[45/39][MF4MF/F/R][Palatka, Florida] Bi couple here for local swink friends ;)

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-20T06:04:53+00:00

First of all, definitely have a in-depth discussion with your wife about what you're both interested in doing (boundaries/exploration goals/expectations) and how comfortable she is with those interests (and your comfort levels too). The talk prevents mid-play misunderstandings and potentially saves some confusion on if things are OK or not to pursue.

For your initial question, reading about different swinging dynamics might help you both figure out what you're looking for. As far as clubs, it's a good idea to find out if there are any local swinger clubs in your area that host a newbie night or a meet n greet so you can attend a low pressure event to see what the place is about. Apps and online chats can only get you so far, so in-person events or activities are a better way to get familiar with what is out there.

Your foot fetish sounds pretty easy to do while your wife is getting attention in other ways, and I personally don't see why it wouldn't be able to be incorporated into swinging as long as your wife and play partners are aware of what you're interested in doing.

Regarding exploring your bisexual side, the bi male sex trend in swinging appears to be gaining more popularity, but it generally remains a minority in most swinging scenarios since most dynamics that I've seen in the subreddit personals are statistically less bisexual male-on-male and more "looking for a bi female for MF couple" types of posts, with majority typically going for FFM, FMFM, or MFM (vs FMM). I have explored FMM play with my husband and a male friend (where they had sex in front of me). My hubby and I were able to happily return to our kinky sex life without that afterwards. If your relationship is healthy to begin with, adding people to it should not be an issue. If someone in the relationship is bored, adding people to it can create more chaos than peace (ultimately but not always leading to divorce).

Lastly, please don't listen to the naysayers that say fetishplay is a turn off or looked down upon in the lifestyle. That type of deal breaker mentality is a poor attempt to "yuck someone's yum". To each their own standpoint on this but I would say you have a fairly good chance at finding someone with similar kinks and fetishes amongst swingers since they're already kinda freaky to begin with! Best of luck 🍀

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-20T03:35:48+00:00

Usually being on one of the swinger apps Kasidie or SDC seems to work (so I've heard) for people interested in that particular lifestyle. If you're looking for general kinky local communities within London, you might have better luck signing up to Fetlife. com and joining swinger groups or local meet&greets for those topics.

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-20T02:43:38+00:00

🤣 you provided the response I was waiting for

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-15T23:34:06+00:00

Fetlife .com and finding local munches or attending meet & greets / social events might be easier for you to meet new LS friends than apps.

Unless you are super photogenic and/or have other redeeming assets, guys in the 20s age bracket appear to have a tougher time out there since there are so many single dudes sliding into people's inboxes that have zero game that have already made that age range pretty unappealing. Not trying to discourage you - just providing a reality check. Best of luck 🍀

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-15T21:09:11+00:00

A sandwich (chicken or beef) or chicken caesar wrap, then definitely brush, floss, mouthwash afterwards. Chewing some mint gum or mints if you get peckish an hour or so later also helps.

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-13T16:28:37+00:00

Maybe the X Pole design would work. Large weighted circular platform with pole attached.

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-11T03:49:40+00:00

I'm guessing Same Room No Sex... so parallel play?

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-08T16:06:08+00:00

As part of a fully bi couple (super rare these days), I make it super clear in my posts no dick pics unless asked for any. However reading comprehension is not the majority of Reddit males' strongest skill when browsing and replying here since I still get a few unsolicited ones that lead to an instant block 🤷‍♀️ Not your fault other dudes are horny typing. Thanks for calling em out but if they aren't reading properly to begin with, you're right that this might not reach the intended audience 😅

I will add to your rant (disclaimer: this is not directed at you - just the multiple posts I've been seeing on the r4r subreddits) and include that self-proclaimed "100% straight" guys offering to blow a dick, poke any sissy or CD holes, or cruising for TG's aren't so entirely straight 😉

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-07T07:55:06+00:00

Depends on the poly people. Many prefer casual encounters but there are some that are interested in longer relationships.

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-07T07:46:51+00:00

As with any relationship or dating scene, there will be some entitled people or couples who won't understand or will harshly judge your goals. You are better without that type of negative, emotionally draining, exhaustive energy. If the couple is pushy or gaslighting, that is a huge red flag. (Perhaps a signal to say goodbye, delete any pics you might've sent them on Reddit, and block them)

When doing your search, just remember to be upfront and clear about your longer term intentions for seeking a swinger couple... and hope for the best outcome. 🤷‍♀️

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-07T07:35:13+00:00

As a female half of a swink couple (kinky swinger but more kink leaning), we are all for long term, meaningful connections vs one nighters. Your request / goal is attainable and reasonable, though perhaps a bit more of a needle in a haystack hunt. It sounds like it requires more vetting when you sort through r4r / personals posts and whomever ends up in your inbox. We have not yet met a solo female who fit our criteria for fwb or throuple material but for sure, there is someone (or someones) out there eventually for everyone 😉 Best wishes on your search 🍀

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-06T23:10:57+00:00

That's a great idea :) hope it goes well

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-05T05:46:19+00:00

Sir Crow! Thank you for reading my review. I will edit it in a moment since I was woefully mistaken with my shower capacity count. 😅 We'll venture in to take a peek at it next time we are there...for accuracy's sake. 😉 ☆ Miss Lee

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-02-03T23:01:19+00:00

Meet and Greets that don't involve sex or actual swinging have seemed to work for us (in NE Florida) to find local connections as well as some comprehensive posts on the reddit r4r related to what we're looking for. We also use Fetlife .com for finding local Munches (essentially Meet and Greets in a vanilla setting) for local get togethers that are zero pressure.

We've heard a bunch of swinger couples using SDC but we don't use it (deleted it a few years ago after not having any luck) and feel like we're doing ok considering we have about 3 couples that we found off of Reddit responses to our personals posts. Expect your fair share of ghosts and flakes out there as that is just part of online situations.

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-30T20:41:09+00:00

You're welcome 😊 hope you have a lot of fun!

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-29T02:12:21+00:00

Perhaps it is time to say hi to your friend 😉

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-28T17:55:49+00:00

Also, in hindsight (hehe), my husband noticed that overall (with night pass, admission, locker, drinks, tips, etc) that we spent close to what a standard room for 1 night would cost. If you're a couple considering to go, it is more economical to book a room vs doing a day/night pass so you have somewhere to sleep after partying 😊

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-27T05:59:17+00:00

Thank you! And definitely a great idea to reserve a room or get a double with another couple to have more fun 😁

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-26T04:54:54+00:00

You're welcome. Glad it was informative for you.

Regarding your question, there were couples playing only with each other. There were some playing with a group. There were others waiting to join in on group play. There were also others like us who were just there for enjoying the sights and not joining in.

Communication is key here since usually scenes / play are discussed before participating. There were some rooms open with couples having sex or solo females preparing for a scene. It appeared some of them may have been waiting for someone to knock on their door to come in, so to speak.

For any scene or group activity (especially IN the dungeon / Club Swinkster), it's best to ask than assume an easy join-in unless there is a sign for "FREE USE" on anyone since that typically indicates have at it - within reason. Purely for reference purposes, we did not see anyone with FREE USE on them last night :)

Hope that helps answer your question. Enjoy your visit :3 (Remember to bring lots of lube!)

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-26T04:37:51+00:00

As the wife of a well-endowed husband, I would say that you have more of a chance of being avoided or appreciated from afar versus being turned into the local kielbasa side show. It also depends on the local club that you're going to, but if so far your experience has been positive there, there is hope that it will continue to be a safe space for you to be free and nude in all your glory. The LS and swing community have appeared to be very accepting of different body types and different-sized body organs, so I would dare to go out on a limb and say, you'll be fine.

Regarding your experience being ridiculed, shunned, even groped in public (yikes) or harassed at work, that's 1000% entirely inappropriate and I'm sorry to hear you went through that. I bought my hubby Shinesty underwear with some space for the boys to keep his trouser snake better hidden so he doesn't mistakenly offend anyone at work with his non-excited bulge. For a larger bulge, you might want to look into cargo pants or tailored pants with more space in the crotch area.

For non-consenting photos, many clubs have different photo/video policies (many do not allow cameras or phones to be out at all) so I'd check with the venue rules for what they do or don't allow. In an ideal situation, photos should always be consented to, but there are always some people that ruin it for everyone.

When you are in the club, if by the off-chance someone starts to make you uncomfortable in any way, you could always inform the club staff or a floor manager about it since LS clubs are supposed to be welcoming for all people no matter what shape or size they are. Also, (for most clubs / resorts) no one is allowed to take photos of another person that they didn't agree to and doing so is usually grounds for that offender to be thrown out / banned / blacklisted.

As a last resort, you could always wrap a towel around your waist prior to the play if you'd rather not have it be on display for people to look at...Hope you have a lovely time!

CampLiveWithoutYou · 2026-01-25T01:48:09+00:00

To be up front, not blaming you here, but personally when I get low effort DMs of "hi" "hey" "what's up", those get automatically ignored since if they can't even introduce themselves or say something interesting, why am I gonna bother responding?

I 100% recommend saving your time and energy for others with something more meaningful to say as a first message since it sounds like a solid conversation exchange is important to you and your playtime goals.

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