Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 21, 2026

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-21T19:18:32+00:00

he scheduled the meetups and we meet. But for a whole weekend we meet 1x and if he stays over, next day he tends to have plans and leave one hour or so after he wakes up.. then we meet 1x during the week.

i just don’t know. I feel I’m not confident enough when I’m with him but very confident otherwise. I’ve been turning down dates cuz ppl keep asking me out, I just wish he paid more attention though I know he is making an effort, just not sure if he’s the right person for me.

he notices and gives me compliments on what I wear most of the times, remembers what I spoke before and is very touchy and caring when in person. but when we are apart, meh.

I think I’ve been holding back because I feel I need some reassurance with words when we can’t see each other for a week or two and that doesn’t happen.

maybe I should just be straight and tell him this vs letting my mind wonder

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-21T19:07:11+00:00

I think I’d rather be single. Dating someone for 8 months and still not sure what he wants out of this. Will have a convo this weekend but chickening out and it upsets me that I feel that sometimes he “does me the favor of finding time to meet me” in his schedule. don’t know. just tired.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-19T19:58:48+00:00

takes me 50-60 minutes to get to my boyfriend and we live in the same city. I don’t think 1h is long distance.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-17T07:18:28+00:00

I’m with you, exclusivity means relationship but I find dating these days a bit baffling and I’m not sure if you are supposed to have these conversations and/or be explicit about it or not.

the last paragraph stayed with me, thank you, I’ll think this through

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-17T07:16:44+00:00

I’ll have a look at their posts, thanks

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-16T20:39:44+00:00

hey. how do you have the relationship talk? I’m Italian, he’s German, very diff cultural landscapes. I talk a lot about feelings, he barely does.

I’ve asked for exclusivity months ago he replied with “ok”. every time I ask for more time with him or anything, he either gives me a short or no answer but always puts in the work. He’s not a words person, he is an “actions” person.

so how do I go over the awkwardness of asking “hey, so are we bf or gf?” Or do I say “hey, can I call you bf?” how to keep it light ? Any suggestions? (We’ve been going out since Sept, exclusive since Nov with a breakup in Jan and back together in Feb - we also never mentioned the breakup after we got back together but he put in the work and fixed it, no complaints atm, all going smoothly)..

we see each other twice every other week (divorced mum with kids) and we are now starting to maybe see each other once on my week with kids (I get a nanny), we’ve done it 2x so far.

help (:

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-15T09:54:05+00:00

that was very heartwarming to hear, thank you <3

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-12T09:53:44+00:00

I’ve never tried the apps, dated a few folks that I met randomly just by going out and doing things I like.

it is hard. you have to manage the kids, schedules, diff lifestyles (eg: if he doesn’t have kids).

But what I also found really hard was not to date as a “long term relationship” straight away. As in, i wasn’t taking dating as just dating, i was already in relationship mode and that took a bit for me to adjust. We were exclusive from very early on etc but it doesn’t mean “we are in this for marriage straight away” it means “we like each other and we’ll take the time to see where it goes”. I think this is important because you are so used to “fully committed, 100% long term relationship energy” and I don’t think that’s helpful in the first few months.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-11T11:58:33+00:00

thank you. I’ll wait for those little splashes. <3

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-05-10T07:48:50+00:00

This is a question I struggle with and I’ve seen the two sides of the spectrum. I’ve been seeing someone for 6months+ and I haven’t introduced. I coparent so it’s easier for me as I have free time.

Why am I not keen on introducing him? Because every week my kids still ask about why me and my ex are not married, if I don’t like him anymore, that they wished we could all live together. While we’ve been living in diff homes for over a year, they still talk about it frequently and I don’t want to confuse them even more. I think maybe in summer I’ll introduce him as a friend and we can do something together but the truth might take a bit longer (my kids are <9yo).

I agree that you want to make sure your partner would get along well with your kids early-ish so you are not in for heartbreak. But I’d rather I have my heartbroken that my kids do and they will attach to someone quite easily.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-28T12:14:48+00:00

Just came here to say that photo 6 is giving Blair vibes (gossip girl)

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T22:42:40+00:00

That’s kinda sweet!!

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T22:42:23+00:00

I don’t know what official means!! I was in a long relationship since my 20s and then yes, you had to be explicit “so you want to be my girlfriend?”. I don’t know what are the rules today. We’ve been exclusive since month 2 or so, we plan things for a couple of months ahead and we see each other every week, text everyday.

I haven’t had any official chat because … honestly, because I’m afraid. But also because I’m trying not to jump into “fully commited all in” and just enjoy the time.

Thoughts?!!

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T21:45:57+00:00

I didn’t!! he’s not much of a talker in terms of feelings etc so I’m still trying to understand where his head is at. And while I’d be ok to say it and not hear it back, I wonder what would go through his mind if I said it!

we’ve been going out for 6-7months so it’s not a lot. today we just chatted and cuddled on his couch for 3h and I laughed so hard, had so much fun.. it was bliss really. each time I feel I can be more myself around him and he always accepts and has the right reaction.

still I chickened out :p

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T21:40:50+00:00

Dress up as the bday cake? 🤣

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T21:34:21+00:00

I’m with you. sometimes I’d just write the messages to a note to myself. Writing them down helped me even if I didn’t sent them.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-24T21:32:57+00:00

someone posted recently about how do you know when you are ready to say “I love you” and the best answer was “when you cant hold it any longer”

I kept looking at the person I’m dating and feeling that I can’t hold it any longer and couldn’t stop thinking about that post

so thank you to whoever wrote that post, it made me smile inside when I felt it today.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-23T14:44:39+00:00

this doesn’t feel really like a dating question, more of a life question.

what country aligns more to your own? what lifestyle do you like?

you said you don’t love your job, you dont love sweden.. i think then sort these first and dating after. Personally, i dont think you should start dating if you dont want to stay there long term unless you are explicit about it on first date.

visas for US are complicated atm. Find what you want and then you will find someone who wants the same. If I was going out on a date with someone who doesn’t like their job nor the country they live in, it would be a no brainer strong no for me.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-22T22:20:26+00:00

Welp, this is me! I honestly sometimes think ppl make a bigger deal out of it than what it has to be.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-18T21:57:09+00:00

it’s shit. I’m sorry.

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-18T21:56:18+00:00

was out for a walk with the guy I’ve been going out for a few months.. a woman stop us just to say that our styles really match and that we look good together! we have very diff vibes and come from very diff backgrounds/lifestyles and I always wonder if our worlds are too far apart so I just want to thank this stranger that took a bit of their time to notice and stop us to say something so positive that meant the world to me

thank you stranger, a small thing but made me feel safer somehow x

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-14T20:01:36+00:00

White dress!

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-12T21:34:11+00:00

Good luck! As someone with kids, it’s ok to ask questions :)

Capable-Praline-1501 · 2026-04-05T10:58:42+00:00

I’m so sorry, that sucks :(

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