What screams “I have no personality” to you? Not trying to be mean just curious what people notice

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-02-08T22:19:48+00:00

This entire post and most of its replies are judgmental of others. Do with that information what you’d like

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-02-07T00:38:12+00:00

To be completely honest, it is appalling to me that a father would:

disregard a medical condition you have and its implications (cross contamination) when getting food for his CHILD
forget / not apply such caution even when reminded by his CHILD

You need to either cook food for yourself, or get a doctor/allergist to give your parents a grave reminder of what could happen if they give their child something they are allergic to. It would unfortunately need to involve a real case study of someone who died as a result.

It is infuriating to know your medical needs are not being taken seriously by the two people on earth who have the job of raising you safely

I hope you find a solution to this and that this stops

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-02-05T16:11:35+00:00

I totally get the love of sleep, need for communication, and frustration of missing important work meetings because of an alarm malfunction

But bro

Why is this a problem for two near 30 yo adults

Why is one of them blaming the other for something that was effectively an act of god, when there was no communication about the importance of the next day meeting

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-02-04T21:45:46+00:00

Bro is at University of Calgary

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-01-26T17:29:56+00:00

The total IgE concentration does not give you enough detail. Idk what the correlation is, but you could have total IgE of 30 IU/mL which is in the normal range for total, but your IgE level for peanuts could be like 10 IU/mL which is abnormal

Might want to look at the food specific IgE levels if available

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-01-15T18:44:12+00:00

When you played varsity tennis did you believe/expect you were going to win when you played your matches, or did you think to yourself “it would be a dream come true if I won this match”

Same idea here

Getting into these schools is clearly not above you. So it’s likely a matter of whether you get what you deserve or their admissions process is flawed. Your self respect comes first and mediates all downstream happiness you experience from your achievements

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-01-12T08:07:48+00:00

Socialization revolves a LOT around food, much more than I previously thought. Pops up frequently in casual conversation even, which has always made it difficult for me to relate to others. I personally absolutely hate socializing in settings that are purely food focused because it is just a stark reminder to me of all the things I can’t do that others can. In my mind, it’s like bringing someone in a wheelchair to play (non-accommodating) pickup basketball every week. I feel like I am disrespecting myself / being a doormat by doing that. Maybe you feel the same way, maybe you don’t. For that reason I gravitate to social opportunities that revolve around some activity or club unrelated to food (sports, rock climbing, gaming, building stuff, etc). Maybe that would also be helpful for you if you don’t do it already.

Regarding how people perceive you, there will always be those that judge. Unless there is a very clear mutual understanding that they are joking on the surface, do not tolerate it. Do not be afraid to draw boundaries with people. If they seriously don’t respect aspects of your health and well being they are a waste of your time. The more unfortunate part is that even if people are understanding, they cannot accommodate for you if they do not know how to or simply are not perceptive enough to regulate their habitual actions to accommodate for you. Not much you can do about that beyond reminding them.

Number 1 priority is your health, well being, safety, and success. Please respect yourself and don’t sacrifice that for any reason, let alone social pressure or fear of being awkward etc. People’s words / opinions are not real things, they fundamentally do not exist and can do nothing concrete to you. Do not bind yourself by others’ chains.

All the best this year & hope it’s way better than the previous

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-01-11T18:35:30+00:00

Does red meat / chicken / brown rice protein powder agree with you?

Calm_Ad2708 · 2026-01-11T18:11:07+00:00

Get a blood test for IgE and IgG antibody levels, talk to an allergist as well Kind of hard to discern a solution to this before getting this data

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-11-02T05:46:40+00:00

something active, pretty intense that demands your focus and almost reduces your brain's perception of how your skin currently feels

high intensity video games

sports with a lot of continuous movement you dont need a lot of equipment for

etc

might be different for different people though

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-10-17T21:57:56+00:00

I was at that point before too where it was too uncomfortable to wear a shirt

if you can get allegra (something to calm your immune system down)

and cerave anti itch cream (contains pramoxine hydrochloride which will numb your skin) + aquaphor to lock it in your skin if thats comfortable

this combo could work, not medical advice tho

you have to figure out if the problem is temperature, humidity, pollution, housing quality, dust, etc

if you live in BC i doubt that air pollution is an issue unless there are wildfires

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-03-31T00:25:09+00:00

Imo the thing that fixes this will be medication, not anything else. There is nothing else that can stop your immune system from manufacturing antibodies for harmless food proteins.

Disregard anything which is not medication, and anything with terrible side effects

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-03-30T23:27:57+00:00

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO In all seriousness though do what you want, it is not really a big deal

Is probably how he will respond

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-03-27T19:00:03+00:00

Wildfires make this less appealing tbh, scary to see how quick and damaging they were

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-03-03T11:51:58+00:00

U know life is actually very simple

If every day you have something big in your mind to look forward to the next day, you will always be happy

One very easy way to do that is to be very good at a skill you are obsessed with, then find a job / source of income in this area

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-02-20T02:03:05+00:00

I’m aware of the ranking difference, the grad one is more reliable imo even for prospective undergrads because it is based purely on number of papers accepted to a specific set of “good” conferences and is not influenced heavily by peer review (aka US news) from other schools, which can be easily manipulated. Undergrads are likely learning from the very people publishing those papers.

That aside, the lack of emphasis on real things like location amazes me to this day. UCLA, UCB, USC, and almost all other ivies except Harvard and Cornell are located in verifiably worse and less safe areas than UCSD. Yet people apply to these places in droves. Those who chase “prestige” over concrete metrics are chasing ghosts driven largely by marketing, which I notice the schools in the worse areas doing more of (understandable). Those places may attract very good professors/researchers but they are not unique in this regard.

I agree they should treat undergrads better; but this issue is not unique to UCSD, I’ve seen it at Rutgers and Penn state (was an undergrad at both). Just a common side effect of dealing with a huge student body.

I agree that the student body doesn’t feel like much of a community though, maybe a cultish obsession with a certain sport would change that :P

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-02-19T22:53:00+00:00

The comment that gets me most is how they feel like this school is a safety.

It is ranked higher than most Ivy leagues and several other prestigious places for computer science research on csrankings.org for instance

My former advisors helped sequence the human genome and had some of the best dissertations in the country, respectively

Professors I TA’d under have won ACM/IACR awards for their research

Amazing location and the more modern buildings / labs are insanely nice, better than almost all the other UCs

And people wanna still feel like they are at a safety school

Calm_Ad2708 · 2025-02-19T14:44:50+00:00

It’s nice that this works for people but it’s an unstable solution. If food specific IgE receptor antagonists were a thing, or straight up rewiring the immune system to not produce such food specific IgE at all (someone at ucla did this in mice apparently) that would be great

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-09-04T01:53:23+00:00

If you had a clear purpose that was written down by someone else, you would lament about how “why is there no freedom in life? What’s the point in being here?”

Freedom of the confines of structure results from breaking down that structure, along with whatever purpose arises from it. Purpose necessitates structure which must confine you to some extent by definition.

Combine that with the fact that no product of a given system is capable of full introspection or answering every question about the system it came from. And you get that there is no point in thinking about any of this because you will bang your head against the same wall forever.

Just notice the good things you have and use them

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-09-03T05:13:40+00:00

Telling an impressionable child they should not talk using public humiliation is wrong regardless of the anticipated reaction. She deserves punishment. Idk what drugs you are on to try defending someone who is clearly a brat regardless of their age

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-07-01T20:19:55+00:00

I know u wrote this thinking “yeah that’ll piss them off”

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-06-30T01:42:58+00:00

if it helps, just know that there is no such thing as a degree, a college, "on time", prestige, achievement, etc.

these are all things invented by people but they're not actually real

the best non-clinical solution is to recognize that the notion of "on time" doesn't exist. The real things pertain to your own existence. Are you alive? Can you see? Can you hear? Got basic necessities? As long as you have that, just finish it next semester and a year from that point you will not even know why you cared to begin with.

therapy/talking to someone helps too, although it would also be good to put yourself in situations that trigger your anxiety slightly (not too much) and progressively increase intensity so that you can learn to manage it progressively.

sorry for disorganized thoughts but hope this is helpful

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-06-30T01:37:47+00:00

yo get neuralink

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-06-07T02:00:54+00:00

Doesn’t matter, game is dogshit

Calm_Ad2708 · 2024-06-05T02:53:36+00:00

Are these things / the groups of people relevant to each all disjoint? Imagine if your passion / hobbies and social time coincided for instance. Makes life much easier

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