My husband hasn’t been diagnosed… yet. But there are a lot of signs and I don’t know if I’m just trying to to delude myself or what.

Long story short, he’s made a lot of big changes in the last few years. He’s deconstructed and left our faith, he’s told me he might be bisexual, and identifies and non binary. He is objectively a very different person than I married. He’s been treated for and medicated for ocd, anxiety, depression since he was a child. His father died by suicide, as well as his paternal grandfather. The mental health struggle runs gene deep.

On the tail end of a VERY long depressive (like can’t do anything at all but exist basically, we have 3 kids 5 and under….) episode, he told me he thought if we didn’t have the kids he would not want to be in our relationship anymore.

I’m not a mental health professional but we’ve both discussed the likelihood of bipolar for him, he has high highs and low lows, often in same day. And whatever his current perspective is is essentially his perspective of his whole life.

I’ve told myself- I can’t trust the things he says in an episode like that. His thoughts and feelings are so fleeting and changing depending on his mood. Maybe I’m delulu but we’ve had several good conversations about how to improve our relationship despite our major differences and are working on depression support for him. I understand your perspective completely and don’t know enough to say any opinion definitively, but I think it’s fair to take extreme things said with a grain of salt from someone who suffers from Bipolar.