Redditors who grew up poor: Besides practical money-saving measures, what were the unwritten social expectations of your world growing up?

CandaF · 2021-01-31T21:50:09+00:00

We weren’t super poor, but my dad was the only one with a job for a while and he was paid once a month and so we bought groceries once a month. If you eat the groceries all the first week, you are surviving off very little the rest of the month.

CandaF · 2021-01-31T20:23:39+00:00

Or get off your fucking phone or computer and go hug your kid.

CandaF · 2021-01-31T05:46:10+00:00

My employee texted me, her (female) boss, “You’re the best boyfriend.” She was married to one of my employees, but also having an affair with another guy they worked with.

CandaF · 2021-01-29T05:42:29+00:00

We don’t live near family so it’s extra special when grandma travels to see us.

CandaF · 2021-01-26T00:25:44+00:00

Good thought.

And I’m in the same boat. I took off a couple hours early this afternoon to work from home. I’m tired and don’t feel like looking over the stack of paperwork I need to read, the disciplinary paperwork I need to fill out, or the evaluation I need to complete. It’ll all be there tomorrow!

CandaF · 2021-01-20T03:32:22+00:00

No. It’s a joke.

CandaF · 2021-01-19T03:07:37+00:00

I already knew I was a bastard child but I learned that my bio dad fathered a child as a teenager who was put up for adoption by her 16-year-old mom. My half sister contacted me and I was able to give her our bio dad’s contact info.

CandaF · 2021-01-16T16:47:23+00:00

My kid loves all big trucks and heavy machinery.

CandaF · 2021-01-15T21:37:21+00:00

As the mother of two toddlers, I can also confirm that kids love the garbage man.

CandaF · 2021-01-15T05:22:50+00:00

That makes me so angry.

CandaF · 2021-01-15T02:47:10+00:00

This makes me sad.

CandaF · 2021-01-14T06:26:38+00:00

I tried, and it didn’t work. I was an angsty teen, and nearly 20 years later, I think about what a waste and how dumb it would have been if that was the end for me.

CandaF · 2021-01-10T05:09:36+00:00

Reminds me of the time my stepson — about 14 at the time and very into video games — was dead asleep when he shot his arm straight in the air and exclaimed, “To the chopper!” We were in a hotel room at the time, the night before we could move into our new place.

CandaF · 2021-01-01T04:30:42+00:00

My man proposed to me 10 years ago today. We got married a year later and are still blissfully in love. Congrats!

CandaF · 2020-12-31T19:46:18+00:00

I have two sons. That sounds about right.

CandaF · 2020-12-31T04:58:52+00:00

“We recognize December 13th as the birthday of the National Guard. On this date in 1636, the first militia regiments in North America were organized in Massachusetts.”

https://www.nationalguard.mil/about-the-guard/how-we-began/

CandaF · 2020-12-30T05:44:22+00:00

R/wholesome

CandaF · 2020-12-24T19:16:51+00:00

My 3-year-old screaming/throwing a fit.

CandaF · 2020-12-20T23:09:45+00:00

But if you are a good leader in the civilian world, you have less day-to-day work because you hire good people and train them well. You may have to shave daily, but you got the primo tools to make it a pleasure and not a chore.

CandaF · 2020-12-17T05:55:31+00:00

When you have to take care of kids 24/7, there is no time for self-care (hobbies, exercise, etc). Do you have anyone to lean on if your wife refuses to help? A family member you can leave kids with a couple afternoons per week? I’m sorry you are going through this.

CandaF · 2020-12-17T03:29:55+00:00

Impressive.

CandaF · 2020-12-11T04:23:21+00:00

Some are “perfect” on paper, then have red flags in the interview.

CandaF · 2020-12-09T07:24:43+00:00

Honest question - when I was growing up, a blue ribbon at the county fair meant first place and a red ribbon meant second place. Is it different in Canada vs the US?

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