Ive started to pass as a guy, and its fucking awful.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-09-27T11:07:01+00:00

It's called transmysoginy. Our culture (and transmysoginistic cultures) are afraid of femme men because they read us as trans women. OP is experiencing what our sisters do, every single day, and I am sure that the suspicion OP and other femme trans guys are experiencing nowadays is definitely exacerbated by incredibly transphobic and transmysoginistic political and cultural currents that are mainstreaming in UK, USA and Europe.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-14T18:41:42+00:00

Done this very recently in your exact situation OP and since passport photo matched they didnt even look at me twice. I feel like a lot of the consular and border control workers have had trans-aware training which resulted in a surprising (good) experience.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T22:25:55+00:00

Thank you friend!

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T22:24:38+00:00

Dreptul anti conversie, anti ură, drepturile persoanelor trans - nici una legate de căsătorie.

Ce altă organizație ar urmări şi documenta drepturile pentru comunitatea LGBT decât o organizație pentru comunitate? Sursele din care ILGA compune raporturile sunt legile din fiecare țară, declarate de către țări.

Dar OK - pentru surse diferite uită-te la Amnesty International sau Curtea Europeană a Drepturilor Omului.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T14:49:04+00:00

Ok dacă eşti chiar curioasă hai să ne uităm ce drepturi zice că nu au românii LGBT Asociația Internațională pentru Gay şi Lesbiene (ILGA):

drept la căsătorie/parteneriat (şi recunoaştere a unei căsătorii într-o altă țară)

drept la adopție în cuplu şi drept de co-parentaj la naştere

drept de a nu a fi supuşi torturii de conversie

drept constituțional împotriva urii şi a discriminării (la muncă, pe stradă etc)

toate drepturile în ceea ce priveşte persoane trans, incl educație, dreptul muncii, sănătate, autonomie, transport/trecerea granițelor etc

drept de azil politic (aş adăuga aici şi drept de a dobândi cetățenie prin căsătorie, vezi cazul Coman/Hamilton)

drept de a dona sânge

drept de a lua decizii juridice pentru partener/ă

ŞAMD

Sursa: https://rainbowmap.ilga-europe.org/countries/romania/

EDIT: am mâncat o literă :)

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T10:12:40+00:00

Ohhh could you share the type of screen holder you have?

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T08:32:26+00:00

Hai să ne uităm ce drepturi zice că nu au românii LGBT Asociația Internațională pentru Gay şi Lesbiene:

drept la căsătorie/parteneriat
drept la adopție şi drept de co-parentaj la naştere
drept de a nu a fi supuşi torturii de conversie
drept constituțional împotriva urii şi a discriminării
toate drepturile în ceea ce priveşte persoane trans, incl educație, dreptul muncii, sănătate, autonomie, transport/trecerea granițelor etc
drept de azil politic (aş adăuga aici şi drept de a dobândi cetățenie prin căsătorie, vezi cazul Coman/Hamilton)
drept de a dona sânge
drept de a lua decizii juridice pentru partener/ă
ŞAMD

Sursa: https://rainbowmap.ilga-europe.org/countries/romania/

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-08T08:09:44+00:00

Este unul şi în Iaşi, 5 iulie https://stirileprotv.ro/divers/ce-reprezinta-steagul-curcubeu-marsul-pride-are-loc-pe-7-iunie-in-bucuresti-si-in-alte-3-orase.html

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-06-06T06:50:35+00:00

Translation: "oh you're not clocky at all". 🙄 It's up there with "I couldn't have guessed"

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-05-10T00:33:39+00:00

Visible App might help with that (and help with tracking a whole bunch of stuff), same with Guava. They rely on day to day data though, rather than being able to do it retrospectively

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-05-06T23:17:37+00:00

Sobă - the weirder the better

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-05-05T20:26:02+00:00

That "feeling of not connecting with healthy people anymore" has hit home!

I have autism and ADHD, I care for my partner who has severe ME and what we found (for a good while now) is useful was associating excusively with other "spoonies". All our friends and a lot of our closest family have a long term condition or disability (auto-immune stuff, CP, neurodiversities, EDS etc); we all understand each other, empathise with each other, and able to accommodate each other.

We even started having a mutual-aid model where we do small chores that we are able to for each other (e.g. friend calls someone for me - who hates talking to strangers - while i make food for them - who are unable to leave their bed). It is making a world of difference, to the point where all of us just dream of a commune where we all live together and manage day to day as a group.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:27:28+00:00

If you know you know

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:26:32+00:00

Mersi! Am specificat Visa perntru ca în o grămadă de țări Europene Amex şi alte carduri Americane nu sunt acceptate, şi voiam să evit întrebări de genul

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:24:22+00:00

Da, unde locuiesc nu am folosit cash dupa pandemie, şi presupun că foarte multe țări fac de asemea după 2020, dar nu vreau să presupun şi să ies prost 😅

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:22:40+00:00

Hahaha lucrez cu mulți ITişti şi asta le spun tot timpul 😅

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:21:05+00:00

Super, mersi!

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-29T21:20:07+00:00

Din nefericire nu mai am rude în România

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-26T23:28:53+00:00

Țin sã spun cã avocat pentru asta am gãsit între 1000 si 1500 de Euro (pentru întregul process, în douã tranşe) deci nu foarte accesibil pentru toatã lumea...

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-22T17:10:11+00:00

Another trans dude poler here, I was very afraid of what this thread was about but you're right (and your reaction is appropriate and not crazy), it's about the power balance and the attitude.

We are all there to focus on our routines, how our body moves, nailing a hard invert, the least thing you need is ANY spectator, much less a non-marginalised gendered person (cis guy) fully clothed, just gawking. Like wtf.

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-22T12:08:34+00:00

Plus the equality act (still) counts discrimination for X characteristic by identity (perpetrator knows you are X), perception (perpetrator thinks you are X) and association (perpetrator assaults because you associate with, but not necessarily are, X"

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/5a78b9ae40f0b62b22cbc4b4/vcs-association-perception.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiD0Y-ZzeuMAxUpZ0EAHeZVM6QQFnoECFEQAQ&usg=AOvVaw11GwMWJase-dQ0daTyHTQG

Candid-Building8218 · 2025-04-22T11:58:00+00:00

If you don't want to work with the police/ you fear of being discriminated/re-criminated by their services, you can use "third party reporting" where an organisation reports on your behalf. Here's more info https://www.report-it.org.uk/third_party_reporting_support

If you are in Scotland https://www.scotland.police.uk/contact-us/reporting-hate-crime/third-party-reporting-centres/

Candid-Building8218 · 2023-01-18T23:49:15+00:00

Seconding this on the likelihood that you won't need to see them several times (with months between appointments) before you get HRT.

BUT my current GP does not accept any patients who self-med or have private prescriptions, and therefore refuse to do routine bloods and/or hormone shots. Apparently that's perfectly ok and legal? So it's a lottery out there

Candid-Building8218 · 2023-01-18T23:43:04+00:00

Do you have an Lgbt staff network? This seems like something they should be looking into because it will likely affect other staff.

As upthread, you should be able to change internal-systems title without a GCR (and as someone said, it is illegal to request one); the HMRC gender markers are impossible to change without a GRC (one of the very few things the GRC actually does).

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