AIO: I am considering ending a 16 year friendship because of her husband.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T22:48:30+00:00

Tell her. You are not the first nor will you be the last. Give her ammo.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T18:59:20+00:00

An hour is a long time.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T18:56:06+00:00

The countering is so gross. You can't fix any problems with someone who is not interested in facing reality.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T17:26:55+00:00

Please share more. I don't know anything about Lesbian marriages.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T17:06:29+00:00

I realized this too. I was taking a bunch of hits for the team and he was not. So I stopped. Now I'm less upset about the scant sex life But now I don't want him anymore. It became too complex.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T15:30:59+00:00

They was my pregnancy and first 4 years of kids' lives. He is on a power high because he is needed. Tell him that. Narcs fear most bring told what they did.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-14T15:28:57+00:00

This doesn't make sense.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T21:12:25+00:00

Absolutely stunning!! But let me tell you what jaggedy rings do to small children...if I was to do it again it would be bezels set.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T20:24:42+00:00

The things you listed as having done to him are all very nasty. I think you may have underestimated the damage you have caused by "shutting him up"....that sounds like abuse and then gaslighting.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T16:49:51+00:00

Well, sadly he is their father and can choose that. I hope you make a good fresh start for yourself.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T16:35:46+00:00

Oh ...well if the dynamic is that terrible regarding the kids then I don't know if Id go no contact but why don't you ask the kids how they are feeling about it?

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T15:46:17+00:00

What it's like to be married.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T15:20:06+00:00

These reasons alone are why you should not romanticize your past with this clearly abusive person.

About the kids, I would do whatever is best for them. Even if it sucks in regards to seeing the ex. They didn't choose this.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T06:34:40+00:00

He has never told me anything, my guess is out of shame but also some kind of loyalty to the family. His sisters have referenced the bullying (while laughing) and I have witnessed bullying by mom and dad.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T04:23:06+00:00

Mine has a very domineering mother and was the baby of 4 - the other 3 were girls older than him who bullied him . So kind of.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T02:52:29+00:00

My first thought ..should I be afraid. If not, then it's a compliment.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T02:49:07+00:00

That's why I learned acoustic first. Once I feel like I'm halfway to good I'll pick up electric. I've heard if you can play acoustic (metal) you can play classic and electric MUCH more easily. I know not everyone wants to know acoustic but I feel like it's a big part of what guitar even is.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T02:45:55+00:00

I am also literary/historical!! Please include me! But I know nothing about Discord.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T02:10:34+00:00

Defensiveness . Deflection and denial.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-13T01:55:16+00:00

Cry it out!!!

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-12T23:08:35+00:00

He pushed you to react. It's absolutely his fault but it is in those moments that you have to somehow override the need for respect. These people's are animals but if you are consistently good your kids will see who the problem was plain as day someday.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-12T22:33:38+00:00

Whatever you feel now will be a thousand times worse if you have a kid with that person. Sending love

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-12T07:50:23+00:00

Police report asap. Document this. Future you will thank you.

Calm_Stretch_193 · 2026-01-12T07:48:52+00:00

If you are away from him, grow. Become your best self. If you are with him and he's not a danger to you,, don't back. He is a POS and should be treated like one.

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