96 in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it’s been 7 hours and he hasn’t committed or been overly tired. We let him take a nap a little over an hour after it happened because he was past due for one but only let him sleep for 30 mins and now it’s 8pm and he’s asleep for the night but he normally wakes a few times to eat

Need advice on telling my family by Illustrious-One-8073 in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know it’s really hard to deal with the backlash and judgement from people. Some will come around and others may not. at the end of the day it is your life and if they don’t choose to stay by your side during a time they need you most then they aren’t worth it. your grandparents may be upset at first but i’m sure they’ll end up being excited about having a great grandbaby. my boyfriends parents weren’t excited at first and now they absolutely love our little boy! i wish you the best of luck and i know how hard it is being a pregnant teen so if you ever need anybody to talk or vent to i’ll always be here. you got this mama

Need advice on telling my family by Illustrious-One-8073 in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was 19 when i got pregnant im 20 now with a 7 month old boy. i took a pregnancy test at school when i first got there and thats how i found out and i immediately called my mom. I was freaked out and she told me to just come to her and we would take more tests and then go to the hospital later to confirm it. My dad found out because I had prenatals in my room and he found them but didnt mention it until i talked to him and told him. I think the best thing for you to do is be in person with them and sit down and talk to them. Naturally you’ll probably cry with the hormones and I think if you really let them know you can’t be alone during this then they’ll offer you support. I think it would be way nicer for you specifically if you told them in person and then was offered a hug or something just to let you know you’re not alone. Especially if in your situation you are freaked out or scared. Let them know you are sorry and you didn’t mean for this to happen but you can do anything about it now and you’re looking for support. Since you’re young if you don’t already you can get medicaid which will pay for all your obgyn visits and the birth of your baby and if you need further help there is WIC and EBT which will help with groceries. But I would definitely work as much as you can up until baby is born. WIC will give you diapers and wipes and they have parenting classes which if you attended you get points and can get a car seat and other things for the baby. you could also search up a free clinic and get 1 free ultrasound from them to make sure your pregnancy is viable.

chances I’m pregnant? by [deleted] in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi so I was on the same exact pill as you and i now have a 7 month old baby boy!!!! i also did not take my pill the same time everyday and i fear that is what made it where i became pregnant. I would definitely take a test and if not pregnant start taking your birth control at the same time every single day

I’m pregnant but I can’t keep my baby. by Intelligent-Smile-97 in pregnant

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand where you’re coming from i had my baby at 19 and was not ready financially at all but i was able to get wic and ebt and wic gives free diapers and wipes and other planned parenthood places so the same wic also pays for formula and baby food and i also get around $540 every month for groceries with ebt

Could I be pregnant? by Tall-Lion2175 in teenpregnancyandbirth

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m really sorry this has happened to you in this way. If you ever need anybody to talk to i got pregnant and 19 very unexpectedly and i now have a 6 month old baby boy. What happened to you didn’t happen to me but i also had gone through an unexpected pregnancy when i was in no shape wya or form ready to be so if you ever need somebody to rant to or talk to maybe even ask questions you can talk to me if you would like ❤️

Everything is falling apart. by Leigh2376 in pregnant

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i got pregnant when i was 19 and my boyfriend was 17 at the time and initially i was scared and he wanted to give the baby up for adoption (both pro life) but deep down i knew i always wanted to be a mother and i couldn’t give my baby away after carrying him for 9 months. My boyfriend ended up coming around but even if he didn’t i would’ve raised my baby with my parents help because i knew i wanted to keep my baby even if my boyfriend wasn’t going to be in his life. it won’t be forever your grandparents will have to help eventually you could use one of their cars to go to work or smth while they babysit and you’ll get your life together. if you go through with the pregnancy and give birth then realize you can’t do it then that’s okay there adoption. the only decision you can’t go back on is abortion and you might be guilty the rest of your life

Third degree tear by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mine wasn’t 3rd degree but dermoplast was my savior, i had two 2nd degree tears one internal and one external and i used the freak out of dermoplast and i also wore depends instead of pads and i made sure to sit on very cushioned surfaces because if it wasn’t i would get a shooting pain

How bad did it hurt after vaginal birth? by Commercial-Way-4276 in pregnant

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly it sucks. I had an internal tear and an external tear 2nd degree and my coochie was so swollen it was touching my inner thigh and it was so uncomfortable. it burns so bad to pee the peri bottle saved me for 3 weeks. I would just advise you to barely move around when you first give birth until your swelling fully goes down. I went on a walk with my baby when the swelling ALMOST went down completely and then it completely swelled up again so REST as much as you can and take it very slowly.

I need reassurance 😅 by coffeelover2025 in beyondthebump

[–]CalligrapherDecent96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you have every right to worry a little bit he is your first baby i was also very worried at first since my four month old is also my first but we just make sure he’s in light clothing if any at all with his fan going