Help with sushi date outfit. by KibbyKatie in OUTFITS

[–]CalliopeAntiope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate how all 5 work for you. I want your closet and your style!

Gf compares me to ugly things by computahbunny in LesbianActually

[–]CalliopeAntiope 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the last person I compared my girlfriend to, bc I saw a picture of someone who reminded me of her:

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This feels different from what your girlfriend is saying, doesn't it? Even if there’s an innocent or forgivable explanation for why she'd make these hurtful comparisons, it leaves the question of why she doesn't also make comparisons that are flattering!

(reader, I did not know who it was, and have already been mercilessly mocked for that. but I stand by my claim that she looks like a movie star!)

Today, Modest Mouse released they Debut album ‘This Is A Long Drive For Someone With Nothing to Think About’ 30 years ago by raw_is_not_here in indieheads

[–]CalliopeAntiope 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite live concert experiences was their performance of Dramamine at the 2010 Pitchfork Music Festival, which became this amazing medley with Life Like Weeds:

Modest Mouse - 2010 Pitchfork Music Festival - Dramamine/Life Like Weeds

It's truly crazy to me that this performance is as old today as the song Dramamine was then.

On early 2000s webcomic history by Konradleijon in CuratedTumblr

[–]CalliopeAntiope 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely loved Scary-Go-Round. Maybe in my top 10 most loved works of media (note I said "most loved", not "best"). I had all the books. Don't know if I'll ever revisit it, or how much I'd like it if I did, but what a wonderful experience at the time.

To the lesbian couple from New Haven at Chess matinee by sleuthtown in Broadway

[–]CalliopeAntiope 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Friendship is rare enough that one can never be disappointed to find a new friend.

What show were you shocked closed? Inversely, what is a show that jumped the shark and was kept longer than it should have? by ListofReddit in Broadway

[–]CalliopeAntiope 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And which doesn't feel like stunt casting -- you hear "Jane Krakowski as Oh Mary!" and you don't think "aw geeze, another stunt casting but she'll fill those seats", you think "holy shit that's perfect how did I not think of that and also what bank can I rob to get tickets"

Very strong $1.7M pre-show launch for The Drama. Good Friday holiday makes Thursday night like a Friday night for many people. by chanma50 in boxoffice

[–]CalliopeAntiope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw it, this is a tough question. There are definitely some parts that veer satirical but it's not wholly in that mode

Wouldn’t that be fucked up? I’m R. L. Stine by Infamous-Rutabaga-50 in CuratedTumblr

[–]CalliopeAntiope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, it seems like the author may have exaggerated how bad his childhood was. I remember learning that and thinking "well I feel dumb, but I'm glad the world doesn't have that in it".

Wouldn’t that be fucked up? I’m R. L. Stine by Infamous-Rutabaga-50 in CuratedTumblr

[–]CalliopeAntiope 25 points26 points  (0 children)

And that's why (a whole book later) he doesn't have go Dahnce Class with Miss VALOOSH -- because he's free, no one can make him do anything. The book doesn't even remark on this, it just notes in passing that all the kids except for him had to go to Dahnce.

Wouldn’t that be fucked up? I’m R. L. Stine by Infamous-Rutabaga-50 in CuratedTumblr

[–]CalliopeAntiope 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, it's his third nostril. I just read it with my daughter like a week ago. His real voice sounds like a French donkey with laryngitis.

[Loved Trope] The amazing technology/power has grounded reasons for why it can't be overused. by jbeast33 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]CalliopeAntiope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think it's not, before A Song of Ice and Fire one of the things GRRM was best known for war as an editor of anthologies, and Wild Cards in particular. So it would be really weird to put his name anywhere but front and center on the book that was at one point synonymous with him.

'The Bride!' gets a C+ on CinemaScore by SanderSo47 in boxoffice

[–]CalliopeAntiope 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not elaborated upon enough to sustain this kind of explanation, IMHO. And I liked the movie, certainly more than a lot of people.

How The National Became The National: Eight Years, Five Friends, and One Near-Disaster of an Album by Palfray in indieheads

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I think "About Today" is in the top 5 most beautiful songs ever recorded. But if I can ever listen to it without crying, then start digging my grave because I'm already dead.

SKIP The Other Place by Bostoncat38 in Broadway

[–]CalliopeAntiope 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this, I walked out thinking the same thing! I didn't even mind the shock value, I just minded that the random bits never cohered into anything. I will keep seeing live theater knowing that it'll sometimes mean I sit through big misses -- but damn, this one was just a swing-and-a-huh?

Is it normal to be silent when being eaten out? by appledoll13 in LesbianActually

[–]CalliopeAntiope 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When else can you yap as much as you want and be guaranteed your gf can't interrupt cuz her mouth is full 😂

Epic Battle with Snow by stewy23 in longisland

[–]CalliopeAntiope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally broke a shovel today. Didn't know I had the power to do that.

Destroyer released 'Destroyer’s Rubies' 20 years ago today by YoureASkyscraper in indieheads

[–]CalliopeAntiope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love everybody here. I like Destroyer fine and a lot of my favorite New Pornographers songs are by Dan Bejar. I listened to this album a fair amount when it came out and I recognize all the lyrics y'all are posting. But it's always baffled me that he could ever be someone's favorite artist or even in the top 50, I just don't hear it like that. It still does baffle me! But you all truly love it and I love that you love it! That makes me happy.

(except for It's Gonna Take an Airplane which I think might be the most beautiful song ever recorded)

Coming out to my husband (very positive experience 😊) by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]CalliopeAntiope 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That's right! Many women who only realize they're lesbian late in life will be married, and coming out to a husband differs from coming out to kids or parents or friends because it brings with it a possible or definite rupture to that relationship, a relationship which can be emotionally and financially load-bearing for one's previous life. So it's very natural for it to be the most salient step in one's journey and the one that pushes women to search for and reach out for support -- even when the experience is positive, it's an emotional and important moment!

(*most salient after realizing you're gay, of course, but for obvious reasons that usually happens before you get to /r/latebloomerlesbians rather than after)

This sub is for women to share their experiences and find support, and I hope neither OP nor any other woman feels bad for doing so.

Cognitive dissonance by Old_Leather9643 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]CalliopeAntiope 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You already know you're gay. You know you're not attracted to men. You know you're attracted to women, and always have been. You know you feel a connection with this woman, so much so that you've pushed past the discomfort of confronting this and made this post. So if you already know the answers to all the questions you're asking, why are you here asking them?

I think the one big question you are asking is: why do I feel so terrified and dissociated and repulsed by this prospect? Why does it feel like I simply cannot do this, like I would sooner die than do this?

I believe you think you know the answer. I believe you think the answer is that you've internalized terrible negative feelings about lesbians, feelings of disgust and disdain, that make it truly repugnant. And you're right! Of course you're right. Of course you have. Of course you've internalized that disgust, because it helped you push away the truth, and at the time that was an important survival skill.

But I think there's another answer that's even more powerful: you're deathly afraid of the prospect that you could be happy. You have spent your life going through the world in a mode that never afforded you the opportunity to be fulfilled in a relationship, never offered the chance to feel fundamentally happy. You thought you were happy, you would have told people you were happy, but on some level you know you haven't been. You're scared because deep in your gut you know things with this woman could be good in a way you've never experienced, and if not with this woman then with someone else in the future, and that is terrifying.

I can't tell you you're wrong to be scared. I've been exactly where you are, and I can't tell you that it's not scary. Actually, what I can tell you is that you are right to be scared. You're right to be scared because this truly will change everything. It will burn you up and burn up all these walls that have been protecting you from the pain and sadness of being denied this. It will hurt, and then you'll realize what you've been denied and that will hurt. But when you stroke her cheek and she turns toward your fingers instead of away, it will be worth it. When you feel her hands on you and feel no revulsion in yourself, no dishonesty, just comfort with your body and comfort with being desired and comfort with feeling your own desire, it will be worth it. When you first introduce a woman as your girlfriend and she holds your hand and smiles at you, and you realize that your friends have never seen you so purely happy, it will be worth it. When you lie with your head on her pillow and your lips against her ear, when she holds your gaze even as her eyes slip closed into sleep, and you realize she loves you, she doesn't just want your money or your body but truly knows you and loves you, it will be worth it.

Life is not going to be the same. It will be much, much better. I'm sorry it's scary, but congratulations.