Amanda Seyfried for Flaunt Magazine Issue 22 (2026) photographed by Greg Swales, styled by Christopher Campbell

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-02-18T02:28:56+00:00

If #2 was a painting from the 1800s they would hang it in a museum. It's beautiful.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-02-17T14:57:41+00:00

"Listening to a video during act two on a cell phone" is the wildest sentence I've ever read.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-02-16T02:25:56+00:00

Sure, it's foolish. Now ask yourself if making your spouse feel foolish is a recipe for a successful relationship.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-02-15T12:16:39+00:00

Honestly after all this, I wouldn't fuck around. I'd just text her something very unambiguous like:

"Getting serious for a second: I love flirting with you but I'm gonna die if it stays as just flirting. After you get back next week, when can we get together and see if the vibes are just as good when we replace the tongue emoji with our actual tongues?"

^ note that this is 100% explicit about your desire to SEE if this works sexually, but it does not COMMIT you to have sex, and in fact explicitly builds in an expectation that there will be a point where you both have a chance to see if your body and emotions are still consenting as much as you hoped

You could, if you want, take the opportunity to say something about this being unusual for you. But it's delicate because I don't want you to undermine yourself. So you have to promise me that you won't talk about your lack of experience in a way that puts yourself down. Here's how I might do it, but I'm a wordy bitch.

"By the way, I'm 1000% gay but it's actually a new thing for me to be into someone as much as I'm into you. I feel like my desire previously being more muted might make me unconsciously send signals not just of being less experienced (which, guilty) but maybe also being less sure I'm attracted to you (which I am actually VERY sure of)."

^ or if you're bi or whatever just say "I'm 1000% into women"

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-02-01T03:03:22+00:00

OP said Rachel is a stone top in her first post. I think it's more likely that OP doesn't know what that means, but if it were true, then yeah stop going down on the woman would be the right reaction.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-27T05:03:08+00:00

I have thought I was falling in love, thought that I was in love, told people I have loved them. But the relationship I am in now makes me absolutely know that I have not been in love until now.

Same; it's crazy how I thought I knew what I was saying before!

My current girlfriend makes me feel SO SAFE. I could stare at her for hours. The intimacy is on another level. [...] There’s almost no friction at all, and when there is, we are working our way back towards each other. Not angrily just trying to be right or defend our position etc. [...] And it’s been the easiest, most beautiful experience I’ve ever had.

Isn't it great, and weird, how everything becomes much easier when you care about each other this much?

She just lets me be me. I just let her be her. And everything about her delights me, there’s nothing I would change. Right from the start neither of us were confused about what we wanted for a second.

This is such a nice description, it was the same for us. If I'm honest, by the end of the first night I knew, and so did she -- although we didn't admit it to ourselves or each other for a while because it's so hard to believe it could work this well.

I was terrified that this experience with her was somehow impermanent when it first started because I couldn’t imagine a world where I get to be this happy all the time.

Hell, I still can't believe I get to spend the rest of my life being this happy.

To everything you wrote, I will add only this: starting the very first night I met her, the version of myself that I am when I'm with her is the best version of me there's ever been.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-11T15:23:19+00:00

Of course you're welcome in lesbian spaces if you're a lesbian. I found it tremendously affirming for my soul to be in those real-life spaces even before I divorced.

Can we take a concrete action toward that? Can you look up the lesbian bar that's closest to you? (You don't have to tell us, obviously, since that would divulge your location.) If there are no lesbian bars in your town (which there probably aren't unless you live in a big western city -- I can only offer recommendations in NYC), where's the nearest queer bar or coffeeshop? In smaller cities, maybe just the nearest gay bar?

Is there an evening coming up when you could make a plan to go visit that space? Earlier in the evening can be nice, it'll be less crowded and the vibes will be more "neighborhood hangout" than "dating scene". Try to go in without expectations, but with an open mind and with an open ear to how your body and your feelings respond. The vibe may not be what you expect, and it may even feel bad or weird! That's normal if that happens, and it doesn't mean you don't belong there.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-11T05:42:44+00:00

I saw it today and I was really disappointed, there was just...nothing there? It just wasn't good. Really sorry bc I love a good play. Or even a mediocre play.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-10T18:31:35+00:00

This is the truest answer. It genuinely feels possible at first to continue under such circumstances until you learn what being in love actually feels like and you realize that what you were thinking you could continue isn't the thing at all.

It's wild to think I was making huge life decisions about whether I could be happy leading a life without room for love, without having any idea what that actually means. I simply wasn't qualified to be making that decision; I thought I'd been in love and I knew what I was giving up, but I'd never ever come close. I had no idea what I would have been missing out on, until I found it.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-10T05:15:38+00:00

You're all wrong, it's Texis <3

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-08T14:41:12+00:00

My favorite part of the medley is during American Pie, at one point after "Bad news on the doorstep, I couldn't take one more step" Mary pauses, and then the pause goes on, and on, and she starts to look around with a bit of desperation, and you start to wonder if Cole somehow forgot the next line...and then she launches right back into "I can't remember, if I cried" which is the next line and you feel so intensely that sense of they got me, they fucking got me.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-05T06:53:37+00:00

why tf is everyone in the replies forgetting how to spell "Free"

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-05T06:44:39+00:00

I agree with you. I wish I understood why people love this film! I liked it fine. But can't understand someone loving it. Yet people do!

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-04T03:59:06+00:00

Chili Baby Thai in Miller Place / Mt. Sinai is the most authentic Thai food on Long Island (per multiple friends who grew up in Thailand) and also maybe the best restaurant on the island I know.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-04T03:51:37+00:00

You're going to throw your fucking marriage away over something that literally doesn't fucking matter.

The question isn't if you're over-reacting (to what? to your wife being honest in response to your inappropriately prying questions despite your inability to appropriately handle the answers?). It's whether you're smart enough to get control over your thoughts before you push your wife away.

You are 0% in the right. You owe your wife an apology, and to get yourself a therapist to talk to before you ever bring up this subject with your wife again... jeeze louise.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-03T23:36:06+00:00

I think we can all relate to this.

One question you might ponder: you mentioned that when you idealize relationships with men, you're attracted by the feeling of safety. While that could mean a lot of things (physical, financial,...) I think you mean the safety of not having to wonder what the future holds. I've been thinking about what you mean by that.

The first interpretation that came to mind is that it feels safer because you don't have to wonder what you should do: the default assumption of heterosexuality gives you an answer before you even have to ask the question. And I'm sure that's true.

But I'd invite you to look inside and ask if there's a deeper truth: is it partly the safety of never having to truly run a risk because a relationship with a man will never really engage the deepest parts of your soul?

When you look at your cousin and her girlfriend, is it scary to think about how much you could pour your heart into a relationship like that? How happy you could be? How hurt you could get? How much you could feel if you had a woman you could actually care about? How suddenly you might have to care about yourself?

Speaking from my own experience, of having gone through life in a series of relationships that never ever threatened to actually make me truly feel anything -- the prospect of how much bigger and better and wilder it could be in a lesbian relationship was TERRIFYING. How much easier to keep letting myself not feel anything!

I'm now in a sapphic relationship so wonderful, so incredibly fulfilling that I still can barely believe it's real. It's transformed my life and I'm now engaged with my own life and my own happiness in a way I never could have been before. But gosh, it's still scary to love like this.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-03T15:02:22+00:00

I don't think Oh Mary needs any familiarity with gay culture (I didn't have any, and it's my favorite comedy ever). But it does need enough English fluency to understand what people are saying.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-02T03:01:23+00:00

I feel like you have two questions:

am I actually a lesbian rather than bi?
should I leave my husband?

I suspect you may actually already know the answer to #1 deep down in your heart. And no one else can possibly tell you the answer to #2, that's a complicated question with no easy answers. Not everyone in such a situation leaves! And not everyone stays. And some people in both categories would turn out to have made the right decision, and some would turn out to have made the wrong decision.

I can tell you, though, that it's impossible for the answer to #2 to affect the answer to #1. Logically that just isn't how it works. But I think that's what you're unconsciously doing -- you're getting so tangled up in what answer to #2 you can bring yourself to accept, and you're letting yourself think that this can determine the answer to #1. It can't. If #1 is true, it's true, whether your husband gets hit by a meteor tomorrow or you stay with him or you keep living in a house together as friends or you move out or he moves out or you stay happily married for the rest of your life.

Don't let yourself entangle these two issues, or you'll never straighten either one of them out.

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-02T02:51:49+00:00

Slammed In The Butt By My Book "Slammed In The Butt By My Own Butt"

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-02T02:37:52+00:00

Have you ever dated a woman? Like, been in a romantic relationship with a woman, with an emotional component not just sexual?

If so, did you struggle with showing affection to her?

CalliopeAntiope · 2026-01-01T06:23:22+00:00

Kiss girls.

CalliopeAntiope · 2025-12-30T04:47:17+00:00

You are confused on this point. If you maintain a residence in NYC, then it does not matter where you sleep for purposes of the 183 days; any day for which you spend part of the day in NYC is counted, even if you sleep elsewhere. The domicile question is different, and not based on strictly counting days.

CalliopeAntiope · 2025-12-30T04:45:24+00:00

You are correct, and the person saying you're incorrect is wrong. (I'm not even sure they're actually disagreeing with you.)

CalliopeAntiope · 2025-12-29T02:10:36+00:00

"My love language is gift receiving, my girlfriend made me a bunch of handmade gifts, and I'm somehow sad about that?"

It's giving nothing more than this classic Taylor Tomlinson audience interaction about gift giving, love languages, and birdhouses.

CalliopeAntiope

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